This week is the 15th of Av, what is colloquially known as “Israeli Valentine's Day.” There is a popular show in Israel called “Married at First Sight,” where men and women meet their spouse for the very first time on their wedding day. All parameters are taken into consideration, by professionals, using scientific calculations to find the perfect match—and it doesn't work! Most of the couples break up during the first two months. Oren Levi: What's the glue that's missing? What is it that we don't know? Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman: They can't take the character into consideration. The entire success of a relationship is based on the willingness to concede. Oren Levi: Whose willingness to concede? To concede what? Dr. Laitman: For each of them to concede and in everything. I concede to my wife, and she concedes to me, and it is specifically upon these concessions that we build our family. Oren Levi: The word concession in and of itself is a weak word. Who concedes? The weak concedes to the strong. Dr. Laitman: No. The strong concedes to the weak. Oren Levi: Where did you ever see something like that? Dr. Laitman: If you want to build a family, then this is the key - the one who concedes in the relationship, gains peace, connection, tranquillity, and love. And, eventually, shows the other how things should be done. This leads to a good, and correct connection between them upon all the concessions. Oren Levi: Today young people have a really difficult time finding a spouse, and having a good relationship, why? Dr. Laitman: Because they don't want to concede. Each with their own pride, is domineering the other. Oren Levi: No one can concede anything to the other, so what's the future of relationships? Dr. Laitman: To learn how to concede, and suddenly you will start discovering that through concession you get much more. Oren Levi: Can you give us the very first exercise for concession? Practically, how to do it? Dr. Laitman: Start conceding in whatever you can. Start learning how pleasant it is to concede and how much you gained from it. And that, precisely by that, you bring the other side to concede as well. By this one gains a correct attitude. My teacher Rabash used to say that “a family can exist only out of mutual concessions.” Oren Levi: How do you define love? Dr. Laitman: Love is that we treat each other nicely, conceding to each other, and this is built over many years and through it comes a feeling called love. It is the same with the Creator too. That we hate him. Oren Levi: Why do we hate the Creator? I don't even know who He is, or if He exists. Dr. Laitman: The Creator is a part of our relationship. Try to think of Him as your spouse and you will come closer to Him. If you concede more and more, by that you will convince Him to take you into consideration and to come closer to you too. It all depends solely on you and the key is not to ask. You don't have to put pressure on the other, you don't have to be convincing. You will see what a strong weapon this really is and by showing your concession, you simply win them over, the Creator and your spouse.