Morning Lesson May 28, 2022, Transcription
Transcription is made from simultaneous translation which leaves a possibility for differences in the audio
Part 2:
Baal HaSulam. The Arvut (Mutual Guarantee). #23
Reading Item 22 (00:13)
1. R. (00:57) If we could feel that what I do to the friend is exactly what I am doing to the Creator, how it would change all our relationships, our thoughts and intentions and our whole life, we would raise ourselves. This is immediately related to the Creator, instantaneously, if I feel that what I am doing to a friend then I am directly using the same action I am doing to the friend, that the action to the friend is the action to the Creator. The action to the Creator and the action to the friend it's one and the same without any difference between them that would change my entire life and outlook. Because all the friends I am in contact with them, I speak to them, I give and receive and I do something with them but what kind of significance would all the actions between us receive, all the words and actions, if we could feel that we are in contact with the Creator one to one.
Reader Continues (02:29) “Since one is obligated….”
2. R. (02:37) Meaning of either to myself or to the friend or to the Creator has to be the same it is only towards bestowal.
Reader Continues (02:47) “Meaning that no light…”
3. R. (02:59) That nothing comes to him in return from doing something outside of himself to the friends or to the Creator and nothing comes back to him, this is already considered restriction, he is not using the desire to receive in order to receive.
Reader Continues (03:21)
4. R. (04:26) Yes, he just took a single sesame for himself instead of distributing it among others what's to it but by this the vessel is shattered.
5. S. (04:44) It is clear that the Creator is in absolute and that the ten it is the same with the ten and the Creator, that they are completely corrected, that ten is completely corrected. I am not connected so how can I give to something that is absolute and corrected?
R. You cannot see the Creator before you correct your vessel at least to some extent of equivalence of form in bestowal, to some extent that you become like him but with the friends the Creator creates a descent of degrees. Then he gives you instead of himself, he lets you work with the others, you can connect to the friends and as much as you are an egoist, it does not matter you are incorporated and connected with them in a physical way ,you give to them, you lie to them, you steal from them, and you use them in an egoistic way. This was all given to you to use and similarly to all the other friends in the ten, slowly so that from this physical connection, from this egoistic connection, it would begin to correct and gradually come to the correct connection. When the Creator shattered this structure called Adam HaRishon and allowed us to live in this broken structure, this is a huge help, it is essential, without which we would not be that egoist who can arise to a higher degree. We would not be able to do it but instead specifically because we have a broken society we can certainly ask for help from the Creator, ask for the reforming light to connect us and then we would see the connections between us change from broken to corrected to be whole. This way we are repaired, and this is how we reveal the Creator from distant, from darkness and gradually become close to each other.
6. S. (07:58) When we see that a friend is missing or that they are present in the lesson the question is you said that before one should get nothing in return but seemingly he does get the connection with the Creator.
R. It is good that he has friends before him, you have to understand that this is the Creator who arranged everything for him as an invitation to approach him and this is how you have to continue. Everything depends on the fact that you are brought to the group into contact with the friends and now you have to enliven and revive this connection until you reach the original ten, the spiritual ten in this connection and discovered the Creator, the upper light that dwells in the connection between the different desires that are different but connected.
7. S. (09:15) When we perform actions to awaken the friends, how to restrict the sensation of pride, honor?
R. There are many different selfish inclinations that we have to watch out for and keep distance from and this is our work, that is our work in the ten.
S. If there are certain actions that regardless of what the intention was before always lead to the reception of pride, honor. Is this better to avoid those actions and work with other actions and other desires?
R. All kinds of situations. It is good if I progress in the study although my end goal is to acquire the honor, it is good to teach others although I also get their compensation with respect and honor however in between I am making efforts and I am bringing people closer, I work in connection in the ten and it works in this way, there is not much you can do it is like a baby who grows out of his clothes and there is not much he can do. In the meantime he is growing up.
8. S. (11:23) He said that we need as much as possible to put all of our focus on the friends and not on my individual benefit so how to do it? Because nevertheless you feel something in yourself so how do I put the focus specifically on the friends?
R. Everywhere right before you and you need to think of the friends, think of the connection between you, think of coming from the connection between you to the connection to the Creator. Remind yourself until habit becomes second nature.
S. What should happen meaning to think about the friends and?
R. The Creator is constantly in the background to a state where he is always between you, a certain form, a certain intensity.
S. You also said that there is no difference between the feeling of the friend and that of the Creator. What is this state where the Creator?
R. This is called the revelation of the Creator to the created being and what vessels do appear in the correct connection between you, you start to feel the Creator’s appearance.
9. S. (13:12) In the second paragraph in item 22 it says one is obligated to do all the Mitzvot for Lishma, for her sake without any hope for self-love meaning that no light or hope returns to him. If this is so, what does it mean that you can trust your employer that he will pay you a reward for your work?
R. That is exactly when you are performing acts of a bestowal and you do not demand any payment in return any corporeal payment; rather for you the payment for all of your actions becomes such that you do not want anything, you want only to bestow. Just to correct the general vessel to help everyone and for no one to know and no one will say that no one will disclose that you are doing all of this without anything in return for yourself, that is how you want to do it. This is the meaning of yearning for bestowal.
10. S. (14:46) He said at this exalted point the love of the Creator and the love of friends become one so there are two separated things? Because it seems it separates only from the perspective of which is after the shattering and before it was one thing, is that what it means?
R. I do not know I do not understand your philosophies can you ask clearly?
S. If it is one thing why does he describe it as two things? He said the love of his friend and the love of the Creator unite. If they unite it means that they were different before separate.
R. Towards a person it becomes one, the attitude towards the Creator and the attitude towards the friends eventually connect, combine because they are outside of his body.
11. S. (15:51) What kind of calculation, if at all, is there towards this kind of separation?
R. A simple calculation: we receive awakenings each and every moment, sometimes on rare occasions we feel that we are awakened from above and we try to respond to the correct reaction to the Creator who awakened us.
S. With these small actions can we truly shift the whole world to a scale of merit or a scale of demerit?
R. Yes we have to awaken it. I see this before me, I see it that sometimes a person shines a light on himself, and we see him and then he turns it off so we cannot see him and then he turns it back on again so we will see him is.
S. This is called participation between us, why is this happening?
R. That is exactly an example of participation. Each one turns himself off and turns himself on, off and on. This is the way to connect, to help one another. I wish to conceal myself so it will be easier for me. I turn off my window and you see in this place a black spot and then I'm free. This responsibility, is this Arvut, mutual guarantee? I am shocked by this. Should I turn myself off? I mean to make them turn me off and that is it. Why are you laughing?
S. Can I ask about this, about what you said now? I'll try to ask if maybe the friends are?
R. No. Not so big I am talking about Arvut, it belongs to mutual guarantee.
S. Maybe it belongs to mutual guarantee. Maybe I will try to ask the friends, maybe the friends from the world Kli can help. It is a very painful point in many tens. On the one hand there is what you talked about in the beginning, to accept the friends the way they are, they show up, they don't show up, I give room for everyone.
R. Let them come and sleep, I wish to see him here and he is asleep. What can you do? He's tired, he's got all kinds of problems God forbid, health issues but he is there, he is present. Even if he has to be carried over on a stretcher he has to come in a wheelchair God forbid but he wants to participate.
S. I am asking about something more essential. On the one hand there is this approach of being very soft towards the friends, accepts them the way they are with all the different states.
R. I'm not saying how we should relate to him, rather how he should relate to the ten, that he supports his ten and that he is part of it. He has to support everyone else, that is what I'm talking about.
S. On the other hand there is the need for Arvut and mutual dependency and the obligation, the commitment, keeping the framework but we have a situation in many tens that some atmosphere was created of truly accepting the friends in whichever way they are capable of, each one is unique, each one does whatever he can everything is fine, let's not talk about it, we try not to harm anyone but sometimes the tens fall apart, sometimes maybe two or three friends come to the morning lesson than half the people maybe they leave during the lesson, go away.
R. I do not think it should be this way. Our attitude internally towards the friends has to be soft and hard, also hard both at once simultaneously. I have to give him everything possible only to keep him on the path on the one hand, on the other hand I demand that he will be on the path because he is my partner and without him I cannot reach the goal meaning that we commit. What does mutual guarantee mean? We sign that one without the other cannot make it to the goal. Do we feel that this is how we are, that this is how we can be in our ten or not? That is the crucial point. When I see that the people are turning their windows off and on I feel a knife through my heart that is what I feel. A person is running away from the battlefield. He is a transgressor, a criminal, nothing to do. Either we are with the group when we are there or and I can't just turn off my window and do whatever I want. What is preventing me from being with the camera on? You want to smoke a cigarette? Smoke a cigarette, you want to eat and drink, eat, and drink no problem. You have to express your presence and your support to everyone because if one is missing he’s already missing.
12. S. (22:20) The shattering of the vessel is at the shattering of the Arvut?
R. Correct. The shattering of the vessel is the shattering of Arvut. Nothing is shattered except for the Arvut. The connection between the parts each and every part is not broken, the desire remains a desire. The more they connect between them by that we measure the height of the screen, of the vessel, of the ability to attain the Creator because we attain him not inside the cells but in the connection between these cells. How much each and every one can come out of himself and be connected with his neighbor in the group. A group, a friend and so on and so forth. That is the only way to measure it. Inside there are no broken Sefirot; they break only in the connection between the Partzufim.
S. I just wanted to continue what we started before because many friends are asking about the webcams in the lesson. If I get up to make coffee or go to the restroom do you recommend leaving the camera open?
R. Yes, leave it on and we see that you are away for a moment.
S. We also have a chat box where you can write that you're going for a little while.
R. It's not even necessary to write. It is clear that you're here and you get up for a certain need that you have, so you get up. It does not matter. We understand it and he doesn't need to justify himself that he is this way or that way.
13. S. (24:26) We said now on the one hand that we need to yearn for actions of bestowal so that no one will know that I'm doing something for the sake of connection and on the other hand we say that we need to give examples.
R. No, no, no that is incorrect, you understood it incorrectly. On the one hand I must perform actions of connection in my entire group, in my ten and there are things for me to conceal these actions but normally I need to advertise these actions because that brings about peace and connection between the friends. Even if I have done a small action towards a society, towards someone in the society and I can maybe not talk about it. I have to talk about it because by that I give an example to others, not for them to respect me but rather I wish to raise the level of importance of bestowal in the group and that is why I have to talk about it, it is my obligation. Otherwise I am not strengthening the group, I'm not causing connection between them. He who gives a gift to his friend must inform him. Remember that is what it says, he who gives a gift to his friend must inform him that it is I, that is giving you the gift it is not some concealed giving that is a different action but rather I have to let you know that I am doing it why? Out of love out of all kinds of things it doesn't matter because that discloses love in the world, discloses connection in the world so we should not do everything quietly, modestly on the contrary good things that happened between us we must advertise and publicize them between us in such a way that he has a good example to others. Pay attention to that.
14. S. (27:04) We arranged our life according to the actions we do every day with the ten but how can we focus on improving the intention, intensifying the intention to serve and to discover the evil between us with that feeling of wholeness?
R. Make more and more good, beautiful actions towards the society and talk about it, publicize it, and advertise it between you and you will see how this spirit will raise you. There is no reason to feel ashamed, to conceal anything. You are doing in order to raise the entire ten towards mutual bestowal.
15. S. (28:21) If only one who has taken a grain for himself has fermented the goal?, how can we hope to reach Gmar Tikkun, a single intention of all humanity in the soul?
R. We need to use mutual bestowal, mutual guarantee in such a way that no one will be able to make a single action in order to receive. We can do it, this is called, ‘the control of the environment over a person’. We can reach a state where there will be such an atmosphere, such an atmosphere that no one will be able to steal, no one will be able to do anything for himself.
16. S. (29:45) About the cameras, if I can't overcome the desire to eat and I’m going to start chewing with an open camera; so what will I invite in the friends? They are also going to get an appetite, am I not going to harm them by that?
R. So you take yourself away from this place, leave this seat empty so everyone will know that you are here, but you left, like to go to a bathroom or you need to go somewhere and eat on the side, so go and come back. But do not turn off the camera, do not turn it off, you are not a thief, you do not need it.
17. S. (30:46) Also a question about the topic: as you describe the state that you do not see the friend, he is supposedly hiding. It is like a knife in the heart every time, again and again. Why does the Creator relate to you that it is like a knife and a heart?
R. I do not ask the Creator when it is with regards to the connection with the friends. The Creator is not responsible for that, we are responsible for that, we have to correct the situation, and if He brings us to such a state where we see the friend as not there, that indicates that I need to correct my attitude towards the friend and I have to awaken the friend or pray to the Creator to awaken the friend, but there is no there is nothing more than that. What are you asking, what do you want me to answer?
S. We always come to the same conclusion in the end that the prayer and the personal example is what we have left, you also said that, and a lot of patience?
R. Well that is with regard to how much you need to correct yourself, so you need patience. Patience is simple, I will tell you I am 100% impatient, I am not patient in any way. You can ask my students who have been with me for 30 years or more, they will tell you that I am a very wild person but not with regard to the correction, not with regard to the purpose of creation. In the correction, you can tell yourself each and every moment that: I am incapable, I'm leaving, I'm going, I am this and that. But a moment after, when you do not, just before you finish and say that’s it, you keep going to the next state. Start, stop, start, and stop, that’s it. “A thousand times the righteous shall fall and rise.”
18. S. (33:38) Before you were speaking about patience, the question is: the more we study the more we are impatience?
R. Right, “one who is greater than his friend, his inclination is greater than himself”, his inclination is greater, coarser, tougher, until he wants to kill the friend.
S. Sometimes it is hard to combine these things in the tens.
R. So talk about it, in the meantime between you, how you are all like dogs wanting to bite each other, so what? You can talk about that too, but it is a limited time where you are now talking about it, and I assure you that it is going to take more than just a few minutes. If you give it a certain amount of time, you will see that suddenly there is nothing to talk about, everything is clear, we are all dogs. Now we will start deciding that we will start to work, and we keep going; better this way than to not touch it.
19. S. (35:05) About the cameras, I also used to do it when I went to make coffee, I would disconnect the camera and write to the friends that I went to make coffee, but now you explained it better. And we have another question: we have other times, let us say that a friend goes out to work early and he turns out the camera because he is driving to work.
R. It does not matter what state he is in; we want to see him with us each and every friend. I do not mind if he is on his path, he needs to go to dress up or he is running, even, but I want to see him together with us, that’s it.
20. S. (36:11) Usually when we demand a friend to do some action, the friend can get insulted so the ten prefers not to interfere. How can we be soft and hard at the same time?
R. I can’t hear, again?
S. He explained that sometimes you turn to a friend and demand from him so he can get insulted and so on, so how to be hard and soft towards the friend at the same time?
R. This needs to be the group's decision, the group's decision. Let us say we, like Kazakhstan, so they can't be let us say in the last 15 minutes of the lessons because it already goes into their work day. So they decide they are leaving, and they announce it and, say they put that in their window, ‘we went to work, we started our day’, something like that, so we know that they are with us in heart and soul, but they cannot be present physically with us. Something of that sort, good.
S. What about tens that are really on the other side of the globe and the lesson is in the middle of their day, like Australia?
R. Yes there are such friends, and it is very difficult.
S. So what should they do with the cameras when we are out at work, with family, part can, some can’t?
R. You decide, discuss it with all of you and maybe we can do something with it. I don’t know I'm willing to even, maybe, do a lesson or talk in times that are meant for them, I am willing to do as long as I can, as long as I am capable, I'm willing.
21. S. (41:53) First of all, everything we were speaking about up until now with an open camera so they're asking, is that the men?
R. No, this is with regards to the men, I am sorry when I do not say something especially about the women, I typically mean the men, first, because it might not be suitable for women in general. With the women it is also with regards to, there also is the matter of modesty with the women and also with a women it could be that she could not put her lipstick on, and she could not present herself to the friends right now. I don't know, it has to be on how they agree upon themselves.
22. S. (42:57) How to ask from the Creator when you have a heart of stone inside. How do you soften the heart and come to prayer?
R. There is a condition, like for your laundry, like a softener, in the same way we need to soften our hearts. What typically softens the heart is that we do some actions between us, some actions of cleanliness, of connection, of cooking and taking a trip together or talking if we are far from each other, then we are discussing something that each and every one has. Could be the kids or all kinds of things that are in the world of a woman and by that, the hearts get closer and farther, yes, and softer, become softer.
23. S. (44:16) How important is it to scrutinize, inside, the differences between the nation of Israel and the nations of the world or should we just pray in general?
R. The people of Israel mean those who have a concern in their heart for the purpose of creation and they want to advance towards that, this is called ‘the people of Israel’. So it is not a nation like all of the nations, it is an intention that there is a group within humanity which is separate from all of humanity, not according to their desire but their intention. Egoistic desires are present in each and every one but if we have an intention to reach the purpose of creation, the thought of creation, by that we are different and those people from all of humanity they are ultimately aimed at reaching the goal and being together. That is what they want all of humanity to reach ultimately so they become the Creator’s people, the nation of the Creator, and these people advance towards the Creator according to the deeds, according to how much they connect between them; and therefore they go into mutual Arvut between us, and that is the topic that we are exactly studying, and in such a way we become more and more similar to the Creator, that's why they are called ‘the people of the Creator’ or ‘the nation of the Creator’, that's it. There is nothing opposite here to anything, we are just different in our intention: that we wish to achieve in order to bestow, we want all people to truly be in mutual love, that the force of love will fill the world, that’s all. It has nothing to do with nationality or gender or anything, every person who has an opportunity to yearn for that belongs to that group that we call ‘the people of Israel’, the people of ‘straight to the Creator’, aiming at the Creator, that is it. But there is no such nationality, it is just how historically in our time, in our days throughout this life, what has been made is that there is such a group that calls itself Jews, Yehudim. Yehudim comes from the word, “Yehud”, unity, that they want to connect as one man in one heart. But it is not a definition of a nation, it could be a group that gathers like in ancient Babylon from all of the different nations and all of the different groups. Every one of them who wanted to be a part of that, they came with Abraham and then that group was formed, and it is the same with us, the law of the world has not changed.
24. S. (48:05) More about the cameras, why is it not important to open cameras for the women? It also makes our work difficult when everyone shuts their camera off. Where's the border between a woman who really can't because she is with kids or something and where's making the effort and turning the camera on?
R. Maybe she is holding her baby on her hands, maybe she is not to put together with her makeup and she cannot present herself like that. These are things that are not in my understanding, but the women understand me that I could not understand them here. that’s it. That’s why I'm saying there is a matter here of, even though I look at you all as beautiful and all presentable and everyone is great and I do not think anyone needs to hide herself, no one, I really do. Maybe it is like her mother who sees all of her children as beautiful children, that is how I'm looking at you but that is how it is. But again, why am I saying more about that specifically? I am certain that you will understand that it is not important, it is not important. If I show myself to the friend and she shows herself to me and we need to achieve connection, the external shape is completely, completely irrelevant. What is important is only the inner inclination, love, women understand this better. For men, the externality is more important so women always they put on their makeup and so on and the externality of the man is less important to them, but their heart is more important, is their heart devoted to them? That is what women demand, in that respect they are more serious. Why are you looking at me like that?
S. It is interesting, so you’re saying that the woman really pays attention to her externality?
R. Towards men.
S. Yes, and he?
R. Yes, and from the men she wants to see more internally and with regards to spirituality, a woman is more serious than men, you can’t do anything about it, the woman is more internal like the foundation of creation, that’s not the men. We will talk about that later more because there is, on the one hand, what we call the Nukva surrounds the male but there is also another opposite side to it, there’s more to learn here.
25. S. (51:20) There are all kinds of questions about the cameras, maybe we can just summarize. What’s the rule towards the women, how can they take a decision, what should be the guiding rule for the women?
R. I think that still, after all, cameras should be open and we need to see everyone who was there, everyone who is there. By that I'm strengthening everyone, or I delete myself from the whole world Kli, I want to appear before the Creator, who was the Creator? The Creator resides in my friends, so I present myself to Him, that’s me and I have nothing to be ashamed of. So I'm not wearing my makeup like the other one or I'm missing something that the other one has or something, all of that is not important. Let us show ourselves that we are ready to welcome everyone with an open heart, that’s it. It doesn’t matter here, the age or appearance, the Creator requires the hearts and we do too. Ultimately, and the women understand this more, a woman's heart is more open, more ready for connection, for adhesion and that is really what is beauty.
26. S. (52:55) If I succeed in justifying the other is in all of the low states that the Creator shows me, that means I love them?
R. Yes how are we with respect to children? it is very simple, look at a mother towards a child.
27. S. (53:15) Can you explain how we become independent but still remain dependent on one another?
R. We each time become more and more interdependent because our power is in Arvut, and if we break the Arvut, if we cut off the connection between us then we will have no spiritual vessel, we will not have a spiritual vessel. I saw this was a really beautiful example, tragic really: when I saw a person who was with a very serious group of Kabbalists and he was cut off from them, separated from them. I saw him years later and it was like a rag, like an old man who has nothing at the end of his life and later passed away. Disconnecting, detaching from the ten is forbidden in whatever case it is. It does not matter what the situation is of the ten, if you are connected to the ten you could be in the highest state or the lowest state. But still, being inside the ten you are in the field that has been blessed by the Creator, meaning the Creator exists in you even if you do not feel or reveal Him.
28. S. (55:10) How can we pull a friend to the lesson if she is not so interested and the example does not work on her, either?
R. Try to tell her of the importance, how everyone is drawn to that and that without that we do not attain the goal of life. That she has an opportunity, who knows when she has an opportunity next. Maybe she forgets about it now, she leaves us and continues her life like anyone on the animal level, the animated degree and maybe the Creator will not awaken her anymore. Even if she stays like a lowly soul. That, it’s like a person has an opportunity to go to university and absorb education and culture of the highest level and be the most successful, and he kind of refused it at some point and then went into another route, even by mistake and that’s it. A life then changes from that small decision in a complete way, that is how our life goes and we choose our path, we have to try to help each and every one.
29. S. (56:51) What does it mean to hear the lessons through the friends?
R. That I try to realize what we are learning in the connection between us. Look what we have learned, even in TES we started four phases, that was really on one leg, we just went through it, why wasn't I able to go deeper? Because there we have to be more connected between us otherwise we won't feel what he is writing about. We have to be more connected otherwise we won't feel the material that we are studying. Look, am I doing during the study something more than what is written? No, I'm just opening it up a little bit emotionally and that's it, that is all that I try to do. So we have to be more open in our feelings and so when each one tries to emerge to the friends their feeling, it allows her heart to open up and thus advance.
30. S. (58:21) How can we recognize the Creator in the actions we're doing towards the friends?
R. First of all, why am I doing these actions, for the sake of who? I am doing these actions only for the Creator, just like with little kids to their mom and dad, they want to make their parents happy and therefore they’re doing this and that, that's what we're doing. So it doesn't matter what we're doing, what matters is our attitude, our intention. The parents, like of the Creator, they don't need our work, they need our intention because that is what connects us to them.
31. S. (59:15) Towards what do we need to be in Arvut in the connection between us?
R. The Arvut is that I am responsible for all, for the whole world, for the whole Kli because I am a specific Sefira of a Sefira of a Sefira in the body of the vessel of Adam HaRishon. So I know that if I won't be properly well connected with everyone then this system will not exist. It has to be whole so in all my emotion, mind, and power, I have to be connected with everyone, hold everyone, support everyone, and this is called Arvut. So Arvut is the condition of the healthy vessel that is gradually taking shape towards the upper light.
32. S. (01:00:24) Do we receive the Torah only after we connected as one and does that happen as a ten or the whole of humanity?
R. Torah means the light that influences us and changes our nature and therefore it even influences people that have nothing to do with the wisdom of Kabbalah and the correction of their desire. It still influences them, and they gradually change from one generation to the next, from one year to the next all of humanity changes and it still is the upper light, the light that reforms. But Torah especially comes from the word [Hebrew for instruction], “instruction”, that treats us more personally and directs us more specifically and that's what we refer to as Torah. And again also from the words [Hebrew for instruction] “instruction” which means that it guides us and explains to us in what way we need to be connected so as to become a humanity that involves correctly. Look how much it's lacking today and soon, very soon, we will see how we are lacking connection between us. We have to discover in our time that connection is necessary, and we will be in a state where if we don't connect correctly, we have nothing to eat, very simple. You cannot live on the animal level, still, vegetative and animate, if you don't, if you don't organize, sort out the speaking degree that you already have to rise to. Then we will see that the whole world will have a lack of supplies of the necessities you need for life without even needing wars. We just won’t be able to sustain ourselves without being able to provide ourselves with certain foods and materials and clothing and all those things, we won't have that, we won't have that what will we do? Connection first and to the extent that you connect, you will also have the things that you need, that you want. We have reached the point where now this will properly educate us. It says, “if there is no Torah there's no flour, there is no flour there is no Torah”. So we will see how this is happening mutually.
33. S. (01:03:22) Can the friends be in Arvut towards the ten when he has necessary desires in his family that are not fulfilled?
R. He has to take care of his family, there is nothing to argue about that, but he has to see how much his life, his family life, his group alive all go together as much as possible, as much as he can. Of course, it is possible that his spiritual life to some extent are at the account of his family life, even if it doesn't really happen usually doesn't happen because ultimately if you're really looking into it, you will see that there is no such thing. If you engage in the wisdom of Kabbalah in normal fashion it should not disturb any other thing. You could say. “it prevents me from advancing in my work and I don't sleep well so I can’t do my work well” or things like that. I am telling you that ultimately that is not the case, I am in this business from 1978, from 1978 that is when I started. Actually even before that but with the group I started at 1978, let's say some 1979 and since then how many years until today, I have not seen that this takes a person to a state of limitations and poverty and something of that sort. No, people find a way and better organize their existence in a calm way.
34. S. (01:05:22) Should the ten also think of the Arvut towards the whole world Kli, how can we practically advance towards that?
R. We want to be connected with all our world Kli and try as much as we can and it will come, it will come so. It’ll happen by itself by wanting to be together. Now there is also the matter of the pandemic that is gradually moving, and we will be able to make more kinds of connections between us. Soon we will have a big event in North America, Europe, South America, we will do these things, so we will feel connected. We are already connected, we are connected, the fact that we are studying the same topic brings us together greatly because by that we have the same upper force, the same upper source so through that we are connected.
35. S. (01:06:42) This thought and understanding that I can influence the force of unity and love in the ten, it's exciting but pressures. What I thought for sure will bring us closer to love between us?
R. We have to find material and read it in the ten about how the Creator attains as the force of love between us, that first of all we have to reach love of others and then love of the Creator. These are two stages we need from the correction of the created beings meaning the connection between us to the connection with the Creator, that is the only way. So let's not disregard our connection and with regards to our connection, I'm also talking about our connection between the tens in our whole world group.
36. S. (01:07:54) Can I see when the friend does a sin or commandment, or I can only determine that towards myself?
R. Usually we can’t determine this about the other because we don't understand the reasons and intentions, we're not in the place of the other. About this it says don't judge one’s friend until you come to his place. So we should not judge the friends even our close friends in our ten. Judging them, I do not recommend it, we can’t be in them. We still each remain in our individual ten Sefirot. Therefore only through the intention, the intention of connection between us is how we can influence each other. Try to set a good example in short, to be a good example for the others.
37. S. (01:09:01) Can I sign the Arvut at least for one person to the ten because without two connected there is no ten at all?
R. Try, of course it's worthwhile.
38. S. (01:09:18) We learned that a person can’t take himself out of prison so is it the Arvut the state where I keep the friend from her evil inclination?
R. Arvut is what gives us the feeling of freedom, that I am not in prison. That the group signs on me, on the bill of the Arvut and then I can leave that prison and become free. But again it's not that you sign, and they sign, and I go out. We constantly need to be together under that force of Arvut. Meaning that when I come out of that prison I am actually in the prison and going with the prison, but it's not prison for me anymore but ties of Arvut. I am happy about it, and I yearn for it, and the more and more signs of Arvut between us that will determine our spiritually degree through the 125 degrees.
39. S. (01:10:32) If the morning lesson is the time that to draw the light how to draw the light in the best possible way during the Q&A, a central part of each lesson?
R. That's right that it’s an important part. From the questions and answers we can learn more than from the regular text because in these questions we discover deficiencies of the friends. That through the deficiencies we can connect and rise in the spiritual degrees. That's why listen, listen more, try to be in the question.
40. S. (01:11:25) At first I was disappointed to hear that connection with the Creator happens only through the friends.
R. That's obvious. My connection with the Creator depends on my group? I don't even want to know them, I’m so distant from them, every moment to renew the connection with them? But it's simple, that’s how it happens. Above me there is a communication area or station. If I want to reach the Creator I have to go through that station and I reach Him. This communication in that station is very complex and changing, and I constantly have to make sure that this block, this group will be connected correctly, as right as I can, as unique as I can that they are all united more. To that extent I determine my connection with the Creator. If I am not connected to the friends correctly I am not connected to the Creator. The more I am connected to them, the more I connect to them I build a connection between us which is nice and good, until it somewhat resembles the nature of the Creator in bestowal. Then I feel that I enter a connection with Him, only in that way. That’s called from the love of the created beings to the love of the Creator. Love is the ideal connection, the whole but at least in some way if we won't understand that we are dependent on that, simple, as one, that’s it, no more. Either love of the created beings and love of the Creator or no spirituality. Decide.
41. S. (01:13:42) He continues and says afterwards understanding that it happens through the friends brings me joy because it’s in front of your eyes.
R. Very nice. If you take it as a means because you have no choice to begin with, afterwards you see that it's the best thing the Creator could have given us. It‘s the most practical means that we can use, and in this way advance and reach a very tight connection with the Creator and specifically in my connection with my friends.
42. S. (01:14:21) So after we come to a state that we are happy that we have this means in front of us, how do we not fall into the trap of the ego?
R. Because the connection between us becomes a spiritual Partzuf where we discover the intensity and the character of our connection with the Creator. What is the Partzuf there for? In order to reveal the Creator, the inner light that’s revealed between us. In the Partzuf we reach the practical Kabbalah, which is that connection, that Arvut. That we didn't know what it’s for and why, and why is it pushing us into this. Now we understand that this means is essential because it is the vessel; that only in it I can discover the Creator, the force of bestowal, the eternal world, my soul.
43. S. (01:15:20) You said that if there was no difference between action toward the friend and action toward the Creator there would be an immediate revelation of the Creator. How do you hold that attitude towards the friends, it keeps disappearing?
R. Hold it in each and every moment. That the Creator's in the friends and the attitude towards the friends and towards the Creator has to be the same attitude.
44. S. (01:15:46) What to think about the friends during the day?
R. That we're still together aimed towards the Creator. With them we want to unite until we become a point, the point of connection.
S. I’m just very inspired. Sometimes your session with the women is like a lesson within a lesson, a form within a form. I don’t know how to explain it, it’s very special.
R. I also feel that it's a very different vessel, towards the same goal with the same rules but very different. You cannot explain it. How do I say it? It’s like it's not part of corporeality, it has nothing to do with it. Let's say we couldn't say see the differences in men and women in anything and no previous impression from the still, vegetative and animate. We would still feel something very different, very different. Afterwards we’ll discover the spiritual difference between us. For now it’s corporal difference, women, men a bit in character and physically So no, it’s a difference in the foundation of the soul. That’s later on, but it is good that we have such a big, strong group of women. It gives forces and stability, especially stability to the men.
45. S. (01:18:14) About the cameras I wanted to ask, in the lesson it's clear but there are also meetings of the ten during the day. There too is it worthwhile to turn on the cameras?
R. As much as you decide, it's not important for me, as much as it benefits the connection between you. According to that you can decide if it's possible or not, I don't know what you do there in the middle of the day and where everybody is.
46. S. (01:18:53) Thank you, I wanted to ask about the connection with the Creator. I heard that for the prophets there was direct connection with the Creator, so where is the group then?
R. Again.
S. I heard that the prophets, the state of a prophet means direct connection to the Creator. Does he have a group as well?
R. A prophet is a person like you that reached the state through his group. Otherwise he has no ten, if he doesn't have a ten, he doesn't have a mold, a vessel where he can connect to the Creator. You understand what ten Sefirot are? That all his friends that he was connected with, they became for him as Sefirot. He sees them from the inside as much as they’re internal and he connects to them and in them he discovers the upper light as inner light, as the Creator. That is why in such a way he can have direct light and reflected light in such a connection that it is called prophecy; it's just different degrees. There's a book by Ramchal called Derech Hashem, the way of the Lord, you can read about it there. It’s a Kabbalist from the 16th century in Italy, Ramchal. It's a very nice book. He writes there the path towards the Creator, and he explains the different degrees. It is still early for us; we will learn it later on.
47. S. (01:21:10) How is it possible to reach practical Arvut in the ten? Can corporeal disturbances help? Let's say something is happening with the friends and we are concerned?
R. We have to try and help as much as possible. In the balanced manner to each and every one also in a corporeal way and spiritual way for sure.
S. How do we reach Arvut? Not a matter of helping or not helping, how do we reach Arvut ?
R. That's what we're talking about. We have to connect between us in a mutual internal way, That we understand that one without the other does not exist in spirituality, That only the ten, if we are together connected correctly between us, it becomes a vessel to receive the upper light.
S. Should we in the ten meetings make a pact between us where each one decides or?
R. Speak about it please. I'm not pressuring anybody. Everything we decide, everything we learn, we need to decide what we need to do as much as we can to implement what we are studying.
48. S. (01:22:58) Good morning, a bit earlier a friend gave a very good example that he was inspired by work with the women Kli I was also inspired by that and when I ask you, is there a difference between?
R. Why do you want to start going into psychology? What does it matter? The main thing for us is, does it help us to attain the goal? That's the whole difference , if it works towards attaining the goal, you have to decide. Try and decide correctly and then you will succeed.
49. S. (1:23:52) The question about the cameras. There are two ways to connect to the lesson and want to be with the ten in the Arvut system and then one is through the website Sviva Tova There are many times where people in the world, or even in Israel hear the lesson while in work or being with the family. The only way to hear the lesson is in the Arvut system with a closed camera, so what is better to be in the Arvut system with a closed camera or a listen through the Sviva Tova website?
R. A person should decide with a ten that after he understands how important his participation is towards the friend's, according to that they should decide but the ten has to take a decision with him, that is it. We think that we are not dependent on one another if we are not so it's like a voice crying out in the desert. Nothing will work, we don't have a chance in receiving spirituality if we have no ten or have no vessel. Now you're asking me if it's this way or that way, you decide according to whatever you want. If you want to reach perception of the Creator’s so you have to build a vessel for it, that precedes him, and it has to be a vessel of ten Sefirot .
50. S. (01:25:42) We learned in previous lessons in TES about the upper one lowering his head toward the lower one and when the upper want to make a connection with the lower one. he lowers his head, so is the ten for us a kind of the Creator lowers his head towards each and every one of us?
R. No, we're not going to speak about it. It's so far away .We will learn about it later on. We need to be prepared to receive from above the plea towards the Creator.
51. S. (01:26: 32 ) I just had one problem with one sentence where he says that he cannot overcome the filthy self-love that it erupted in him. How can you advance towards Arvut when there is a difficulty to overcome the urge when I'm being insulted and so on, does it prevent the Arvut?
R. That's the Creator giving you such exercises. You have a strong desire, a high soul and for that reason you have to receive blows. Difficult exercises, what can you do? So I move ahead and succeed.
S. Look at you tell me something I disappear for a month. I can't overcome someone who tells me something that is…
R. I'm telling you that I saw you in the month and I did not say anything.
S. I expected of course.
R. Of course, so I held myself very strongly not to turn to you.
S. I'll tell you when I sat in the morning with friends they've told me it's impossible that you will fall, everyone will fall, if you don't ask you're causing trouble to yourself so I decided today it's impossible this is how I will fall. All the friends are saying that though how do you overcome that?
R. Do you see you have two angels that brought you with the two hands, to the corrections.
S. How do I reach a state not to fall into that?
R. That's how you have to relate to others and treat them in such a way. Each one needs such support.
S. So to come and tell a person look like you're falling there and lift yourself?
R. Don't tell them that, in all kinds of ways. External or internal. support them and in all kinds of ways give them an example but not in the way that they will feel you're doing it on purpose. That they will be able to accept it without calculations.
S. I'm asking you for forgiveness, I was very angry. I remember you told me you will hate me one day and I love you so much and I was so sorry for this disconnect. I was ashamed to show myself in front of you. I'm saying the friends are helping.
R. Really thanks to them and you also went through this pain every day.
S. Yes, yes. Thank you.
R. How could I turn to You?
S. What do you mean, you shamed me towards everyone?
R. No up to here, no one person can suffer more than that. It won't be an exercise in order to ascend, it will be god forbid knock someone down, So I was just quiet.
S. Okay we learn. We are learning.
R. Ok. Friendship forever.
52. S. (01:30:27) A friend is asking; how can we collect the deficiencies of their friends in the lesson in order to dedicate the effort to the attraction of the light that reforms for the deficiency that we have collected in this time.?
R. I wanted to advise something but only if it's accepted by everybody. I am willing to accept questions like through someone. It doesn't matter, it doesn't have to put everything on him. He has a lot to do anyway so from everyone. That there will be someone that will present these questions just one by one ,every day or maybe twice a week, and I will answer them and sometime during the day, does not matter when. what that you can join and connect to maybe not you can listen afterwards. I am willing to do that because if questions remain I am willing to answer them. In this way we might advance quicker. Choose someone that can ask me some man and he should gather the questions from the men and separately from the women too and I will just answer these questions and in this way we can advance may be quicker.
53. S. (01:32:26) Why does the bad example impress you more?
R. Because you are an egoist.
54. S. (01:32:49) You said as a result of our work the friends become ten Sefirot? What does it mean?
R. A vessel with a restriction and a screen that wants to work in order to bestow by this, by receiving in order to bestow, starts shining. That is why it's called 'Let it Shine or a Sefira each and every desire and in this way all the desires of the Partzuf when they connect and bestow in such a way, so it turns out that is how they shine and the Partzuf is the collection of Sefirot qualities of men that work in order to bestow. That's why man becomes a source of light. He actually shines in his reflective light. Reflective light isn't light, it's the intention but in him the direct light shines from the Creator. We will get close to it.
S. In order for the friends to become Sefirot, I have to see them that way?
R. You have to do between you and as much as you attain the desire to bestow, the form of the bestowal between you. This way you come to a state that you illuminate as a Sefira. You, meaning the will to bestow in each one of you that will be revealed.
55. S. (01:34:52) Also a question with regards to the Sefirot. You said that the vessels stay in the ten Sefirot of the person, but the work is in the intention. I understand that specifically the intentions connect us to the ten, is that correct?
R. Yes
S. What are the individual ten Sefirot? Is there a connection?
R. The connection of man with his ten builds his private ten Sefirot in him?
56. S. (01:35:29) Why is Arvut in such a decisive condition, where is the Creator here, and also as a guarantor?
R. The Creator is the general guarantor, without him Arvut can’t happen because in the mutual guarantee each and every desire connects to all the other desires and then all of the created beings become one created being towards one Creator. In such a way there’s a correction to everyone. Without the Arvut no one can bestow towards the other, no one can come out of himself because he only comes out of himself to the extent that he is bestowed on from the outside. That the friends forcefully take him out of his own vessel, his ego just like that - take him out. Otherwise he cannot come out. That’s why it’s written either friendship, society, ten or death. That's why the condition of the Arvut we see it as a nice thing. No, it is necessary to build a spiritual vessel called a soul. Without that you won't feel the spiritual world, you won't discover yourselves in spirituality.
S. This seems unreasonable that a person himself can do.
R. A person on his own can’t. That's why he writes until they’ll be connected to the six-thousand souls and so on, that's why he writes that.
S. Is it the same with the ten?
R. After the shattering where the state already exists, even though it's shattered and also the upper light exists that was in that vessel of Adam HaRishon as surrounding light, afterwards we can implement it even in one ten, just like Rabbi Shimon. Even two and not ten. Even to the multitude of the many are two. When one annuls himself towards the other, all kinds of problems start between them that help them advance and reach spirituality. But it’s very difficult to do it with two with the other. As much as they're able to overcome their ego, with the ten it’s easier.
S. How is it possible to feel that we are bringing the Creator as a guarantor? How is it possible to feel that the Creator gives us the Arvut or this permission for Arvut? I don't know.
R. This new force that I suddenly feel, that awakens in me, that raises me, calms me, turns me around, this force is already the Creator that helps us move from one state to the next. That’s why in such a way I start becoming more and more directed towards Him as the source of Arvut, the source of connection.
57. S. (01:39:51) What is the difference between the relationship of Arvut and the relationship of love?
R. If we're speaking about spirituality first of all there has to be Arvut. By the incorporation that we attain in the Arvut between us we attain the extent of the connection, the essence of connection called love. Love is already a complete incorporation that happens between desires, that in them the Creator is revealed and connects all these desires together, and revelation of the Creator is what brings them to love, actually love is the quality of the Creator.
R. So we didn't do anything today, we didn't study Matan Torah, I mean not Arvut and not TES. You see what happens? I get complaints. They write me, why didn’t we study TES? Who’s guilty about that, tell me? Take a vote who is guilty, me or them.
58. S. (01:41:37) About the importance of the lesson on Shabbat we received a decision in the group that on Shabbat we want to have maximum participation at least once a week. The more I learn, the more I am impressed by how unique the lesson is on Shabbat. What is the special thing about it that kind of turns the whole week around and gives a new sense of the importance of the work? If you can say a few words about it.
R. On Shabbat there is a special illumination, really. At some point we will learn how spirituality clothes in corporeality. On one hand what does it matter, the upper light shines, it all depends on the receivers, and that's it. Also the ARI students, one said let's have a Shabbat on Tuesday or Monday. They decided and they did everything that needs to be on Shabbat with their prayers and their talking and the meals, let’s do it on Monday. They did it and didn’t feel any difference. So, it's a lot of questions we don't know yet. How to solve these questions? Why is it this way or otherwise? It happens, but we will learn later on. In this world is there also a difference in corporeality, in our last degree that we're in, or is there no difference? In spirituality it’s clear but in spirituality there are surrounding lights, the inner lights, screens. The created beings perform changes, raise, and lower themselves in degrees towards the light of Ein Sof. We on our degree, corporeal degree, awaken the lights for sure and they influence us and all of humanity through us, but we don't feel it, we don't understand it and we cannot measure it. That is why there is a problem, a certain problem to some degree. For now, I wouldn't dwell on it, we will talk about it when we understand more. I am not hiding anything from you, not concealing, on the contrary. My question is as much as you’ll understand me correctly. That’s why to the extent that you can understand me I instantly open things up and speak about them, and it’s all before us.
INFO - Amit: Everyone is invited to ask questions to boardworldkli@gmail.com, we’ll collect them from there. Do you want the questions to be about the study material or in general?
R. They can be general because there are some that disseminate and it’s also important to them so they could ask. But you have to sort these questions out, that I won't suddenly see questions that have nothing to do with anything. They can be not connected but put each one in their own box and present these questions. That someone can read them, and I’ll answer them. It’s possible as usual as when I speak to reporters and somewhat, I have no problem. Make someone responsible about it and we will advance and do it. That’s it.
INFO - Amit. And how do you summarize this wondrous lesson?
R. I don't know, I actually didn't talk about anything today. I said many things, but I wanted to more or less tie up all kinds of loose ends, that everyone will have a bit more confidence and calmness on the path, more forces, more force to advance. I feel that we are before very strong and good days, and that’s how we advance. And also we will feel how the times, good or bad supposedly, they have to be connected together. How do I say it? I don’t know. Like a weft and warp, that’s how it has to be, day and night and we will advance. So keep the connection between you, strengthen the connection, it’s very important. From this lesson take forces and strengthen the connection in each and every ten. That’s good, that is the desired result. Big hug.