Comment: There is a small parable about three brothers who saw Happiness sitting in a pit. One came and asked Happiness for money, and he received it. Another asked for a beautiful wife and received one too.
The third bent over the pit. “What do you need?”, Happiness asked.
The man asked, “What do you need?”
“Brother, get me out of here,” Happiness requested.
The brother extended his hand, pulled Happiness out of the pit, turned around, and walked away. And Happiness followed him.
What should a person do to make it follow him? What did he do anyway?
My Response: He did not demand anything. On the contrary, he did a good deed; he provided a service to Happiness.
Question: Is this the condition under which happiness follows you?
Answer: I do not know.
Question: Can’t we generalize that we shouldn’t demand anything, etc.?
Question: When you ask for happiness, like in this parable, you receive some segment—money or a wife. Later, everything can change. You can get divorced, go bankrupt, and so on. But when you want to give it to the other, is this the secret?
Answer: I cannot imagine how you can give happiness to people, transfer happiness, or take away happiness. I think it does not depend on the person.
Question: What does it depend on?
Answer: I think it depends on fate.
Question: Does it mean that you will behave according to what is given to you? You either give away happiness or demand it for yourself.
Answer: Yes, and the main thing is to agree with it.
Question: Is this the main question?
Question: So, can I change?
Answer: Practically, I cannot change. Perhaps the Creator can do this sometimes, at our earnest request. But I personally cannot change anything.
Question: But can I come to a state where I do not like myself the way I am? I don’t say “hate.” I don’t like myself when I demand happiness only for myself. Can I come to this state?
Answer: It is not easy to come to this, but it is possible.
Question: Can this be the starting point when I ask to be given the opportunity to somehow give happiness?
Answer: For what? Are you going to give people happiness? Are you taking on such a mission?
Comment: I see. Instead of happiness, I will give something else: unhappiness.
My Response: Yes.
Question: Your question: “For what?” If I answer egoistically: “In order for happiness to come to me, I understand that I need to give it away.” Is such a formula possible?
Answer: No, it is egoistic anyway.
Question: Is it still called “Give me happiness”?
Question: It turns out to be such a dead end. How can a person get out of it?
Answer: There is no way. As the Creator predicts and decides, so it will be.
Question: Is it necessary to seek happiness after all or not? Or is it also in the hands of the Creator?
Answer: I do not think happiness can be found. You need to make happiness. That is, you need to put yourself in a state where you know exactly how to force it to reveal itself. Then you will see it.
Question: Then a very important question is: what do you mean by the word “happiness”?
Answer: By happiness, I mean the feeling of a person that his life was a success. It was a success.
Question: Does he have this feeling toward the end of his life, or does he have this feeling during his life: “I am living the right life, my life has been a success”?
Answer: No, I think it is already closer to the end.
Question: And during life, is there work going on all the time? Does it turn out that our life, in your opinion, is constant work?
Answer: Yes. It is when a person is looking for ways to rebuild his life again and again so that it brings the happiness that he imagines, let’s say, to make people happy, to make relatives happy, everything that he can imagine.
Question: But now you are still directing the vector “from me”—to make others happy. Do I in this way find the meaning of life for myself? Do I through this come to the conclusion that I am happy in this case?
Question: Is this constant work?
Answer: It is constant work, and it cannot stop. A person should clearly understand how to do this.
Comment: But along the way he should be disappointed, get up again, and so on, and so on.
My Response: I do not know whether he should be disappointed. He just should imagine his path. And then “The road surrenders to the one who walks it.”
Comment: That is, if happiness is following you, it does not mean that you are happy; you have to work all the time to make others happy. And this is not easy, as we understand it.
My Response: It does not matter that it is not easy. What is easy in life? There is nothing easy.
Question: But is this the path? Is precisely this the path?
Question: When you say “the path of light” and “the path of darkness,” what do you mean by it?
Answer: The path of light is when you bring light to people. And the path of darkness is when you cannot do it.
Question: I cannot or I will not?
Answer: I think that you cannot and you do not want to is the same thing.
From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/14/23
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