Thus, those who agreed among them to unite into a group understood that there isn’t such a great distance between them in the sense that they recognize the necessity to work in love of others. Therefore, each of them will be able to make concessions in favor of the others, and they can unite around that (Rabash, Article 8, “Make Yourself Rav and Buy Yourself a Friend -2”).

Of the many desires that exist in each of us, there is one desire that is the same for everyone. It is the desire to attain the Creator, to direct all our gaze toward Him. Each person who agrees to engage in love of others feels that there is no great difference of opinion between them.

If we want to reveal the Creator, but we are all egoists and we all have about the same work to do on ourselves, then by uniting in our efforts, we are able to yield to each other, and then we will be able to unite and reach the Creator.

However, there is a small contradiction here. We can reach the Creator only together, and in order to be together, we need to unite, and in order to unite, we must yield to each other.

Therefore, it is necessary to make a calculation about what is more important: my “I,” a small egoist with his worthless, petty, temporary life, or attainment of the Creator, my future state of eternity, perfection.

And then by throwing my life on the scales to decide what to do, I will be able to yield everything in favor of others in order to achieve similarity to the Creator. Thus, unification will be the most important achievement in my life, my only dream.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/24/20, “Preparation for the Convention”

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Question: If a person is told about his arrogance, but does not see it in himself even though he understands that it separates him from the group and the Creator, what can help him escape the influence of this trait?

Answer: He should consider this and pray to the Creator to correct this trait within him.

Question: What is arrogance? What is its corrected side?

Answer: Arrogance is the negative side and the positive side is humility, the act of lowering oneself before others.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/19/24, Writings of Rabash “You Stand Here Today – 1”

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Question: Is it important for our progress to scrutinize the nuances of good feelings between us?

Answer: Yes, it is important to clarify these feelings, not just between you, but within yourself. Then you will see that each friend occupies a specific place in your heart.

Question: In my soul I want to love everyone in the group. But as soon as I feel I love everyone, a friend’s ego is revealed and he “drills a hole in the boat.” Should I pray for my correction, my friends, or the whole group?

Answer: Pray for each friend individually, for all of them, and for the entire group. In addition, pray for yourself so you do not harbor negative thoughts about them and will always think well of them.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/20/24, Writings of Rabash “You Stand Today – 2”

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Question: Intellectually I understand that all the evil is within me. But how can I reach a state where this recognition causes me pain and I begin to hate the evil? How can I turn the recognition of evil into a feeling?

Answer: Ask the Creator to open your eyes so that you begin to feel whether you are in reception or bestowal or coming closer to Him or moving away from Him. Pray for Him to do this.

Question: How can one transform from impure to pure, from wicked to righteous? Essentially, I am wicked. Even if the Creator corrects me, I will still remember that there was evil within me.

Answer: That is true. Try and you will see the result. You do not have to wait for it for thousands of years; you can achieve it in your current life.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/16/24, Writings of Rabash “A Near Road and a Faraway Road”

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