How can we imagine what bestowal is? You have a group. When you are in it, you are told that loving your friends will lead you to love the Creator. Bestowing to your friends will lead to giving to the Creator.

Why? Because when you act among them as if you are actually on the level of souls, in final correction, you attract the surrounding light from the upper world (Ohr Makif) to yourself.

The upper, that is, the higher degree, called the “upper Partzuf,” shows a person a glimpse of bestowal in a form it exists at a higher level. It manifests in two stages. First, the upper shows you a little of the light in it, of the pleasure in it. If you are inspired by it, want it, are drawn to it, we call it ascent.

After that, it brings you descent and gives you a slight sense of its Kelim. And what are its Kelim? Its Kelim are for the sake of bestowal.

These two kinds of impressions of the upper, give you two extremes. What kind of light is there? Suppose there is light there, but that is not exactly what is there. And what kind of Kli is there? Then you realize how much you love the light, and how much you dislike that Kli.

Between these two extremes, through study and effort, a person performs a series of actions and arrives at a state in which he attains the upper.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/7/26, Rabash “Concerning Fear and Joy”

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Question: What are the permitted things, the forbidden things, the commandments, and the necessary actions for us in the preparation period?

Answer: Forbidden actions are those that can distance us from attaining the true goal: hatred toward a friend, laziness in the group, neglect of our duties, neglect of the greatness of the Creator, the greatness of the group, that is, everything that can be very important for us and is our support, something we must hold on to. This is forbidden because it throws a person in the opposite direction from attaining the goal.

Commandments are what the Kabbalists have prescribed for us. It is even better not to say commandments, but advice. If you want to attain the goal, you must do such-and-such. What does it mean, “you must”? The Kabbalists do not command you; they explain that this is how reality is arranged; this is how the law works. The general law of reality is if you want to enter the spiritual world, you must live according to certain laws.

Here there is no such thing as simply someone’s desire, or the Creator’s, or the Kabbalist who teaches us, or an angel who opens the entrance for you. In spirituality, it doesn’t work like that.

Actions on different levels, with different intentions, and even physical actions of the body that help you in attaining the spiritual goal for the sake of bestowal, are called commandments or advice (Eitzot). By following this advice, you can attain spiritual qualities, and then they will already be called decrees (Pkudim).

All commandments, in principle, are divided into two parts: the part in which you try to come to a spiritual quality, and when you internally acquire it, it becomes yours. You are already consist of it, and then more, and more.

These things are commanded to us. They are surely worth performing, just as it is not worth doing anything that distances you from fulfilling the spiritual laws.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/8/26, Rabash “Concerning the Reward of the Receivers”

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There are recommendations that are neither forbidden nor permitted. It is precisely there, as Baal HaSulam writes, that the battlefield lies between holiness (Kedusha) and the impure forces (Sitra Achra).

We don’t quite distinguish this yet, but after a person determines what is Klipa and what is holiness for himself, he checks: I do not do these things because there is a screen against them, and these things I perform because I already have clear intentions.

He discovers that within him there is something that cannot be divided and assigned to a specific part. It is neither the Creator’s quality, nor the quality opposite to Him, creation, Klipa. But what else exists in reality besides this? For there are the Creator’s qualities and their imprint, the qualities of creation.

So what is there between them that would not belong to one or the other? In the middle is the free choice of a person. This does not mean that there are some additional desires that the Creator created that supposedly do not belong either to Him or to what is opposite to Him.

In the choice between holiness and Klipa there are such things where you are free to do what you want, without any negative result for yourself. And there it is truly a choice.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/8/26, Rabash “Concerning the Reward of the Receivers”

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It is said: “‘I have created the evil inclination, and I created the means for its correction, in which the light that returns to the source is hidden.”  From this it is clear that nothing can be achieved on one’s own, but only through a request, through prayer.

The striving to move toward the intention to bestow, for the benefit of others, even if it is not sincere and even if it completely contrary to the desires that currently rule us, is called prayer, or the raising of MAN.

We have received a tiny spark of spirituality, and in order to break through the boundary of the spiritual world and enter the second part of reality, we lack only the desire. Therefore, all our prayers are solely for one thing: to acquire desire.

But there are states when a person desires nothing at all. One must understand that this, too, is a state given to us from above and not merely our laziness or indifference. A person is a kind of “black box” awakened by signals from above. The light that acts on our material, on the desire to be attuned, awakens it more or less, or leaves it completely indifferent.

Depending on this, we awaken and reach out, like a flower toward sunlight or rain, or we wither and fall, without receiving vital forces. Therefore, if there is no strength or desire for spiritual work, one must understand that just as at one time you received inspiration from above and rushed forward, burned with zeal, and worked, the desire is also taken away from above.

This state is given intentionally and measured precisely according to each person’s individual qualities and preparation in order to create a place for prayer for you. And you must try, with the help of the group, the books, the teacher, and the environment, to mobilize all your strength for a request.

Prayer is born from powerlessness, from lack of desire, or, on the contrary, from an intense longing, it does not matter how; all of these are conditions given from above. Likewise, from above our environment is arranged for us: a group, a teacher, books. And we, through joint study and the group, must find the light that will return us to the source.

When we study together, this is the very time for prayer. For we are then in connection with the higher system, with Malchut and Zeir Anpin of the world of Atzilut, that is, with the Creator and His Shechina. We become included in them, not each one individually, but all together, and thus give birth to a collective prayer. And through this we demand and draw to ourselves the power of change.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/6/11, Rabash “What Does It Mean that Charity to the Poor Makes the Holy Name, in the Work?”

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