What Are Some Ways to Create a Peaceful and Positive Atmosphere in the Home?

The factor that influences our health and happiness more than anything else is positive relationships. It is nice to see that after 75 years of continuous research at Harvard University, this is now scientifically confirmed. What is less encouraging is the feeling that relationships between people are becoming less and less positive. On social networks, which were supposed to connect and not divide, in the media, which was meant to bring people together and not alienate, and even at home, with partners and children. Several areas of our lives are becoming difficult, with tension and friction. What can we do to bring about a peaceful and positive atmosphere then? Here is some advice for building a policy that will ensure us a healthy and happy life.

First of all, we should define a goal, that we wish to create a positive environment for ourselves, one that surrounds us with a positive atmosphere, with positive relationships. To that end, we should not wait for others to change for the better toward us. We should rather begin with ourselves. Small gestures like a few kind words and a warm smile can create a positive connection and soften the atmosphere in every place we implement them. Everybody can always appreciate kind treatment and a mood boost.

Therefore, we could put up a sign on our front doors that reads, “Enter only with a smile.” We could agree with our family that we do not care what happens outside; inside the house we want to behave differently, to establish a kind of independent state that operates by rules that we define together. For example, from the moment we enter the home, we do not fight. Whoever comes home and sees the sign “Enter only with a smile” will remember that they must leave all the stress built up during the day outside the house, like taking off a coat. At the door, we enter only with a smile, with good treatment toward everyone, as if everything is just fine.

After agreeing on such a rule, we should then sign a contract among us. We should also define special times we dedicate to the problems we have in life and to finding solutions together, in a positive atmosphere. Venting frustration by yelling fixes nothing. It might exhaust us, and so it sometimes feels like it calms us down, but in doing so we just push the unresolved issues deeper inside, and they will erupt later with even greater intensity.

Such mutual actions will bring a new spirit into the family. Children who learn to smile at those around them and treat them warmly in the household environment, will develop a certain protection by doing so that will accompany them everywhere in life. It will reduce the chances that anyone will want to harm them, and it will increase their sense of security and confidence. At school, at university, at work, wherever they are, the environment will appreciate them, because people who know how to treat others well are a rare commodity today. They will be able to lead, organize, manage, and guide. There is nothing more important we can pass on to our children that will help them succeed in life.

From a social perspective, it would be worthwhile to declare a national campaign to build positive relationships and recruit major resources for it. There is nothing utopian about such an idea. Positive relationships are vital for our lives, especially in light of the destructive phenomena that emerge every day. We saw how much we were influenced by anti-smoking campaigns, which educated several millions of people with the idea that "smoking is bad for our health," and so it should be with the idea of educating the need and benefits of positive relationships. We need to wage war against negative relationships, because they are the real enemy that consumes us from within. Together, we can surely succeed in building a positive environment for ourselves and become rewarded with healthy, safe, and happy lives.

Based on episode 21 of "New Life" with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.

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