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Daily Lesson (Afternoon) November 30, 2024

Part 1 Rabash. Record 174. Specifically through a Man and a Woman

Hello, we are reading in the writings of Rabash, the article number in records, article number 274, “Specifically through a Man and a Woman”. You can find the study material on the Arvut site and the Sviva Tova site, and you can ask questions there as well. Anyone asking a question in the study hall should stand up, hold the microphone close to his mouth, and speak loudly and clearly. 

Reading Article: (00:40) Specifically through a Man and a Woman 

A newborn is born specifically through a man and a woman. From a male alone or from a female alone, there cannot be offspring. In ethics, the male is considered “the power of bestowal,” and the female is “the power of reception.” Offspring are good deeds, in which there is the breath of life.

Hence, when one has only the power of bestowal, he does not have the labor, and there is a rule that the reward is according to the labor. Since he has only the power of bestowal, he is devoid of labor, and without labor, it is impossible to be rewarded with the light of the Creator, as our sages said, “If you did not labor and did not find, do not believe” (Megillah 6b).

Also, if one has only the power of reception without sparks of bestowal, he can no longer make a choice to reject the bad and choose the good, since then he does not have the strength to decide to the side of merit.

Hence, specifically when the two forces are equal—the power of reception and the power of bestowal—he has room for work and labor to be able to prevail through the labor and determine to the side of merit. At that time, this deed that he has decided to the side of merit is called “newborn,” meaning that the Creator places the spirit of life in this action. This is called “Wherever I mention My name, I will come to you and bless you.”

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (04:01) On what does it depend if a person has the power of reception or the power of bestowal?

M. Laitman: On luck. 

Student: In other words, any state a person finds himself in, he is found in one of these states? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: And what does it mean that it depends on luck, that he would have both lines? 

M. Laitman: To have both lines and through a certain accumulation between them, that all depends on luck. That's how it is. 

Student: Can he influence the… 

M. Laitman: A person can influence.

Student: What should he aspire for? To have the power of bestowal in addition to the power of reception? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (04:56) How is this work done in the Ten? Is it we in the Ten who can influence, can bestow, can receive? Is there some work we need to do? 

M. Laitman: Yes. You need to try in the Ten for each and every one to have the tendency for bestowal. 

Student: For this I need to feel the deficiencies of the friends and also let them feel my deficiency. And by this we… 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (05:39) It's written here that if he has no power of reception, then he can't make the choice, but we know that in each one there are sparks of holiness with friends, with the Ten, with the connection. What are those sparks of holiness in our common work? 

M. Laitman: If a person invests the power, the forces to reach the force of bestowal, he begins to acquire sparks of bestowal from above, and that advances him toward the line of merit.

Student: In other words, the work in connection in the Ten between us causes the sparks of bestowal to be revealed between us? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (06:40) Sometimes getting out of bed feels like labor, but I'm sure that's not the labor that he talks about. 

M. Laitman: That too.

Student: What is the labor to reach spirituality? 

M. Laitman: The exertion to reach spirituality is when a person expects to have the force of bestowal and through this force of bestowal he will relate to his friends, and from it, he will be rewarded with the general force of bestowal. 

Student: And regarding the relation to the friends, what is the labor I should do? Because you mentioned it.

M. Laitman: To provide a good example to all the friends, and when you exert, you'll see how the person will become closer to the Creator and how much He turns to you and helps you. 

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (08:06) According to what he writes here, when the two forces are equal, there is room to overcome. Now, in the Ten, if we are living in the Ten—we’re there most of the time—there are constantly such opportunities to choose one way or the other. The Creator constantly arranges or orchestrates such states. So, what does it mean that he writes here that in the state that I have, I have a chance to do something for the friends or not to do it? There's always this debate, he says, when both states are equal. Is that what it means that we are always in this scrutiny? 

M. Laitman: Yes, typically, we're always in a state that we can see the state of scrutiny. 

Student: And when he writes about deciding to the side of merit, like another student gave the example of difficulty to get up in the morning, it doesn't matter what it is, if it's connected to the Ten, you didn't sleep enough, now you have to get up, you're really tired, and you're debating. Thoughts start running in you to sleep, to get up. I have to. I don't have to. In the end, you have to decide. So, when you decide for the sake of the Ten, is that called deciding to the side of merit? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: And what is the newborn, that a newborn is born when you decide to the side of merit?

M. Laitman: The desire to bestow. 

Student: The Creator develops this desire in you? 

M. Laitman: Yes. When a force of bestowal is born in you, and you can work with it.

Student: And if a person misses the opportunity, he has this inner scrutiny, and he decides not to go in that direction, then what happens? 

M. Laitman: There will be more opportunities.

Student: He simply missed the opportunity at that moment?

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (10:16) You confused me. You said the force of bestowal is born, and he says that the force of bestowal alone is not good. What is the state of a person having only the power of bestowal? 

M. Laitman: You can't have only the force of bestowal in a person. He is born with the force of reception, and if he works in order to organize the forces in him, where he has the force of bestowal and the force of reception, then he is rewarded with the force of bestowal. 

Student: I understand everything you said. That's what we always learn. But here he writes: “When a person has only the power of bestowal, he is devoid of labor”. What does it mean that a person has only the power of bestowal? 

M. Laitman: Theoretically, let's say, that there is such a thing. 

Student: Oh, it’s theoretical. So, there cannot be the force of bestowal only, without the force of reception, so that good deeds will be born out of it? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Question (W Petah Tikva Center):(11:55) According to what we read, I understand that in the balance between the two forces of reception and bestowal, a new state is born, which is in addition to the  power of bestowal, but then the balance is breached. There is more bestowal than reception, because there is more bestowal. So, how do we continue from this point? We have to add reception in order to continue in the process? 

M. Laitman: That's also correct, but nevertheless, in each and every state that we come to, we have to first of all worry about the force of bestowal. 

Student: In other words, we always look for the force of bestowal, and the Creator brings us additional reception. 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (13:31) It's written that precisely when the two forces, bestowal and reception, are equal, there is room for work and labor. If both forces are equal, from where do I get something that is toward one direction rather than the other? What is this labor? 

M. Laitman: If both forces are equal, then we don't know what to do, because seemingly these forces balance us out. The best thing is if we constantly worry about the force of bestowal. 

Student: What does it mean that he writes that precisely when they are equal, and not one more than the other, there is room for labor? 

M. Laitman: Because then we are in a state where we can actually make a decision, decide. 

Student: Who is deciding? What is the point of decision? 

M. Laitman: A person decides, a man.

Student: So, I should always see myself outside of these two forces? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: And from where does a person get the strength to bestow, to decide? 

M. Laitman: From above, from the Creator. 

Student: Is there something in the Ten that we can constantly create a deciding force? 

M. Laitman: You cannot create a deciding force. You can only connect to the Creator and demand the deciding force, and for it to be the force of bestowal. 

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (15:21) Rabash ends this article saying that all the work between the will to receive and bestowal and what is born from it is called: “Every place where I cause My name to be mentioned, I will come to you and bless you.” So, what does it mean that the created being does the deed and the Creator says that this is mentioning His name and there He blesses him? What is that state? 

M. Laitman: The Creator lets a person choose acts of bestowal, and the person then turns to the Creator and demands from Him the force of bestowal. The Creator gives and the person arranges all the intentions and tendencies and actions of his will be in order to bestow.

Student: So, basically the blessing begins from the ability to do the act. It's not the result, but the whole action itself is the blessing? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (16:53) I'd like to relate to this excerpt. When a person has only the power of bestowal and he does not have labor, can you see this as a principle? He says a person already has the power of bestowal, for example, to come to bestow in order to bestow. That's not the goal, not the purpose of creation. He says we need the labor to receive in order to bestow. If we think more deeply, can this be what he meant? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: So, basically he was talking about a person who achieved bestowal, but it's not enough; he has to come to the higher level. How can we really see the final result of receiving in order to bestow and not get stuck in bestowing in order to bestow? 

M. Laitman: We have to try to constantly rise in bestowal all the time.

Student: And how can we implement it in the Ten? 

M. Laitman: For everyone to understand, to respect, to think that they only want the force of bestowal and how great it can be in order to keep all the forces of reception underneath it.

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (18:55) You told another student we have to constantly try to increase in bestowal. So, how does this effort to increase bestowal lead us to working with vessels of reception? 

M. Laitman: For us to be able to bestow in our vessels of reception as well. 

Student: What does that mean? Can you help us grasp what this is about? 

M. Laitman: If I want to bestow to someone, then I have the intentions to bestow, but I can carry out the actions with my vessels of reception. 

Student: So, when we work with vessels of bestowal, we still don't realize our bestowal? 

M. Laitman: It's possible.

Student: So how do we distinguish? 

M. Laitman: Simple. If I bestow, then by that I approach the Creator, I resemble the Creator. 

Student: To fully scrutinize. It's all unclear. 

M. Laitman: Ask, ask.

Question (W Petah Tikva Center): (20:29) I see both in me and around that friends from among us, many great friends, are performing work of bestowal. I actually see their bestowal that they're doing. On the other hand, it takes them away from us, from the lessons, from the functioning, and I feel like we need to strengthen our internality every time. I'm terrified from it. I feel it on myself as well, that it steals us. We need to do something, raise a prayer, do something in the Ten, look at the great gratitude we've received, because this is the well. We can only drink from here and continue. So, how do we do this? 

M. Laitman: In each and every state, wherever I am with my friends, I try to extract forces of bestowal, so that eventually, I will only think of the forces of bestowal. 

Student: Just to be precise, how do we not lose friends who are in such bestowal that they don't understand that only here there is the force, that the outside is stealing them. I feel it many times, that I'm holding on with my teeth, and without the friends, I'd be outside, it would steal me. How do we do this? 

M. Laitman: Hold on to the friends, together, all of you, to try to hold on tightly to one another, each other. 

Student: Should we do something internal, all of us together, in order to get stronger towards the bestowal of Congress or something, something internal, only ours, of the whole world Kli, together with Rav, some special lesson maybe for internality, for strengthening, for the gift we've received, so we don't forget? 

M. Laitman: We constantly talk about it. I don't understand what else I can give you. 

Student: Maybe we should give to you. Maybe it's the other way around this time.

M. Laitman: I don't know. 

Student: There’s just a very strong feeling. 

M. Laitman: The feeling should be that all of us, we all connect, men, women, and we come to a single point from which we wish to bestow to the Creator.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (24:31) When we read an article by Rabash, there's always a question. Is he talking about us or about things that are much higher than our situation? And we only, in our tiny vessel, hear something.

M. Laitman: We need to see that this speaks about us. 

Student: Because he says here, when there's only the power of bestowal, he has no labor. Where are we in the only power of bestowal? He's talking about some state where he's only in the law of bestowal. 

M. Laitman: We can imagine to ourselves that if a person has only the power of bestowal, without the power of reception, then what can he do? 

Student: So, it's something we need to imagine, to depict to ourselves? 

M. Laitman: Yes, yes.

Student: So, he's talking about a state when a person is only in the power of bestowal. I guess, he's talking about bestowing in order to bestow, before he's going to receive in order to bestow. These are degrees that are... 

M. Laitman: Imagine, depict it to yourself, and try to portray it, and you'll see it's not that high up. 

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (26:05) I'm trying to simplify it, and I think it's like a meal where I feel everyone's hunger, and it builds in me a desire to cook for everyone. So, is this one way that I feel the deficiency, the hunger, so I cook? I make a meal for everyone, and the other way around, if I express my hunger, as a result of wanting to fill me, they cook for me. So, is this one way of looking at it? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: When I think of the deficiency of the friends, can I contain that deficiency? I feel like it would drop me. I feel like I'm afraid of feeling their deficiency. I prefer to get away from it. I see it full, because it would be difficult for me to contain it. 

M. Laitman: I don't get it.

Student: It's like hunger. It's hard for me to contain my own hunger, much less the hunger of the friends, to be hungry at such a level that I'll faint, because I don't have any way to accept it. So, when a Kabbalist feels the deficiency of everyone, what gives him the strength to contain all of that deficiency? 

M. Laitman: Just like it's hard for you to contain in the Ten, let's say, the deficiencies of your Ten. So, it is hard for a Kabbalist. But he overcomes, and he does. He contains the deficiencies that are much greater than that. 

Student: Is this fear real, or am I just imagining? I'm just trying to see where we get stuck. 

M. Laitman: We, each of us, is in his own place.

Student: It's like not wanting to see poor people, so we turn our eyes away. So, I'm trying not to look and see the friend's deficiencies? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Question (W H 1): (28:41) It's written specifically through a man and a woman, a newborn is born. Does it also relate to the biological state? In our Ten, for example, there are no husbands in Kabbalah. Can this influence our spiritual advancement? And if yes, then what can we do? 

M. Laitman: We need to go and grow our will to bestow. That's it, to the extent, or as much as it will be revealed and divide between us. We'll see it later. For the time being, we need to grow our will to receive. So, with its help, we want to reach bestowal. 

Question (W MAK): (29:53) What is this state where the desire of the friends in the Ten connects without coercion? 

M. Laitman: It's very good, but after these desires connect, you need to direct them, activate them correctly to bestow.

Question (Turkiye 2): (30:47) What is the correct response between the force of reception and force of bestowal in order to reach connection with the Creator? 

M. Laitman: What's the right relation between them? 

Student: Yes, relation, reaction. 

M. Laitman: That we want to get to know the power of bestowal, and the force of reception is something we seemingly have to begin with. So, we ask about it, that the Creator reveal to us the power of bestowal, and we will see how we connect it with the power of reception, and then, we will be able to work with both these forces. 

Student: The force of bestowal is considered in the will to receive? Is it concealed in the will to receive? 

M. Laitman: No, it is two forces that one does not hide within the other, no.

Question (MAK 11): (32:40) It says in the article, when a person has only the power of bestowal, he does not have the labor. What does it mean? He doesn't have the right intention; he doesn't have the intention for the Creator? 

M. Laitman: In order to act, we need two forces, the force of bestowal and the force of reception. That's why we need to act in every state to try to unite between us in order to bestow. 

Question (W MAK 23): (33:31) How do we work with a newborn in the Ten? 

M. Laitman: Try to give it all the forces. That's it.

Student: How can we connect the male and the female in the Ten? Is that a good deed or is that a desire before the Creator? 

M. Laitman: The force of reception is the feminine force. The force of bestowal is the masculine force. We have to connect them together in order to bestow in both, to receive in order to bestow upon the Creator.

Question (W SPA): (34:35) If the idea of spiritual reward is related directly to the level of effort and suffering a person feels regarding the practical application of the matter, what is the meaning of the reward according to the suffering and how to apply it in our daily work? 

M. Laitman: To the extent that I can restrict myself and work for the sake of others, according to this I will advance in spirituality. This is basically the condition. 

Question (W Moscow 8): (35:31) We receive the force of bestowal according to our request? 

M. Laitman: Yes. We receive the power of bestowal which is directed like our demand. 

Question (W MAK 98): (36:13) We have a state in the Ten. What do we do when one of the friends blames everyone and opens everything up? It's almost like it's going crazy. Where to take the forces to go above our ego and justify him in all the states? It seems like everything is ruined.

M. Laitman: Take any article and start studying the article among you. Ask questions, for each want to answer answers. In this way you will come closer to each other. 

Student: Can you give us an article? 

M. Laitman: Any article.

Student: Something from Rabash? 

M. Laitman: Rabash. 

Question (PT 22): (37:42) It says, in the end, if you didn't labor and didn't find, do not believe. Shouldn't it be, if you didn't labor and you found, do not believe. Can someone find something without laboring? 

M. Laitman: You are given an example. Ask. Ask in your relation and you'll see.

Student: I went to the source that is mentioned there and I couldn't find this verse. It's very interesting. 

M. Laitman: I don't know. I don't go deeper than what we have in front of us. 

Question (W Kyiv 7): (38:48) We wish to reach a state of inner equilibrium with the Creator. It doesn't mean that we have to grow the force of bestowal. 

M. Laitman: Do this, and afterwards we'll talk.

Question (Tbilisi): (39:18) From the greatness of the Creator, and as a result, feeling my nature as pure evil, other than prayer that the Creator will do something—I don't even know what He has to do—but do something out of myself, so I will receive the force of love and bestowal. Is this state a correct one, and if so, should each friend go through this state? 

M. Laitman: Any friend. Every single friend.

Question (Kyiv): (39:57) The greatness of bestowal in the Ten is greatness of what? A certain power between us? 

M. Laitman: There is a quality of bestowal that exists in the universe that fills everything. That quality, the quality of bestowal, we gradually reveal it and want to become similar to that quality. 

Student: Is this quality of bestowal in the universe some sort of energy we have to divide between us? Distribute? 

M. Laitman: Maybe energy.