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Daily Morning Lesson: October 21, 2025 

Part 1: Recorded lesson - Dec 19, 2021

Baal HaSulam. Shamati 203. Man’s Pride Shall Bring Him Low

Reader: Hello friends, in the first part of today's lesson, we'll watch a recorded lesson from the 19th of December, 2021, Baal HaSulam, Shamati 203, “Man's Pride Shall Bring Him Low.” 

Reader: We're reading from the writings of Baal HaSulam, Shamati, Article 203, “Man's Pride Shall Bring Him Low.” You can send questions, and relevant questions may be aired during the lesson, “Man's Pride Shall Bring Him Low.” 

M. Laitman: We learned the wisdom of Kabbalah, especially from the articles of Shamati, various directions,and directives. Meaning information that guides us on how to advance more and more toward the goal. And we advance not in steps, but in always improving ourselves, correcting ourselves, adapting ourselves, more and more, to the Creator's nature. In addition to the request, to the prayer, we also need additional information. How can we truly change ourselves so that we would feel such phenomena? In such phenomena that when we attain these phenomena, we become closer, more suitable, more fitting for the Creator. There are those discernments in it that we feel in ourselves, and there are such discernments we cannot feel. We need to feel, need to believe that if we do it this way, we will advance and one of the principal things, most important things that separate us from the Creator is the matter of lowliness and pride. If we know how to properly arrange them. Both pride and lowliness have to be in a person, since this is what the Creator created.

But how to relate to these two qualities? How to arrange them so that we would optimally, and in the fastest way possible? We can use them to come closer to the Creator. We know in our lives as well what is called pride and what is called lowliness. It happens to us, both when we're up, when we're down, how we feel ourselves more or less towards other people, towards something, towards ourselves. Accordingly, we need to scrutinize now how work in pride and lowliness can help us to approach the Creator, resemble the Creator, and be adhered with the Creator. So let's read it and think about it. It's a short article. The idea is seemingly simple, but if we pay attention and we realize it, we work with it correctly, then we orient ourselves significantly towards the Creator. 

Reader: Shamati 203, Man’s Pride Shall Bring Him Low.

Reading: (04:11) Shamati 203. Man’s Pride Shall Bring Him Low- Twice

I heard on Sukkot Inter 2, October 12, 1938

“Man’s pride shall bring him low.” It is known that a man is born in utter lowliness. However, if the lowly one knows his place then he does not suffer for being low, as this is his place. For example, the legs are not at all degraded because they are always walking in the litter and must carry the full weight of the body, whereas the head is always above, since because they know their place. Hence, the legs are not at all degraded and do not suffer for being on a low degree.

Yet, if they had wanted to be on top but were forced to be below, they would feel the suffering. This is the meaning of “Man’s pride shall bring him low.” If one wants to remain in one’s lowliness, he does not feel any lowliness, meaning no suffering that “Man is born a wild ass’s colt.” But when they want to be proud they feel the lowliness, and then they suffer.

Suffering and lowliness go hand in hand. If one feels no suffering, it is considered that he has no lowliness. It is precisely according to the measure of one’s pride, or that he wants to be but is not, so he feels the lowliness. This lowliness later becomes a Kli [vessel] for pride, as it is written, “The Lord reigns; He wears pride.” If they adhere to the Creator, they have a clothing of pride, as it is written, “Pride and glory are to the One who lives forever.” Those who adhere to the One who lives forever have much pride. And to the extent that he feels the lowliness, and according to the measure of his suffering, so he is rewarded with the clothing of the Creator.

Reading Again: (07:09) Shamati 203. Man’s Pride Shall Bring Him Low

M. Laitman: Meaning, if a person removes the suffering, meaning he's not suffering for himself, but rather because the Creator is not high enough in his eyes. He's not wearing pride enough, then he can check how much he advances, how suitable he is, to what extent he's placing this garment on the Creator, where according to this garment, where he feels himself lowly towards the Creator.

Accordingly, the Creator becomes greater in his eyes according to the garment the person builds in Him, and creates for Him. And we can see accordingly how much we're advancing. In other words, to take the pride from oneself and pass it on to the Creator, and take his lowliness also to the Creator, but in an opposite manner, meaning that we are prepared to suffer from our own lowliness. Let it suffer, our body, meaning our ego, as long as by that I'm bringing myself to the correct state: who am I, compared to the upper force. And then, each time I work on man's pride, I should bring him low, meaning I see everywhere I turn my pride, and accordingly I feel specifically my lowliness, and to the extent I can rise above it and advance, then this pride of mine becomes lowliness, and in its place I feel the Creator, who is high. In this way I replace or exchange my clothing to bestowal. Because what can you be proud of with the clothing of the Creator. I want to clothe in Him, I want to adhere to Him, and whatever He has, I am prideful of that, and I see myself advancing in this way.

Question (Merkaz 1): (13:04) What can help a person discover his lowliness? 

M. Laitman: That he lowers himself, humiliates himself before the friends. Rabash writes about it also in the “Shamati” articles and the “Social Writings”. The more zeros he has before the one, he advances, he exchanges his false pride with his true lowliness, because who is he, other than a will to receive? 

Question (Baltia 1): (13:48) We were created in a state of lowliness, but each one is proud of his beastliness?

M. Laitman: Where? In the group? 

Student: No, in general, in life. We are prideful towards each other, and when we begin the spiritual work, do I feel more pride? 

M. Laitman: You may enter a true spiritual work on the condition that you learn correctly how to use your pride. Also, within the framework that you have in the group. There you are not ashamed, you are not concealed, but rather you can humiliate yourself before the friends openly, and this is actually good. Just don't turn that into a form of pride. Look how great I am, how low I can go, how much I can humiliate myself. That's a lie. Rather try each time, more and more, to see yourself, to see yourself and show yourself as lower as more humiliated before the friends. That's good, but only in the group. Everywhere else, we need to remain, to behave like everyone, meaning I'm not putting any pressure, I'm not showing any pride, I'm being neutral as much as needed according to my role, that's how I need to behave.

In a group, each one needs to try and lower himself, humiliate himself, and by that we are approaching, or at least we see examples between us, and we feel on ourselves what it means to humiliate himself before the Creator. Whatever we have towards the friends, we can then pass it on towards the Creator. 

Question (ITA 3): (16:27) What does it mean that pride and lowliness go hand in hand? Are these not two different emotions? 

M. Laitman: They are opposite, but they clothe our ego, our will to receive. It's like in the ocean, the highs and the lows, the high tide and the low tide; and it's the same with us, they clothe our ego, and according to the force of the ego in a person. Accordingly we rise in our pride or we fall. And when we fall we also fall from our pride to lowliness. 

What we do need to do is to replace our values, so we would measure it not relative to us, but relative to the Creator. The higher the Creator is in my eyes, and accordingly, as the Lord reigns, He wears pride, as much as I can feel accordingly that I am falling, also the Creator is falling in my eyes, and accordingly I glue myself to the Creator, I am proud that the Creator is great in my eyes, He is proud. And the lower the Creator is seen in my eyes, this means that I am falling, and I am in lowliness. This is a measurement of adhesion, when I go up and down according to how much the Creator in my eyes is going up and down, and I work on it. 

Student: What should pride be based on? The greatness of the Creator? 

M. Laitman: What do you mean, to base our pride on? I need to feel proud that I have an opportunity to replace the lowliness and pride that exists in the average person when he feels himself relative to others. I don't measure myself relative to the others. I measure myself relative to the Creator. As much as I can be in a state where I humiliate myself toward the friends and toward the Creator. Where the friends are the medium between me and the Creator, then I can check how much I am advancing towards a state where I am completely glued to the Creator. As big as He seems in my eyes, I think I am big. As lowly as He is in my eyes, God forbid, I think that I am lowly. I am lowly. That's the matter of adhesion.

Question (Unity 4): (20:21) What is the state between pride and lowliness? Is that correct state towards the Creator and the friends? 

M. Laitman: Whatever you feel towards the friends is what you feel towards the Creator. If I am in a state of pride or lowliness relative to myself, to the friends, to the Creator, then relative to the friends and relative to the Creator is the same. It's one and the same. To the extent that I appreciate and that I value the group, the friends, then in the same way, for certain, I appreciate the Creator. 

Question (ITA 4): (21:13) Why do we use the word “lowliness” or “humiliation”,  “to humiliate?” I feel it is a very tough word that I don't want to accept. Why this term? 

M. Laitman: Try to imagine that you feel yourself at a certain height, which is you. You feel yourself, your self-worth and everything you have in life. And suddenly, you are being humiliated. You are being humiliated. And you are humiliated justly. It's not that the police come and arrest you, and you are certain that you don't deserve it. So, you haven't lost your place, so to speak. But let's say that you have been caught. After 20 years, you have done something improper, inappropriate. Then you feel the humility before everyone, before the children. This is the meaning of a person being in lowliness. 

The question is, should we come to know those things or not? So, they tell me, if I glue myself to the Creator, if I adhere to Him. Then the more I go through these stages, through the states of humiliation I take them as help to be adhered to the Creator, and this is the matter of man's lowliness should save him, and man's pride should bring him low. But this is only in the group. In the group, we should behave according to the laws of the spiritual world. Whereas relative to the outsiders, to the whole world, we don't need to show ourselves in this way.

Question (KabU 3): (23:50) In a practical way, how to humble yourself before the Creator?

M. Laitman:  Towards the friends, towards what Kabbalists write to us, to keep with our obligation in the Ten, first of all - this has to be. And to the extent I try to do this, I am ready and willing to connect to the friends and do what we decide according to the rules of society that Rabash writes about. This for me is the first step by which I'm already trying to be humble. As Rabash writes, how many zeros have to be before the one, how many ones before the zero? Remember, there's an article like that. And then accordingly, we say that I can be zero towards them. But in spirituality, it's the other way around. It's how much I can grow until I reach the true zero, and then I begin to enter spirituality. Only in that condition. Because in such a relationship between a man and his friends he can check himself to what extent he has a screen or not, where is he, what's his place? If I can hold myself towards the friends in such a way that I simply annul myself towards them, it means that I'm willing to annul myself towards the Creator, towards the upper light. 

Meaning, I've reached a state of restriction. And then beyond the restriction, I begin to grow and bestow. How to give myself, how to humiliate myself in practice, meaning to perform acts of bestowal. That's how we advance in spirituality. We have to think about those words. I don't want to overinterpret them, so it won't push back or scare some of our newer friends. But think about it. Because the spiritual world is an upside down world - there He, who is lower, is higher. This is relative to one's ego. Each and every one needs to see himself to feel himself. You cannot see it on the outside, rather if you see it from the outside it is a sign that the person is not doing it on the inside. That's why the wisdom of Kabbalah is called the wisdom of the concealed.

Question (ITA 2): (27:18) What is the connection between the greatness of my friends and the greatness of the Creator?

M. Laitman: I can say about the friends, that the Creator gave me room to adapt myself to Him, to the Creator. The way I relate to my friends is how I'm, seemingly, willing to relate to the Creator. That's why it's written: “From love of people to love the Creator.” And the difference is that the attitude towards the friends is more important than the attitude towards the Creator. Because on the one hand, of course, the attitude towards the Creator obligates me. That's on a global level, generally speaking. But on the other hand, my attitude to the friends in practice determines how I truly relate to the Creator. 

Question (Spain 2): (29:03) What does it mean that suffering and lowliness go hand in hand? What does that mean? 

M. Laitman: It's good, because if I were lowly, but I couldn't feel that it's lowliness, because I couldn't, I wouldn't feel suffering in that state, then what good would that do to me? I would remain in lowliness and never understand that it is lowliness. As he says further, legs that constantly walk in the litter and all those dirty places, but they don't feel degraded because that's their place. That's how they were born, that's how they exist, that's how they grew up. That's why when we rise from this world to the spiritual world, we constantly need to think, where are we? How are we arranging ourselves? That's why lowliness and pride should be a form of measurement for us. Are we taking this measurement from ourselves towards the Creator, or according to how the Creator appears in my eyes? 

So I measure myself: how do I know it, relative to the Creator? The Creator is never attained, but only relative to the society, to the vessel. So I have to arrange myself towards the vessel, towards the group, the Ten. And accordingly, I check. The more the friends are greater and greater in my eyes - together with the fact that I also feel how lowly they are, like the students of Rav Shimon who wanted to kill one another - then according to how many states I go through and I feel them in practice, this is the indication for my advancement. But if I cannot feel the friends with each passing day, or I relate to them correctly, but just to a small extent, it doesn't matter much, it doesn't bother me enough, then I don't advance, I don't advance towards the Creator. My attitude towards the friends has to be in contrast to my pride and my lowliness. And these relationships indicate how much I can also be in the same relationship towards the Creator. And here we surely need to keep ourselves on our toes, not let ourselves rest, and see where the pride of the group, the greatness of the group, the importance of the group has to be greater and greater in my eyes, greater and greater felt as the main thing in life. This means that I'm beginning to appreciate the Creator, to value Him, and to relate to Him more and more correctly, properly. And if together with that I feel my lowliness, all the better. In practice, I need to humiliate myself before the friends, and in this way I also humiliate myself towards the Creator, and I'm willing to do everything the Creator wants, and there are various actions that we need to keep, to implement. And we will need to keep, because the Creator wants us to do this, and I have nothing special in those actions that would give me joy, or make me scared, or on the contrary, be positively impressed. Rather, are all those things that we'll have to do, and they are all spiritual actions, where I have no taste in order to bestow, and through the friends I need to learn how to do it, and how to enjoy the fact that my body can't feel, at least, or even suffers. And I enjoy since I'm doing it for the sake of the Creator, and by that I can measure my pride and my lowliness, and accordingly I begin to receive new discernments from my states, my spiritual states. 

Question (Baltia 4): (34:36) Is there pride in spirituality? 

M. Laitman: Pride in spirituality is when I feel proud about how great the Creator is in my eyes. In order to see the Creator great in my eyes, I need to lower myself, humiliate myself. How will I feel that He is great? In what? I cannot discover Him, but rather to the extent I can lower myself towards Him by taking upon myself various orders, commands from the society, from the Creator, and I try to do them. And by that, I lower myself, and then in that, I attain the pride of the Creator, the greatness of the Creator. Meaning here, I measure how great the Creator is in my eyes, and how much I can humiliate myself. And that's how we advance. We will learn, and those are very precise measurements we have in spirituality. Otherwise, we can't enter the spiritual world. 

Question (Kyiv 3): (36:26) Is it correct that each friend in the Ten, each one in his own level, some higher, some lower, but everyone must long to be the heel? 

M. Laitman: Yes, yes, Rabash explains it to us, about the zero relative to the one, the one relative to the zero, and we learn about it. 

Student: According to this article, it turns out that if I am the heel, I will have no problem to lower my head, but if my friend is the head, it will be more difficult for him.

M. Laitman: Then, none of us is neither heel nor head, rather each one of us needs to arrange himself in this way. The lower a person can make himself, because he's all pride, the ego, then the more he humiliates himself in practice towards the friends, he then humiliates, lowers his ego towards them, and by that he's starting to grow in him the other measurement, the spiritual measurement. The more he's a zero, then he's indeed higher, and we can feel proud about that. According to the measure of personal humiliation, a person can be proud of what he reached. This determines the height of his spiritual degree. 

Student: Yesterday you said, we should be as one, as organs in one body, and also, that each one is greater than his friend, his inclination is greater than himself. So, I don't know how to ask it, each who is greater has more suffering and is longing to be healed, to nullify? 

M. Laitman: Of course, of course. A person comes to us to study. If he has a small desire, in the beginning, then he doesn't feel that many sufferings, he doesn't feel so many disturbances, and he advances, like the majority, majority of the friends in Bnei Baruch. If he is an especially big egoist, and he feels difficulty, he doesn't understand all the spiritual discernments, he's not refined, pure, he's not spiritual, he doesn't grasp spirituality so much.

He's got a strong desire, but this desire is opposite to spirituality for the time being. And so, although his desire is strong, it doesn't quite make it to spirituality. And there are those people who have a small desire, but this desire doesn't separate them from spirituality so much compared to that one with a big desire, the big ego. Hence he feels himself advancing slower. He can't hear, he cannot feel what they hear and feel. For them, it's as if they are more spiritual, they're more successful, and he's not so. I see it on them. They shake their heads, they try, but they don't advance much according to external discernments, because their ego is big, it's not letting them take a step forward, and another step, and another step. It's very difficult. And time passes, if they don't leave. Then after a long time, his friends start to feel various discernments a long time ago, and they're seemingly blossoming in spirituality, and they're advancing, and they're connecting between them. He can't feel it. He cannot feel that he needs to connect with them. 

He can't feel that spirituality is attained within the friends. It takes even dozens of years before a person leaves, or rather, refuses to leave and begins to acquire the first spiritual discernments. It's because his ego is heavy. That's what he got from the system of Adam HaRishon. Later, he goes forward, and he will have great big vessels, but his start and his entire path is much more difficult. Well, what can he do? He who is greater than his friend, his inclination is greater. But when will it be greater? When he overcomes his entire desire, inclination. 

Student: We become one body specifically through yearning to be the heel? 

M. Laitman: Yes, we become one system, one body, and to the extent that we are annulling ourselves towards society, towards our group, our Ten. Only in this way can we begin to connect between us, and to the extent that each one is trying to connect, to that extent we enter spirituality. And that's why here, the condition of, one should help his friend. I don't help anyone. I help myself, because I'm building the system, the Ten, since the Creator is revealed in the Ten. And here, the advancement of the friend is more important to me than my own advancement, and I need to worry about everyone. Since our success depends on everyone, for our boat not to drown in the stormy seas. We need to bring those things to the feeling, and feel ourselves alive. 

Question (Turkiye 1): (43:58) I don't want to see my lowliness. What do I have to do to see it? Should I pray? 

M. Laitman: You need to try to practically humiliate yourself before the friend. Agree with what they're saying. Try to do what they want to do. Anything you're capable of doing together with them, you have to do.

Question (ITA 1): (44:48) If a friend in the Ten doesn't know if he's showing his lowliness in an exaggerated manner or a wrong manner, what can the Ten do to help? 

M. Laitman: To set an example, a clear example for that person, for what the Ten expects of him.

Question (Latin 2): (45:36) Is pride and lowliness clothing of annulment in the Ten? 

M. Laitman: Correct. Pride and lowliness are called in the wisdom of Kabbalah clothing, garments. The more we can clothe in them, we feel that we are clothed in them, to that extent we can measure ourselves. And only according to our pride or lowliness can we measure our degree, our efforts, our attitude towards the friends and the Creator. Everything according to this garment. 

Question (Tel Aviv 4): (46:36) The ego is willing to humiliate itself only when there is a good calculation behind it, when it pays off. So how can you know if you lower yourself correctly? 

M. Laitman: That's beautiful, the fact that the ego wants to be in pride, and a person understands he needs to be in lowliness towards the Creator or the Ten, which are one and the same. Then a person needs to practically humiliate himself, lower himself towards the friends. And Rabash writes about it, Baal HaSulam also writes. We have to find these sources. He writes that it helps, practically, to lower oneself before the friends, and that's how we can advance. To lower, meaning to accept what they are deciding, to do what they agree on, to be like a baby in their hands, on one hand. On the other hand, to try to integrate among them as best as you can and do what they decide. At least in that you are advancing together with them. That's the minimal condition, the initial condition. And later, more and more according to your investment in being together with them.

Student: But it's only when it pays off that I'm able to do it. 

M. Laitman: So you should make a calculation of what pays off. Make a calculation. Does it pay off to listen to your ego, or it pays off, pays more to listen to Kabbalists, who would recommend you do such and such things. You have to make the calculation yourself. 

Student: But the ego tells me that it's worthwhile to lower myself now, because I'm going to get something in reward.

M. Laitman: Okay, so for the time being you are like that. It's called Lo Lishma. But at least it is in the right direction, you are still working in a part of the world called Lo Lishma [not for Her sake]. It's like when you tell a child, if you study, well, I'm going to buy you a ball. And then he studies in order to get a ball. But for the time being, he studies and he becomes smarter. In place of the ball that he wants me to get him a computer, and so on and so forth. This is called from Lo Lishma to Lishma. Lo Lishma, not for her sake. The child learns to study to get a ball and his desire changes as a result of the study towards a computer. This is called, let's say, Lishma in his state. 

Student: And a good result from lowering yourself towards the friends, is it joy or the opposite, that the ego suffers? 

M. Laitman: The ego should suffer. Look at him, you should be glad that he's suffering. Rabash used to say like that. He used to point at himself, at his ego, and say, “Let it suffer,” with contempt. We need to try and peel oneself from the ego, or peel the ego off of him, and see these things as two. It's not the same thing. You are not the ego. The ego is attached to you, and you need to peel it off, to truly remove this garment of lowliness in its place. You are dressing in the Creator's pride, the greatness of the Creator in your eyes. This is a feeling that we will gradually acquire. 

Question (Kyiv 1): (51:05) A man makes an effort to nullify himself towards the friends, to be lowly towards them. What does it mean to reach the clothing of the Creator? 

M. Laitman: He wants to be in the same pride as when he's clothing in the Creator, when he appreciates the Creator, that this should also be his clothing. He feels pride in how he's raising the Creator above his head. 

Student: How does he raise the Creator above his own head? How? 

M. Laitman: He prefers it this way. He tries to do it forcefully, I mean potentially, and then in practice. But he should do these exercises. If I can't do them in my feeling, then at least I can do them in my mind, in my intellect, and gradually it goes from my mind to the feeling. 

Question (Moscow 1): (52:19) Clothing, the clothing of the Creator brings to lowliness, or the other way around? What comes first? 

M. Laitman: The more we raise the Creator, then against that we'll be able to lower, humiliate ourselves. And this humiliation of ourselves will be a constructive humiliation, not the kind that as a result will have no strength or anything. We need to be careful not to lower ourselves, but only relative to the greatness of the Creator in our eyes. Otherwise, it will be, you know, there are many such faiths and belief systems where people would humiliate themselves, degrade themselves, throw dirt and waste on themselves in order to show everyone how much they feel lowliness. But in truth, it would only raise their pride inside of them. 

Question (Almaty 1): (53:56) On the Creator's part, how does the Creator want to see the pride in a corrected fashion? 

M. Laitman: Because you cleave to Him and you are proud about the connection you have with Him. That's it. 

Question (Tel Aviv 1): (54:25) From listening to the text, it feels like when I used to look at great athletes with this huge confidence, and on the other hand, they're humble in that they have to work hard to attain everything. Is that similar? 

M. Laitman: No, because they have the goal of self pride, how great they should be. We are in it to a small extent, but our greatness is in how much we can be adhered to the great Creator through the friends of the great group. The more will be in zero relative to the group and the Creator, by that will be great, as a result of the adhesion. Our goal is the adhesion. Through the adhesion, we get it. 

Student: But we also need to conduct ourselves with self confidence, right?

M. Laitman: The confidence will come from adhesion. Everything is attained from the adhesion.

Question (PT 31): (55:45) Sometimes we see that the Creator humiliates a friend through suffering. What's the right attitude of the Ten to that kind of lowliness? 

M. Laitman: In any place, any state, you have to help the friend, lend a shoulder, help him be with him in his place in order to save him from that. It doesn't matter where is he getting all those philosophies around it. It doesn't matter. If I can help a friend, I don't care about the reasons or the states, I must help him. That’s it. Just as I would have wanted to do it to myself, similarly, I have to help him. There are no philosophies here, there are no calculations. Imagine that in place of your friend, it's your beloved baby and everything you want to do to him, and do the same to the friend. 

Question (PT 35): (57:13) Every day that passes, I feel how much I can't be without the friends. I'm worthless without them. I really feel that the friends are my strength. The question is, if it's recognizing my lowliness, or pride that I was given the best thing from the Creator?

M. Laitman: Pride and lowliness go hand in hand, and one doesn't cancel the other, like in our world. It doesn't cancel. It's like in a spiritual Partzuf, we have coarseness, and we cannot have refinement without coarseness. You just need to have restrictions, the screen, reflected light, the correct intention - all in all, and the greater, the coarser you are in your foundation, the more of an egoist you are, then you can turn it, when it's refined with the intention to resemble the Creator. So there's no fear here that the pride of a person should lower him. On the contrary, there will be more pride, more pride will be revealed, and we will turn it into lowliness, humility, and refinement. You're capable of doing it. According to what I'm feeling now, what I'm hearing now, let's see what's going on with women. Women have a problem with pride, that's much greater, because according to nature, it's a different kind of pride. It's not the same as men's. 

Question (W German): (59:13) I don't feel the lowliness towards the friends, I just act out in front of them. Do I need to ask the Creator to make me feel true lowliness? 

M. Laitman: Yes, beautiful, you should do that.

Question (W PT 25): (59:33) How can I measure myself to see that I'm truly lowering myself towards the friends, or it just seems to me that way? 

M. Laitman: Even when it seems to you this way, you have to do it. You have to do everything so the friends will also see that I am humiliating myself towards them, yes? And then you can see how much they appreciate my humiliation towards them, or how prideful they are, and they begin to show themselves as greater relative to me. Accordingly, we can see where they are. A person needs to greatly appreciate the lowliness of the friend towards the Ten, and support it, and learn from it. 

Question (W PT 17): (01:00:35) If I tried to lower myself towards the friend, but she laughs at me and takes pride, my confidence is hurt, what do I do? 

M. Laitman: Continue to humiliate myself towards the Ten. Even a Ten that is small and is not capable of appreciating my efforts, I expect nothing from them. I only thank the Creator for having the possibility, the opportunity to humiliate myself before the people that He chose, because ultimately it's the Creator who's arranging everything behind the scenes. We can't see it now, but we will see it later, how the Creator arranges everything. There's nothing besides Him, and in the Ten, it's even more. Therefore, I need to humiliate myself even more in the Ten, and then to continue. And I'll see how they will change. We should not forget here that, what does it mean that they change? It's the extent to which I change accordingly, I'll see them changing. There are no friends here. There's a certain demonstration of the Creator towards me, and if I humiliate myself towards them, it means that I humiliate myself towards the Creator, and the Creator will change them, will play with them towards me in my eyes. So, I see that they change for the better, for the worse, depending on what I need. Think about it. There's no group, there's nothing, there's nothing besides Him, and there's I who needs to recognize it, and the group is in the middle. Through the group, I'm going to get to know the Creator. So, there are no friends here. There's, in all the ways, the Creator is revealing Himself before me, and the more I relate to them, that's how I relate to the Creator. And the way they relate to me is how the Creator relates to me, and I don't have in practice what to work with except for the Ten. I relative to the ten, and the Ten relative to me, and the Creator is concealed behind them. Until I begin to see in all the friends, and women, men, I begin to see the Creator's attitude, that's like the inner force that exists in the Ten, the light that fills all the connections, the relationships between us. We will approach these things and come to them in practice, and fairly soon. 

Question (W MAK 25): (01:03:56) With what inner intention should we correctly receive the respect I get in the Ten for dissemination or other activities I do? 

M. Laitman: I need to accept the respect, and the good attitude from the Ten, and show them that I'm very grateful, and it's very important to me. Just like a person who receives a gift, he cannot say, you brought me a gift, fine I'll take it. Of course it's improper. It's that nice, regardless of the gift. If a person labored and brought me something, I have to accept it with a smile, show how important it is to me, and so on and so forth, because this increases the peace in the world, it increases the good connection in the world, and that's how I must relate to what the friends are doing for me, or... 

Question (W Chile, Rehovot): (01:05:08) How from a state of lowliness, when my pride is hurt, how do I achieve equivalence of form to the Creator?

M. Laitman: I position myself neutrally. First, this is called the place of the judge, the judge has to be neutral. And I look at what there is, and from that place, I begin to judge things, to evaluate things, and then you'll see how these things acquire a different form. It's like a theater, when there's a scene, there's a stage, and the characters in certain act are acting, and I can change those things, I can see it more internally, how the Creator is doing it, we'll see it later. It's an advanced example, but from that, we'll see a new reality.

Song: (01:06:34)