A Kabbalist doesn’t listen to himself or the person before him but to the force of love and bestowal that we live in. If I want to connect to someone, I have to show him that he is dear to me and that what he says is important to me. The speaker also needs to pay attention to the response of the listener. As human beings, we look for attention, respect, and appreciation rather than solutions. We want to feel a sense of security and support through an internal connection. What is important is not how much I understand but how much I show my respect for the speaker.