Morning Lesson July 13, 2023
Transcription is made from simultaneous translation, which leaves a possibility for differences in the audio.
Part 1:
Rabash. Article No. 30 (1988) "What to Look for in the Assembly of Friends"
1. Rav’s Introduction: (00:32 ) Yes, we as usual are continuing this study of how through the assembly of friends, we reach the connection with the Creator; from the love of people, to the love of the Creator. We will continue in this, continue on our path. The most important in this, that all the disturbances that arise before us hinder our connection, we should try to remain connected between our hearts and that this will only strengthen us. The Creator, that 'There Is None Else Besides Him', He eventually, arranges for us all of these conditions through which we have to pass in order to reach Him, blessed be Him. So please, let's try with all of our inner forces and most importantly in the connection between us to study what to look for in the assembly of friends as we are in it right now.
Reading Article. (01:59) “Our sages said, make for yourself...”
2. R. (39:57) Okay, thank you very much to the reader, also to Rabash, Baal HaSulam and all the Kabbalists to open up the way for us and now how we know how to organize our society and how to establish ourselves, position ourselves towards the friend, each one towards the friends and this is how we change our perception and discover instead of this egoistic, small world, the spiritual world which is eternal and whole. Let's try to establish between us each one towards the others to establish such relations.
3. S. (40:53) What is judging friends to the side of merit?
R. To judge the friends to the side of merit means that what you see and hear from them might be incorrect but the most important for us is seeing and hearing this is the impression that we get from the friends. I do not trust my senses but rather I receive I accept above reason and not according to what my eyes see or my ears hear but rather that my friends are in a relation to the Creator they are in with devotion on the way to the goal and this is how I would like to them as the greatest of the generation and I am the small one and I'm, I live in a way that I lower myself, I submit myself towards them. Okay.
4. S. (42:21) How does my gift or something that I raise the spirit of the friends or the mood? How does that guide a person to the goal?
R. Through the Creator, through the Creator.
S. The Creator is included in my action or do I need to prepare something advanced for this?
R. No no, you operate in such a way that the Creator will be activated and He will operate on the friends, you by yourself cannot operate on the friends, you cannot affect them by you wanting to help them, by wanting to connect to their efforts, let's say by this you seemingly ask the Creator that He will help them in their work, in their correction and together with them you also undergo correction.
S. Actions are important right not just the thought?
R. Yes, the thing is that we are still to such a degree where our actions and our thoughts are not the same, so the actions are important.
5. S. (44:04) It is written here several times in the article about the work on the right line, on the left line, the middle line, that a person comes to the work on the middle line, what are those forms of work in the group?
R. We will learn more about it, it is not simple to explain it with a single sentence. We will learn more about it. The time will come and we will understand it in a simple and quick manner, what does it mean to work on three lines on the positive line and on the negative line the connection between them.
S. It's clear that when we work on the right line, let's say we don't criticize the group. We raise the importance of the goal, what is this middle line, is it a mix?
R. The middle line is when we combine these two lines and we take the middle between them. Meaning that we work both with the will to receive and also with the will to bestow, we pass all of these through us from the friends to the Creator.
6. S. (45:39) What is the expression of the love of the Rav on the side of the student?
R. The love to Rav, it is every person that you consider as greater than yourself so it turns out that if you relate correctly to the friends then each one of them towards you appears as Rav, as great.
7. S. (46:18) He writes in the article that he goes home and asks himself what did I benefit from going to society today? So my question is: What do we benefit from asking this question?
R. We need to understand that each and everything that we get from the society that seems to us as positive or negative, it does promote us on the path. It's not that it drops or but actually it advances us on the path even if it may seem as the most negative thing. Therefore, if we relate this way to the impressions that we get from the society there will always be room for us to advance.
8. S. (47:24) In the article he says that we don't need to be on the left side more than an hour a day. I will tell you the truth, for a long time I can't hold on to the right line for more than an hour. The rest of the 23 hours I am just in the left. I am seeing everything black, what’s the advice?
R. The advice is to think why do you feel this way, from whom do you get this feeling? How should you truly relate to what you see in the world and following such criticisms, such a check do you shift from the left to the right, from criticism and negation etc.? Actually gratefulness and in that you feel that the world is in the trustworthy hands of the Creator.
9. S. (48:43) Please tell us how to instill the spirit of life into the group, if my inner essence is in a descent, are there certain exercises?
R. Well of course there are exercises. If you are in a decline in relation to the group then you should try to annul yourself and be in the group like a small one, like a small person who can grow only by learning from others. You should try to forcefully, you have to forcefully take yourself through this with the example.
S. With the example they can?
R. Yes, look at.the friends and see how they work. they will be an example and you can implement it if you want to.
10. S. (50:07) This sweet child is that the state of Katnut that we have to build?
R. Yes.
11. S. (50:17) To continue the question about the middle line, can we say that the work in above reason, in the middle line is the same thing?
R. In general, yes, this is what we need to reach.
S. Can we say that joy is a criteria that I can check whether I am working in faith above reason?
R. Yes of course, of course. If a person is happy, apparently he's in faith above reason, meaning we are talking about a person who does spiritual work so his work is a result of a correct understanding of his situation, correct understanding of the situation that the Creator is presenting to him.
12. S. (51:46) He writes that a person can evoke the left line only alone and no more than half an hour and you shouldn't do it in the society, in the society it's a bad line here?
R. Well, we do need the left line nevertheless because from it onwards we begin to work with the prayer by making changes in the society so we need the left line. However, to what extent? Enough in order to become aware that within us there are still qualities and relations that we need to correct, that the moment that we see them we are done, we finish our calculation, our account with them and we work on our correction.
S. That's exactly what I wanted to ask, how do you evoke or awaken the left line in the society so it will truly be beneficial and not corrupt?
R. We do not awaken the left line in the society together because we are not certain that we will have the strength to overcome it but rather each and everyone awakens for an allotted time as he says, for half an hour a day, the left line and he also overcomes it by relying on the society but it's not that he takes other friends with him into the left line, it is the opposite, we must not show the other that the left line.
S. What does it mean to raise the left line if there's a certain thought of how to improve or some kind of discernment scrutiny is that the left line?
R. You're assigning posh names to these things you know it's always us normal human beings that we want to assign such names to these in order to have justification. There's no such thing if the Creator is the 'Good and does Good' and He rules everything, then clearly whatever He awakens in us as the left line, negative states, it is only in order for us to become accustomed to seeing these things in the right way, which is the revelation of the flaws, the deficiencies which we have to turn into construction.
13. S. (54:57) Is the work on the right line always above reason and in the left line always within reason and does our attitude towards the reason define what line we are in?
R. Yes, it's all true.
S. How to move from the left line to the right line in a smooth and quick manner?
R. To realize that the left line that we have it's the Creator deliberately gives it to us here awakens within us the will to receive in such a way so that we will know, we will learn, we will become accustomed to how to get out of it. That this is actually our work to constantly justify the upper providence.
14. S. (55:51) How to judge the friend to the side of merit who disregards me is considered an awakening from below?
R. Because by that you awaken the Creator that He will correct your friend.
15. S. ( 56:12 ) How to awaken and relate to the friends who I feel hatred towards?
R. How to justify a friend that I feel hatred towards? We need to get used to it, bit by bit, get used to relating to them with love, 'love covers all crimes' and then you will be able to correct any left line that you feel towards them.
16. S. (56:43) I can depict the state where everyone is greater than me but there is still this great prevention that doesn't enable me to do this in practice. What should I do?
R. Try nevertheless to do it with all kinds of incidents and then you will see that it is simple, it is simple. Rather we need a little bit of overcoming in the beginning, that here it's about the habit that becomes second nature and other things. So try.
17. S. (57:27) If I love my friends in the Ten like their mother does it mean that I'm relating to them like someone who is greater than them or smaller than them?
R. It is good, it is good. If each one will relate to her friends in this way it is good.
S. Is it considered that she's relating to them as someone greater or smaller than them?
R. Maybe this is how it seems in the beginning but later on it will not be felt like that because we see that children in the way that they relate to the grown-ups, they manage the grown-ups, so who is the great one here, who is the small one here? Let's say that the little child, the smallest child in the family, is the head of the family.
18. S. (58:33) How is the feeling of sublimity or upliftment of the Creator felt?
R. I cannot talk about a feeling because this is something that is given to the feeling, to the heart. What I can say is that you should picture yourself in similar states, similar feelings and then you will feel what it is like so you can learn one thing from another.
19. S. (59:13) It said in the article the holy Zohar says, the holy soul that a person receives the reward that he receives and is filled with joy so how can we attain this holy soul?
R. How can we obtain the holy soul? This is all of our work, the holy soul means we receive and it inverts itself from self-love to hatred for oneself and love of others, and then it turns out that we have already reached the complete correction.
20. S. (01:00:17) How will we be able to start a new slate in the work in the study between us?
R. It's according to our decisions the moment that I realize that I must establish a new line in my life, then I hold on to this decision each and every moment with every article and every incident and every relation that I have with the friends with the group and so on, that is it. That's what I need to do and then I decide what I should change towards the friends, towards the group, towards the teacher, towards the Creator and I try to do it in such a way consistently.
21 S. (01:01:24) What's the difference between work above reason and work in reward and punishment?
R. Reward and punishment could be with any form in any degree any manner of the work, even the lowest ones or the highest ones in every form so that we must first understand where we are, what requests do we have from the Creator what demands for ourselves for about ourselves about our nature about the group so then we can know precisely where we are and diagnose our situation, our relation to them.
S. We talked many times about the work and the three lines we call Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, why did those people have such qualities? Can you refine this question?
R. First of all it's not people, but rather these are spiritual forces, the right line, the left line and the middle line, and the fact that these forces belong to certain people it means that these people as a result of their spiritual work reached a state where they were able to control, to muster these three lines means that they were able to represent these three lines within themselves.
22. S. (01:03:36) You just talked about the states so it more or less gave an answer to what is this specific difference between the work in the right line always towards the right line, and the middle line is that actually a sort of reward just by working in the right line so that we shift to the state of the middle line, is that a sort of reward in the soul by the Creator because of the work in the right line?
R. I don't like answering such questions because we begin to talk in a graphical manner using geometry instead of the natural way speaking about emotions, and therefore, let us let go a little bit of this right line left line middle line and all these definitions which we do not quite really control and comprehend, so we need to remember the definitions and soon we will reach them in a way that will be more alive.
23. S. (01:05:12) Over the paragraph where he says he goes home and asks himself what did I benefit from going to the society and then he asked other questions there. What to do if the answer to that question is negative, if I don't feel like I benefited in some way from society?
R. The society didn't give you an opportunity to bestow to it?
S. Yes, yes I did give it an opportunity.
R. What are you complaining about? What are you complaining about, if you were given the opportunity to bestow and advance in spiritual work?
S. I always need to stand positively to this answer and always reply positively but how during the assembly of friends if I have thoughts that are also the other friends when they go home they will also think that they didn't receive something or enough from the society?
R. Each one should hear what is it that we have to do first of all the general calculation what are we advancing towards what is the purpose of life the purpose of creation what does it mean to be similar to the Creator, which is our goal, as it is written, “return o Israel to the Lord your God”. Next what then should we demand of ourselves to acquire the force of bestowal when I come home after the meeting with the friends, I need to measure did I receive an opportunity to bestow and I didn't use it, or did I receive an opportunity to bestow and I did use it, and what is the purpose of my exertion, the purpose of my work?
24. S. (01:08:13) It's written in the article about the time that is devoted to what we call a gathering of friends, to what extent does this approach define specifically towards the gathering of friends, we have to operate this way all the time?
R. I don't quite understand, do we need some time to engage in getting closer to the friends?
S. According to the principle of this article.
R. But why not? We do need to work according to a certain time. Right now we are activating such thoughts and desires and later on maybe other thoughts and desires; and we need to get used to that. This is spiritual work; it happens according to certain principles, certain pressures, and according to certain conditions.
25. S. (01:09:46) When I want to justify a friend, I tried to convince his ego so that logically he will justify the friend but isn't that some kind of conditional justification egotistical justification somewhat?
R. I need to explain to him to the friend, I need to explain to the friend what should be the justification in the spiritual work in whatever I'm doing according to the criteria, according to the laws of our spiritual work; so that he will see it and understand it, and i will be able to help him and another time he will be able to help me.
S. She meant that I need to convince my own ego when I say good things about the friend, but isn't that something that's kind of conditional that I'm not really feeling that way and that I create a certain conditioning that's not real?
R. So she can see this and do this that way, yes. Just like any person who's doing research or exploring and investigating certain things, so on the one hand he should take one perspective, one side of looking at it. On the other hand, the other perspective, the other way of looking at it, when the two of them are in contradiction to each other.
S. So it's kind of okay if I don't feel that way, and I can try to kind of trick my ego and lie to it, consciously?
R. Maybe, maybe, in order to study the situation, like a researcher, somebody who's investigating or researching in the police or somewhere else.
26 .S. (01:12:09) If a friend is answering in a workshop, I know you’re all egoistic, I know your nature, you're sharing that you're connected to the Creator, aren’t you lying to yourselves. Is it awakening that the friend is awakening the left line like that?
R. It is considered that he is not allowing his friends to rise up above the situation that they are in.
S. How should we approach this?
R. To simply talk about it. We need to see our true situation, and the state that we should aspire to, that we should yearn to.
27. S. (01:13:18) What advice do you have for a person, for a ten or the world Kli, that we'll be able to raise more and more our sensitivity because so many things are happening in this morning lesson, and all together in the society, how do we intensify and increase the sensitivity what to do, to increase it?
R. The importance of the goal. The importance of the goal. And do not let any slander in our center and in general anywhere. That's it. Because by this you kill the friend and of course you bury yourself several times over and this is how you will continue as dead until the end of your life.
28. S. (01:14:38) It's written in the article that in love of friends when a person has to judge his friends to the scale of merit, and he needs to subdue himself and judge him to the scale of merit, and that is great exertion and we see that by the exertion he gives payment, that it is even more important than paying with money. So what is the payment and who does it go for?
R. The payment is when I begin to appreciate the friend, respect him, extol him in my eyes compared to what I had before, when I didn't appreciate him, I didn't extol him. I was looking down on him, that's the payment that I give him.
29. S. (01:15:47) These states that each one goes through on the path, there are also in the ten, we can see that there's a natural tendency for some people to bring more of wholeness, others bring more deficiency, each one brings his special color according to his nature. So how do we take that to work with it in our incorporation in our togetherness?
R. Each and every one, individually, personally, should lift himself, pull himself out of criticism towards sympathizing towards the Creator. What is he criticizing the Creator for? What is dissatisfied with the Creator? That He is arranging such work for us. But if he continues he has to continue according to the conditions of the upper force, of the upper nature, of the upper world, that's it. He can say like a little boy, no, I don't want to and then have these tantrums, it will not help one bit, it will only spoil the way for the others and for himself several times more.
So, this is why we need to connect between us and help each other because we all have these states; so we need to help each of us have some sort of safety net, so that we don't slander our work, we don't slander our social life, Etc. There's nothing that you can do. Why are we learning the articles of Rabash so meticulously? because everything is written there; a person sat and wrote for a period of ten years, what we have to go through. So pay attention to what he wrote for you.
S. So our life isn't just Yeshivat Haverim all the time, we are in the Yeshivat Haverim and have a clear instructions on how to do it. But we see naturally that there are people who bring all the time wholeness into the ten, and there are people who usually bring deficiencies into the ten, what we didn't do and so on. The question is how do we incorporate in the right way that we are constantly working correctly in every moment?
R. When everyone wants from his own mind, from his own point of work, everyone wants to reach completion or completeness. Both within himself when he collects from the society all the points and has to come to his own central point; and also everyone together in the society wanting to reach the center of the spiritual society. Meaning, when we are united together and supporting each other and drawn together forward, towards the end of correction.
S. So, to see that through the ten the right thing for advancement always comes?
R. For advancement, correct, but we have to decide what's good, what's correct for our advancement? when we collect it and make a sum of these states, the right point for advancing to the next point; in this way from point to point, we advance to the end of correction.
30. S. (01:19:47) How to define between slandering and a deficiency so that we see that this is scrutinizing a deficiency and this is already slandering?
R. Do you have children?
S. Yes, two.
R. Just as you behave towards them you are willing to go down on your knees just to do something good for them. So this is what you have to do here, not slander, not presenting yourself as something big, like you do with your children; but on the contrary, you go down on your knees to get closer to them.
S. So in this way also to the group, to put the goal before us and annul like towards a child?
R. Yes yes, yes, learn just as how you behave towards your children, do the same towards the friends.
31. S. (01:21:15) Sometimes you say something like, you are a gentleman, and that awakens in the society a tendency to take the gloves off and speak out more in an open and direct way towards one another and supposedly awakens the left line. What do you exactly mean when you say that word gentleman?
R. That you are phony and hypocritical to each other.
32. S. (01:22:00) I want to ask about the work in coercion because it seems that by the article that there's two types of work, that you coerce the evil in you and that you coerce your actions, so coercing actions I can understand but to coerce the evil in me, I cannot do, I reveal it and I come to the society when I work I reveal my evil but I cannot force it to work in a different way. How do I force the right work on the evil in me?
R. By joining the friends, I see only one trick here.
S. Join the friends is clear but I always only discover evil.
R. Revealing the evil?
S. Yes.
R. Come closer to the friends and you will discover what disturbs you in this and this is called the bad. This is called the bad.
S. I understand it, I reveal it, but I cannot work against it after I discover it and after I work with the friends, I cannot work against it, I cannot do other actions.
R. Join the friends, join them. Relate yourself to them, and this is how you will advance.
S. When he writes that a person does the work in the society, he shows up and then he writes, that he starts forcing himself in the work and he comes to purify and he gets aided by the holy soul, what is this aid that he gets?
R. He gets the upper Force. The Holy Soul is the upper Force, a Holy Soul.
33. S. (01:24:41) I heard a very serious warning from you about slandering, and also in the past we've heard it many times. We know the sentence, he who comes to purify is aided; he who comes to slander is slandered, according to the desire, the Creator fills. So we, a desire to enjoy, how can we produce pleasure from justifying the Creator and not slandering the Creator or the friends? How to reach that right deficiency?
R. We have to constantly check ourselves: What do I want, what does my heart demand? In other words, this is what I want, my desire operates all the time and if my desire is not good, not Kosher let's put it this way, then by this I am demanding from the Creator bad things which are opposite from life's purpose and then it turns out that I move farther away from the goal. This is why we need to see what my desire demands of the Creator because it is always demanding.
S. Exactly, so that's the question: How can we attain a desire not to be in those complaints but to justify the Creator because he's the Good that does good, as we just read. Because our nature as you just said it's exactly the opposite, so how do we exchange that?
R. It is not we who change it first of all, but the Creator changes it, and he changes it if we ask. So, to the extent that I measure my real desire compared to what the Creator probably wants from me, I see the gap between them and over this I ask for correction, for the reforming light to come and to correct me so that my desire will be exactly like the desire of the Creator.
34. S. (01:27:19) We learned for an hour not to be on the left. On the other hand you're telling us that we're hypocrites. It's very hard to hear what you mean that we're hypocrites and how can we not be? I understand what you said about being hypocrites but how can we not be?
R. Bit by bit, by asking the Creator to scrutinize the situation we begin to see how your state is incompatible with any spiritual state, it is lower than all of the spirituality and then you pray and you ask to change yourself.
S. What do you advise us to do in the Ten because we're constantly we're nice to one another, there was something here about always seeing the friends as angels we just read it so we're expecting, how can we make interconnections if we just pet the friends and say oh you're so great you're so nice bring me coffee bring him everything how can you do the work in order to make an inner correction not just external?
R. Internal correction only the Creator can do, none of you. Therefore, we have to ask from the Creator, not that you look at the friend and you expect yourself to change or for the friend to change rather we have to constantly be connected to the Creator and constantly ask of him, you are not depicting the system correctly. The Creator is at the center and at the head of the system and he determines everything. This is why all the changes we want happening or that we don't want happening, we have to turn to him and simply demand and.. direct me while I'm wrong, where I'm not wrong, give me more a better ability to be oriented and where I am
S. Do we need to take some steps in order for the Creator to hear us, do we have to do anything on our behalf towards the ten that the Creator will cooperate with us?
R. You have to pray, pray, each one and everyone together and ask the Creator to help you advance.
S. How should we relate towards one another in the Ten in that state?
R. Do you want me to tell you now the rules of behavior of friends in the Ten?
S. In general.
R. I thought you had it in your phone and you read these rules each day?
S. To keep stroking and petting the friends or to start having it being a bit rude? I don't even want to repeat the sentence you said but how should we behave in the Ten?
R. In the Ten, you have to behave as if it depends on you now if there will be if there is connection between the friends or if there is, if there is connection we can move forward if there isn't we're going backwards, that's it. No, this state is worse than not giving strength to advance together in the ten.
35. S. (01:32:28) Is the answer to our prayers removal of concealment?
R. Yes, that too. When that we want to walk on the path with our eyes open.
36. S. (01:33:02) About that half hour on the left, could we relate that to the tree of knowledge that our Instinct will always be from our reason and we quickly have to raise ourselves above reason?
R. Yes, it could be.
37. S. (01:33:33) How do you recommend for the women to relate to one another? To also take the gloves off and say things of the left or not?
R. Under no circumstances absolutely not, only open the relationships towards a positive line only towards a positive line, that's it, and even in that do not overdo it because it's repulsive if it's not real, if it's not sincere or genuine but as much as possible be in a positive connection and maintain that connection and develop it. That's it.
38. S. (01:34:44) We heard that the 'prayer of many' is the most important, so I wanted to ask that if we Implement that and pray in the many, what should we add upon that? What should we pay attention to?
R. To how accurate this prayer is to how we feel in the bottom of our hearts, these desires that we want to correct, it is all within the prayer, the prayer of many means that we the majority of the group or the whole group or the whole ten wants to turn to the Creator and compel him to correct something for us, something urgent something real as much as possible. This is what we raise him, that's it.
S. Do you think we can add effort, I'm saying from my deficiencies, we are learning this article. It's beautiful, if I can understand its greatness but we constantly get lost in the details and we cannot hit that main point?
R. Our main point is always connection, connection to the Creator in a common prayer, a common deficiency. The deficiency of one doesn't work, at least two,if it's a ten, the Creator does it gladly, so if we come to a deficiency, write down all the deficiencies in the ten, see what is the deficiency that has kind of a red line over all the papers that you wrote and that deficiency which is felt by everyone, pray for this, for the Creator to correct it.
39. S. (01:37:57) How can we make sure that the friend is always in a good mood and in the mood of life as it says?
R. How to see to it? Show her that we are reading important articles, that we are doing important work, and the importance of the goal. This is what everyone who is in a bad mood is lacking. This is what I need to come to, to the importance of the goal and then I don't care if I am alive or dead or I'm going through all kinds of states, as long as I am connected to the right work to advancement, towards eternity, towards the point of connection with the Creator.
40. S. (01:39:37) If a friend shares how hard the work is and how hard to connect is and we're in an egoistic nature, does that also ruin it for the Ten?
R. Yes, you want to do it in a way that you immediately feel the need for correction and we immediately have correction, and we are already engaging in it. We don't leave any criticism midway and remain with a negative feeling.
S. We need to give him an opposite example or to speak about it until at least?
R. Yes, you don't need to give an opposite example, He prepared his explanation, this opening up the fact that we open negative things, opposite them there are positive things and how we approach positive things on top of negative things. otherwise we don't touch anything negative only for opening positive things over it.
S. How can I prepare myself to bring the most benefit to the friends?
R. Just as I said right now.
41. S. (01:41:21) A question about what he writes about above reason first he aims us that we have to reach the prayer from the bottom of the heart then he starts speaking about the greatness of the friends, that you have to get the greatest from the environment; so where do we take the forces from go above reason from the greatness of the friends and then supposedly there is no prayer?
R. If you raise and extol the friends, even though, within yourself, you're not really in it, then you are already trying to go above reason by this.
S. When I get greatness of the goal, not when I lift someone. A friend gave me the greatness of the goal and I didn't pray, does that also mean that I go above reason or not?
R. If you join him then yes, if you don't then you don't.
S. That's called that I went above reason even though I didn't feel the prayer from the bottom of the heart?
R. Yes.
S. If we go according to what he said about coming to the meeting of the friends and giving advice and speaking greatness so that I don't have to think about criticism but just to work in that order and then there is no problem in advising ways to be better?
R. Don't look for yourself for all kinds of allowances to make for yourself, you will still have to follow all of these items that he writes.
S. I don't understand what Rabash writes about the order and how to manage a meeting, we don't go by that one by one?
R. Try. Try I'm not telling you not to.
42. S. (01:43:49) Something we see in the ten let's say somebody thinks we can make something better let's say we're not good at the preparation and a friend says why I want to talk about how we get better in the preparation for the lessons so supposedly those criticism but we want to take it in order to better ourselves so what's the right way to do it?
R. Do you have some time during the day or some other time when you study something or scrutinize something? You need to scrutinize if you should deal with it or not or you should ask a friend that way if it's important and it's this way now if it won't be this way tomorrow.
S. If it's important if we feel that's important to most of the friends in the ten that we devote time to it?
R. Yes.
43. S. (01:44:51) Can you explain the matter of subduing oneself before the friend that Slanders him? on the one hand, he says do that, on the other hand, he says that slandering is something that lowers himself and the friend and there is nothing worse than that. What is the advice here? How to subdue oneself before a friend that is slandering?
R. Subjugating himself before someone who slanders?
S. Yes, that's what he writes, someone is slandering him but he should subdue himself before his friend because that's his equivalence of form and so on. He says that's called awakening from below and even though it's hard, a person cannot always do it, that is what he needs to do.
R. I don't understand. Rabash writes this?
S. He says if a person slanders
R. Oh to him, that's the key.
S. A friend is slandering me, or a different friend. One friend is saying slander on a different friend in the Ten. The friend that is slandering is about him, he has to subdue himself and love the friend that slandered him.
R. Yes.
S. That's the advice?
R. Yes, Why not? By this you raise yourself. You see this as a sign from above from the Creator who is giving you a chance to raise an opportunity in this way.
S. That's a person's work, what is the group's work in this matter? And what about the friend that is slandering now? What should the group do when he hears them slandering?
R. The group should discuss whether this is really slandering or not, and come to a resolution. Does it accept this thing or not?
S. It's not so clear. because we hear it's the worst thing that can happen, slandering. On the other hand we have to justify the friend that is slandering the scale of merit. Why not shut his mouth?
R. Friend, I will come back and we will read this excerpt. Keep it, I will not explain right now.