About the Spiritual Advancement of Women, Talk 2

By Rav Michael Laitman, PhD

December 19, 2007, Tel Aviv, Israel

Host: We received many questions from women who study Kabbalah in Israel and in other countries.

This is a known phenomenon. We always receive a lot of questions from women.

Host: I hope your answers will satisfy them.

If that’s possible! After all, a person that asks a question, especially a woman, feels in advance that the answer cannot satisfy her. This is true because a woman corresponds to the general unfulfilled desire that exists in the universe. Before the final corrected state, a lack of fulfillment will always be felt in this desire.

We should read these questions because by doing so, we will figure out through what method or in what order we can finally reach fulfillment and the end of correction. However, I don’t think that the questions will vanish—this is impossible by nature, and it is good.

Question: What is the most important thing in a woman’s life? According to what will she be judged? And what is unessential or secondary in her life?

Whether or not she will be judged does not pertain to Kabbalah. There is no judge and no judgment, although Kabbalists use this form to explain what a person deserves for his actions in life. It is written that a person stands before a Higher judgment and a judge, but this is just an allegorical form of expression. One needs to know that he himself is a judge, a judgment, and to act accordingly. He needs to reach equivalence to the Creator—after all, the word “Adam” (person) comes from the word “Edame” (resemble). Therefore, a person judges himself in accordance with the degree of his advancement toward the property called bestowal, or the force of love, which is the Creator.

Host: That was about judgment. How about what is most important and what is secondary in a woman’s life?

That is in fact the most important thing in a woman’s life: reaching a property of bestowal and love. As the Torah tells us, “love thy neighbor as thyself.” It is a great rule in the Torah. The Torah tells us about the general law of the universe, the law that encompasses all of reality and governs it. That is in fact the Creator: the property of love and bestowal. Love is a feeling, while bestowal is the action that expresses it. We need to reach a state where all of our desires and intentions will correspond to this general law.

Although we see ourselves as completely opposite to it and the task seems unreal and out of this world, we need to come to this nonetheless because “the law is given and it cannot be stepped over.” We need to follow this law precisely, and this obligation is ultimately placed on men as well as women. Our life seems harder today because we are being hit by nature’s blows, which we receive due to our lack of balance with that same force. These intensifying blows compel us to realize that we can only exist by the condition “love thy neighbor as thyself” and consequently, the act of bestowal.

Host: I think it’s clear what is important in a woman’s life, but can we determine what is unimportant or secondary in her life?

I would say that everything else pertains to that category. After all, why else is a person born? A woman looks for the meaning of occurrences more than men do because she comes from the spiritual root where the feeling of need is deeper than in men. Therefore, she feels it more. A man comes from the side of the bestowing, from the side of the Creator, while a woman comes from the side of creation.

Host: What does it mean that one comes from the side of the Creator or from the side of creation?

All creation consists of ten Sefirot, separated into two parts: the first nine Sefirot pertain to the male structure, and the tenth Sefira Malchut pertains to the female. To put it in simpler terms, Sefirot mean “properties.” The first nine properties represent the property of bestowal, which comes from above in relation to Malchut, which is the creation. Hence, a man has an imprint of the first nine Sefirot, and a woman has an imprint of Malchut, the tenth Sefira. This tenth Sefira consists completely of the need to receive fulfillment.

Meanwhile, a man supposedly has various fulfillments in this world despite the fact that he comes from the first nine Sefirot and from the side of the Creator and it seems that he should be perfect. Although both the man and the woman experienced a breaking and descended, a man still has what to enjoy in life. He is occupied with various tasks: work, sports, fishing, travel, etc. He is like a child and finds various activities for himself his whole life. As Rabash said, just looking at a woman brings a man pleasure. However, a woman doesn’t experience that when she looks at a man.

We can say that a man finds some fulfillment for himself anywhere, and he does it as a way of avoiding suffering, troubles, and an unfulfilled desire. However, it is much harder for a woman. Her fulfillment ultimately depends on a lot of factors in the world—on a man or her children. Therefore, her state in this world is much worse than a man’s. However, in addition to the feeling of need, she also received a great power of opposition, restraint, and stability from nature. Everything is in balance in a woman. A man does not have this. He is impatient, unbalanced, inconsistent, and less stable in all of his states.

Question: Does the spiritual development of a woman occur on an individual basis, or does a woman develop together with all mankind?

As a rule, a woman develops together with all mankind since, as I said earlier, she has to do with Malchut, the common desire. However, along with the common desire, women also have their own personal needs, which they can express by being next to the male part that pertains to them. However, if a woman does not have this male part that works together with her and provides spiritual (rather than material) fulfillment for her, she connects to groups, spiritual unifications, and receives the fulfillment through them.

Question: Once you said that in order to love the Creator, one only needs to ask Him. Does this pertain to everyone?

I am not sure whose question I was answering, since the answer depends on the state of the person who asks. If a woman asks and she aspires for spiritual development, then she too, like a man, needs to find a society that engages in this. She needs to join this society and put effort into it in the form of a desire and an action. And then depending on her contribution, on how much she can participate in the general development of this society, she receives from it accordingly. This constitutes her personal spiritual work, from which no one is excused—neither a man nor a woman.

We cannot say that a woman is a spiritual part that merely passively receives. A woman needs to also actively participate in this. However, her participation consists of helping, supporting, and collaborating. Otherwise, the actions of men are more active, as, in essence, is the case in our life as well.

The primary function of a woman is the creation of a family and connection with kids. However, recently these connections are falling apart. If a woman steps out of these bounds, families fall apart and the natural structure that comes from nature disappears. However, in the spiritual, this is impossible. If we don’t remain in this structure, we don’t advance. Therefore, a woman should take her place precisely, and a man should take his precisely. Then by helping and understanding each other, in a so-called “help against him” they advance together, since both can find out each other’s needs and the positive traits of another.

This means that a woman should either be near a man that works together with her, or with a society that engages in spiritual advancement. One way or the other, she must take part in this. We need to understand that in the end, two parts—a male part and a female part, into which the common soul of Adam ha Rishon separated, need to unite once again by spiritually coming together and supplementing each other. There needs to be mutual work here.

Having separated from Adam, a woman became an individual. She acquired her strength and independence this way. But now, through her free choice and from her own state, she can join Adam once again. Not everything depends on the man in the spiritual. Women have a very big, delicate, and I would say, sensitive role in the spiritual advancement of humanity. First of all, they make up half of humanity, and it is necessary to understand that this part cannot be passive. Second of all, upbringing and dissemination, as processes of birth, are almost completely placed upon women.

Question: Do women’s thoughts unite into a common force? If so, what is this unification called and how is it different from a mutual guarantee?

I will start from the end. A mutual guarantee needs to be carried out by men amongst themselves because they have to do with the bestowing part. Therefore, only a man is capable of feeling the neighbor and to come out of himself in regard to him. However, a woman does not have this obligation. She only has a need, but not the execution of this action. This is why in our life we see that a man addresses a woman and offers himself to her. This comes from nature: a woman waits, and a man comes so to speak. Therefore, the more natural inner action in all of reality—a mutual guarantee—can be realized only among men.

Women need to unite in mutual work with the goal of wakening the men and bringing them together, so that the men would unite with each other and reach the spiritual through this unification. Then through unification and a mutual guarantee between the men, the spiritual will also spread onto the women. As a result, everyone will be a single union—the male and the female part of the nation or of all mankind.

Host: Does it mean that the thoughts of women unite into a single force?

Yes, but not in the same way as the unification of men occurs. Men unite through love toward the neighbor while women unite with the goal of exerting pressure on the men through the common force of unfulfilled desire. Therefore, this is called “help against him”: a woman helps in that she informs the man of the need. He needs to work because of her; because she needs to feed the children, he needs to make money and provide for the family. Thousands of years ago, a man went out to hunt in order to bring home food, and today he goes to the factory or the office to bring home a paycheck. In essence, a woman is concerned with the continuation of existence, and a man brings fulfillment into this existence.

The same thing occurs in the spiritual. If not for the woman, a man would not leave the “home.” He doesn’t care, he would rather play soccer. But a woman compels him to develop, and hence she is the “help against him.” This is a very massive, good, and compelling help, which comes from the nature of each. We need to understand that although a man and a woman are separated from each other, there is no separation in spiritual development.

We also need to see the structure of the universe that existed before the breaking, before the so-called sin of Adam ha Rishon. The destruction, the breaking, and the sin pertain to us—we are in a breaking. However, the structure that influences us from above is whole, and there we exist in perfection. To the extent that we try to draw closer and unite, we will feel much better in this world. Therefore, we need to understand that “work from the opposite,” which pushes us toward unification and perfection, only benefits us.

Host: To summarize, what should constitute the unification of women’s thoughts?

Women should understand that they are responsible for the men’s desire to advance spiritually. This pertains to all of the male kind because we are talking about occurrences in the spiritual, where we are united. The female part and the male part in the spiritual are across from each other and act together harmoniously. Women oblige men to attract Upper fulfillment, and then this fulfillment is divided onto all.

Host: So, it is this understanding that needs to be common in women?

Yes, and it needs to be directed in regard to men. They can unite for this benefit. In other words, one woman should not create any special connection in relation to another woman—this cannot exist between women. However, the connection that gives men the need is possible among women, and it exists for the benefit of creation.

Host: Is this expressed through the dissemination of the science of Kabbalah?

The dissemination of Kabbalah, their relationship with each other, their collaborative studies and work—everything should have the intention to clarify their desire toward the spiritual in the most precise manner: “what is the most clear and beneficial way that we can give our desire to the men, so that they would act just as beneficially and effectively in their work in attracting spiritual fulfillment?” Then together, the male and the female part of humanity rise toward the Upper Light and a better life in the material world. All of this needs to be done by women.

In reality, all unfulfilled desires begin with women. Although men experience desires in this life, they are merely a consequence. We don’t realize this, but in any phenomenon in life the first need comes from the women’s part of the universe. And we are not even talking about the female part of our world here, but rather the female part that exists in general reality. We are talking about negatively charged particles, a part of magnetism, desires, and the whole general concept called femininity, emptiness, and a need that requires fulfillment.

This need acts, and its revelation brings all of realty to a height of equivalence with the Creator. A part of this need, which is called female, exists in a man also, just like a male part exists in a woman. Each of us is built this way as a consequence of the breaking. As a whole, the female part is a huge component of the universe—it is more than half.

Question: What constitutes the common male and female desire, and what is the point of connection between them?

Their connection is in something third, as it is said: “a man and a woman, and Shechina between them.” They cannot be concentrated on each other in a way where I am concentrated on her and she is concentrated on me. We see how such a connection and so-called love does not have a continuation. The fact of the matter is that the male and female parts originally, according to the root, do not exist for the purpose of engaging in one another. As we said already, fulfillment and connection between the nine first Sefirot and Malchut (where the first nine Sefirot are male and Malchut is female) occurs for the attraction of Upper Light and elevation toward it.

Such is the natural placement, and we need to learn it and follow nature. We must examine nature and reproduce its laws onto ourselves. Then our existence will be the most optimal. As soon as we come out of balance with nature and fail to follow its laws, we immediately lose out—this is clear. For example, why don’t we stick our hands into a fire? Because it is against a law of nature. A person cannot fly and therefore he falls if he jumps off the tenth floor.

The same thing occurs here. A person needs to learn the difference in the personalities of men and women in the spiritual. Kabbalah explains this to us clearly. It also presents a way to realize them properly. A man and a woman need to unite—the first nine Sefirot and Malchut—into a full ten Sefirot, a complete construction, from which they can draw fulfillment onto themselves. This common construction represents a Kli, into which the Light can enter. This is why it is written, “a husband and a wife,” meaning two parts that supplement each other, “and Shechina between them,” meaning the Upper Light is inside them. This is why they exist. And although one cannot exist without the other, neither one exists in order to fulfill the other. After all, what can they offer each other?

Host: But love is what holds up the whole world and all of life! All of human history was devoted to a search of love!

Yes, precisely, a search—well said! Love pushes the world to search for development, but it is never fulfilled! It only leads to even greater unfulfilled desires. After all, what is the result of the connection between a man and a woman in the material world? The result is birth of children. This is the material, and I would even say, an animal result, but it exists. And what should be done about the inner, spiritual part?

Host: There is the feeling of happiness…

What feeling? What happiness is there from the fact that the man fulfills the woman, and the woman fulfills the man? This never happens. You see that it is not enough; people constantly want more and more. They search but never find fulfillment. They think that this search is in itself some kind of fulfillment. We don’t reach perfection here. Perfection in our relationships is not in directedness toward each other. What can a woman fill a man with, and what can a man fill a woman with?

However, if we are united with each other and work properly, together we can attract the Upper Light, which will help us to come out of our egoistic nature, to feel spiritual life, and reach eternity and perfection. This is what needs to happen in the world now. The reason that we are now experiencing a crisis in the institution of marriage and the upbringing of children is that we need to feel the connection between us as corrupt, in order to fix it.

Gradually, with the help of general upbringing and the realization of why we need love, this connection will become true. After all, when a man loves a woman, or a woman loves a man, or one loves others according to the commandment “love thy neighbor as thyself,” this love is completely unlike hormonal animal love.

Host: Why do you call this feeling “animal” if it is so highly esteemed and valued by humanity?

I am not crossing it out from reality, but this urge exists in a person because he has hormones: men have male hormones, and women have female hormones. There is nothing good or bad about it—it is nature. I am not running away from it in any way. I understand everything we are talking about. However, this feeling is completely unrelated to the realization of a human being. It is merely an execution of our natural, physical tendencies, which exist in our material, animal body.

Our bodies pertain to the animal, and not the human level. They exist according to laws followed by all living creatures, and there is nothing more there. We can influence the tendencies of the body through some medicinal intervention, and instead of a woman, it will desire a man or even some kind of an animal. This comes from our animal step.

I am not denying our animal instincts by any means, and I don’t consider them loathsome. Such is the construction of a human being, and we should exist that way. However, from that step, we also need to see a spiritual connection between us, which pertains to the human level, and to realize it. We should not despise materiality, but rather rise above it, examine it, and also extract a spiritual part in the interactions of a man and a woman. Then we need to give birth to spiritual “descendants,” a spiritual result—new fulfillments, in which we, the male and the female parts of the soul, can constantly develop. This is called our “descendants.” In other words, it is us, only we exist on higher steps of ascension in equivalence to the Creator.

Host: These things are very abstract. Would you please explain it more simply: what does it mean that “we are on a higher step”?

This concept is not so abstract. By realizing the proper connection between us, we reach an eternal life. A proper connection means that every person supplements another for the purpose of drawing the Upper Light and achieving spiritual perfection. In other words, not material well-being, not hormonal satisfaction, but spiritual life: fulfilling each other with the intention to reach bestowal and love. However, this is not that love, where we love each other in order to feel well. If the hormonal desire will be taken away from a person, he will not even look at a woman. He will look at her like at a wall and nothing more, like at an object that exists next to him. We perceive a woman as a woman only because we have a physical need.

However, now we need to connect to each other not through material, but through spiritual love. Then each person will come out from himself and love everyone else. Each person will work in regard to his partner not for his personal interest of becoming fulfilled, but in order to fulfill him. We need to feel the neighbor, and it does not necessarily need to be a relationship between a man and a woman. For the sake of explanation, we can just talk about a “neighbor.”

Hence, if a person reaches out toward the neighbor, toward an object that exists outside of him, then the sex of that person is irrelevant. If one wants to give, his desire no longer differentiates between those material animal definitions, which he received from birth. It works in accordance with the need of the neighbor: if there is someone or something that desires fulfillment, he is ready to provide it. This is called an expression of love.

If I approach others this way, and another person approaches me this way, then we are already in connection. And then each person comes out of himself toward another person with real love, which is called spiritual. Equivalence to the Upper Force, which is completely bestowing, is revealed through this work with each other.

Host: What does it mean that the Upper Force is bestowing? What does it give and to whom?

The Upper Force gives us life, it gives us everything, but it acts in accordance with our need. If a person loves another spiritually, he is forced to turn away from all of his own needs, desires, and plans, and to tune into the other person’s needs, to feel them like they exist in him, and how he wishes to fulfill them but yet he lives inside himself. And we see ourselves as a means to fulfill another person.

Host: What does this give me?

It gives you equivalence to the Creator. You reach His level! And then you are perfect and fulfilled like He is. This means that you rise to a state, where you are eternal and perfect. I am describing this in seemingly egoistic terms, but the most important thing is that we rise to the highest degree of nature.

Host: What does the highest degree of nature have to do with it? We were talking about two people who love each other, and you said that it is not love at all! If you give us an example of a different kind of love, then maybe we can understand this.

But we understand it already! Do I really need to explain to someone today that attraction between a man and a woman is not love? I am not even talking about the spiritual yet; I am talking about the material world. We all agree that here we are talking about a phenomenon that comes from nature. A mother loves her kids because she is created to love them on the animal level. The term “animal” is not criticism; it is the level of our bodily existence. When children are born, the nature of a mother forces her to take care of them. We can call this love, but it does not pertain to the human level.

Host: Let’s get back to the relationship of a man and a woman. You are saying that their feelings toward each other in this world are not love, and there is a different kind of love, which is an elevation into the spiritual world toward the Upper level of nature. Let’s imagine a couple that is listening to us right now. Can they understand what you mean? What is the Upper level of nature and where is it?

Everything results from the structure of the common soul of Adam ha Rishon, which, as it is written, was “the Creator’s handiwork” and was situated on His level. In order for Adam ha Rishon to become independent, rather than just the Creator’s creation, and to reach perfection, he separated into two parts. These two parts—the man and the woman—separated into a billion other parts and fell into this world. In this world we are now going through a process of clarification: where are we and what is happening to us.

As a result of this clarification, the men and the women need to unite once again into that construction of Adam ha Rishon, but this time according to our desires and our efforts. Then we will come to that same state that existed before. However, before it was built by the Upper Force and now it will be built by our desire. This is a very big difference, which gives us an understanding of this state and an opportunity for conscious existence.

It is necessary to hear these things repeatedly and gradually imagine them. Such is the purpose of creation, and we cannot ignore it and consider ourselves free. One way or another, we are in this process, and therefore it pays for us to understand it, since it is realized in us. The purpose and the destination of men and women, the two parts of creation, consist in uniting in order to reach this state.

Host: So the common desire of men and women is defined as reaching that state?

Yes, to reach that state where they were united in the soul of Adam ha Rishon, completely and mutually supplementing each other.

Question: We need to exist in unity with the law of nature. What does this unity mean?

We cannot avoid the explanation we began in a previous question. Unity means that each person comes out of his own desires and needs, instead of them feels the desires and needs of his neighbors, and lives in order to realize them and fill them.

Host: Is this a psychological process?

Yes, it is a psychological process. Baal HaSulam wrote that there is nothing more to this than a psychological effort, but due to this psychology we reach a completely opposite perception of the world compared to our current perception. We will begin to see the world though the desires of others. One cannot fathom this now—great work is needed in the inner development of a person in order for him to be able to turn away, come out of himself and clothe into another person, feel the desires of all creation that exists outside of him. Right now, a person feels only himself; he is built this way. One needs to receive a special force in order to come out of himself. How can he do this?

By studying Kabbalah, a person gradually acquires this force. This is why Kabbalah is called a science of reception—it teaches one how to accept all of the surrounding reality as if he himself does not exist, and rather he is its objective part and does not depend on his good or bad sensations.

In his own life, a person can differentiate between good and bad, but if it concerns his desires, he does not see anything at all. Why doesn’t he see the spiritual world? It is because he doesn’t desire it, he doesn’t know what it is, and he doesn’t have a desire for it. If one would feel a desire for the spiritual, he would see that a different reality surrounds him, but now he doesn’t see it.

Because a person studies Kabbalah, he comes out of himself and begins to feel the reality that surrounds him. He discovers a whole world, which he did not perceive before. He reveals all of the enormous desire that exists outside and begins to see it as a place, which he must fill. How can he fill it? There is a source of fulfillment, the Light, which is called the Upper Force, or the Creator. A person perceives this when he comes out of himself. He addresses this source for fulfillment; the fulfillment passes though him and fills the others. As a result, a person merges with the Upper Light, the source, and becomes equal to it in his actions directed at others.

By carrying out these actions, a person rises from the material level of existence to the level of the Creator, the level of the Upper Force. The Upper Force means the highest in nature, beyond time, space, and motion. The physical body can cease to exist, but the person won’t even notice that his body has vanished, since he has already come out of it and acquired the desires of others, his neighbors, and began to work with them. Meanwhile, he identifies himself only with his soul.

Host: What does it mean that a person does not feel that his body has vanished? This sounds unreal somehow.

It is a psychological issue.

Host: So, a person does not notice that he has died?

I usually compare this to how we cut our nails or hair. When we cut our hair, do we feel pain or not?

Host: We notice that it happens.

We notice it, but that’s it. Why don’t we feel pain? Our bodies pertain to the animal level, and our hair pertains to the vegetative. There are the still, the vegetative, and the animal levels. Being on the animal level, we can kill the vegetative level in us and not feel pain or any loss from it. If a person rises above the still, vegetative, and animal levels, to the speaking level, to the level of a human being…

Host: How do we rise?

Through that action that we spoke about, by coming out of our own desires to the desires of others.

Host: That is called transgressing to the level of a human being? And what happens then?

Then what happens to you on the animal level is not felt by you as pain.

Host: What is the animal level? The level of a human being is coming out of yourself to the neighbor, and the animal level is one’s feeling inside of himself?

The animal level is when you feel inside yourself, and the human level is when you feel inside others.

Host: So, that means if I reach the feeling of others, I no longer care what happens to me?

You perceive yourself only as a means of fulfilling others. If there is a necessity for it, this means exists, and if not, then it does not. You part with your life just like you cut your hair, and there is no sensation of death in this.

Question: This sounds like a separation from reality, like going off into an unreal world: “I don’t care what happens to my body…”

This is not why we study Kabbalah. We study it in order to rise to a higher level of existence. People who come to Kabbalah are looking for the answer to the question “what is the meaning of my life?”

A person cannot ask his body, “Why am I alive?” Does a person live in order to eat, give birth to children, play various games, take interest in different women, travel, or work hard? The question “why am I alive?” is higher than the physical body. The physical body simply exists for a given number of years, and the question “what is the meaning of my life” pertains to the end, the bottom line of this existence. This question is attained either in the end or in the middle of life, but our material life is a mule (a mule – Hamor, has a common root with the word Homer – material), through which a person needs to reach something.

People come to Kabbalah with this question. They already have an inner sensation that life does not end along with the physical, animal body. Otherwise, why should one live? A person would rather tune out from reality with the help of drugs or terror, or take his own life altogether, than feel its meaninglessness. Or, give him something to enjoy and let him forget about everything: a thousand TV channels, for example.

We come to a question of “what is the meaning of my life,” which exists above our bodies. And in order to solve this question, a person needs to come out of his body, into a reality that exists outside, as though the body does not exist, since this question does not pertain to the body. And everything outside of my body is called “neighbors,” or others. When you turn to others and begin to fill their desires, you suddenly understand that if you perceive others and treat them in this manner, you are similar to the Creator. They become a place for fulfillment for you. In accordance with this, you feel that you have what to fill them with, and through this action you become equal to the Creator.

Someone else’s desire, which a person adjoins to himself, is called a woman in regard to him, while he is called a man, the one who fulfills. All of humanity, including men as well as women, the totality of the souls except the person himself, the overall desire—the Hisaron, is a woman in regard to him. Meanwhile, he equalizes to the Creator.

Host: Let’s say that I am a woman (all of our questions are asked by women), then all of humanity in regard to me is like a woman, and by coming out of myself in the direction of them, do I become a man in regard to them? Do I become equivalent to the Creator?

No, we already said that female souls are not created in order to come out of themselves, to fill the desires of the neighbor and to love them. Women’s desires are summoned to compel the male part to fill them, and this is how their contribution is measured. This is a very important role, without which the male part will not move an inch.

Question: And then women become equal to the Creator?

Then a man and a woman supplement each other. To the extent that a woman rouses the male part to reach fulfillment, she joins them in a non-egoistic form, and due to this she reaches the same level. And through the man, she too becomes equal to the Creator. They are like Adam and Chava, who return to their root.

Host: I am going to ask a question that is not written down anywhere. Is it good to be like the Creator?

I don’t know. Try it.

Host: I will attempt to try.

Question: Does a woman have to follow the commandment to love the neighbor and other commandments after she crosses the Machsom? How will a woman change in general after she crosses the Machsom?

A woman does not need to follow the commandment “Love thy neighbor as thyself” directly, only through rousing this desire in the male part. This has to do with the root of the soul. Over the course of the whole path, the one in whom a female soul incarnates must work like a woman, and the one in whom a male soul is incarnated must work like a man.

It is said, “The soul of a person will teach him.” We don’t need to explain what will happen before the Machsom and what will happen after. When a person begins to study Kabbalah, it leads him from one stage to another in accordance with how he needs to develop, in order and correctly, from the cause to the effect, from step to step. A person—men as well as women—receives an explanation of what he needs to do.

The studies give him an answer from the depth of himself. What he sees and hears is not an answer. He needs to receive the answer from within, from attainment and inner understanding. Then he will know how to realize himself, and especially after the Machsom. This entire instruction is implanted in us, and by studying we only attract Light, a special force that reveals the soul in us—in men and in women. This way we feel better what we need to do and how to advance to that special place.

Question: How can we increase our Kelim if we only support the men?

A man has no greater desire for the spiritual than that which he receives from a woman. We spoke about the fact that the ten Sefirot separated into nine first Sefirot and Malchut. Malchut is called a woman, and the nine first Sefirot pertain to the man. The first nine Sefirot do not feel the need to develop spiritually unless Malchut joins them. We need to understand that it is a vitally important need, and a man cannot reach greater spiritual attainment than the desire that he receives from the female part, the Nukvah. A man and a woman need to unite in order to create spiritual states in the same way that they need to unite in our world in order to give birth to the next generation.

Host: So, how can women enlarge their Kelim if they only support the men?

When they support the men, their Kelim also grow. They connect to the first nine Sefirot, the desire to bestow, which is particular to men, and because of the interaction between men and women, they enlarge their Kelim.

Host: Why did the men receive a whole nine Sefirot and women received only one? It seems unfair.

The nine Sefirot have one force of bestowal just like Malchut has only one force of reception.

Host: So, there exist two forces: the force of influence, love, and bestowal, and the force of reception stands against it. Isn’t there some discrimination?

Of course, but it is called the first nine Sefirot in regard to Malchut.

Host: What terms does a woman have to know for spiritual advancement, except the names of the Partzufim, the Sefirot, and the worlds?

She doesn’t even have to know that. She needs to read articles about the development of the soul. I can name two main sources for the spiritual development of a woman: they are the book of Shamati, which consists of Baal HaSulam’s talks and narratives, and a book called Shlavei ha Sulam (The Steps of Ascension), which includes articles written by Rav Baruch Shalom Ashlag (Rabash).

Rabash wrote these articles when I brought forty students to him. By the way, those of them who were not married immediately got married since it was an obligatory condition. We still need to talk about the fact that a person who wishes to reach the spiritual absolutely must be married.

Host: That is already a talk for men.

We can understand from that how much a woman helps a man develop. Without her his spiritual development is simply impossible. Rav Baruch did not accept unmarried men at all. After they got married, Rav began to write articles, which addressed men and women equally. He wanted women to gather and read these articles, so they would want to help men and accordingly, advance themselves.

Host: So, the book Shlavei ha Sulam is appropriate for women?

Yes, it consists of five volumes, and there is plenty to read there. But a woman is not prohibited from studying other materials also.

Host: But the books you mentioned are obligatory, the basis, and everything else is supplementary.

Question: What spiritual levels does a woman attain in the process of learning (if that’s possible at all), or does her role consist only in attending for the men and pushing them toward correction?

To the extent that a woman helps, supports, and strengthens the desire and the aspiration for the spiritual in the male part, she tunes into the male part, which cannot advance without her, and in unification with the male part, she receives fulfillment.

Host: What levels does she attain?

She attains the same thing as a man.

Host: In other words, there are no separate spiritual ladders for men and women?

One cannot exist without the other! This is why Rabash demanded that all of his students immediately get married. Until Rabash got married, Baal HaSulam did not allow him (his elder son) to study. He got married at 18 and half years old, since he was already old enough. However, Baal HaSulam did not allow him to be present at the lessons. “Sometimes I would hear a couple of words when he allowed me to bring him a cup of coffee,” Rabash used to say. “And he would wait for me to leave the room.” Didn’t Baal HaSulam want his son to study? But it was very important to him that his desire be whole.

Rav Baruch used to tell me that his parents came back home one night and said, “Baruch, we found you a wife. The wedding is on Thursday.” They lived in Jerusalem then, and this was the custom. It was in 1925. He was born in 1905 and got married in 1925. A couple of guests gathered outside. Each one received a cup of tea and a piece of cake. People lived very humbly back then. Those were not today’s weddings with fireworks. He married a girl who never saw him and knew nothing about him, and next morning he attended his father’s lesson. Baal HaSulam said, “Now you’re fine. Sit down and begin to study.”

What is the difference between a young man before and after the wedding night? What changes when a person carries out the act of physical closeness? Why do Kabbalists so persistently demand for this material correction (having a wife) to be strictly followed? This is because it is a reflection of a spiritual state, which compels a man to advance. To the extent that he advances, he is obliged to immediately adjoin the desire of the woman, since without her he will be unable to advance. Therefore, this law must be rigorously followed in the material world.

Host: When a man and a woman advance by the spiritual ladder, they go through the same 125 degrees and attain the same spiritual levels.

However, this issue is much looser for women: they don’t need to get married in order to advance spiritually.

Host: This obligation is only placed on men? It’s not fair. It is sexual discrimination.

The fact of the matter is that a woman’s desire originates from Malchut, and she must give it to the first nine Sefirot.

Host: In other words, her desire is present in her from the start, and he must adjoin this desire to himself?

This is why in our world, a woman wants to get married but behaves in a passive manner, and with men it is the opposite. It is said in the Talmud that “a woman will decline nine measures and freedom” for “one measure and independence.”

Question: Is it possible to reach the spiritual only through the dissemination of Kabbalah, or is a balance between dissemination and the studies necessary?

There must be both. Yes, there is a difference between the work of men and women, and in our world too there are constant debates about the women’s and the men’s places in society. However, in the spiritual, it is very precisely, clearly, and specifically defined. From the spiritual root to our material world everything is clear. It requires clarification, but it doesn’t change like in our life, where today it is one way and tomorrow it is the opposite.

Therefore, proper correlation consists of the following: a woman must study and do dissemination, and also help the men. All of these tasks need to exist in a certain correlation depending on the properties of each woman.

Host: In other words, it is individual?

Yes, of course. There are women with literary skills, who know how to edit, translate, or teach the children and explain spiritual concepts to them—all of them join the work of the world organization Bnei Baruch in dissemination, preparation of materials, or the upbringing of children. Every month we publish at least a couple of books in different languages. If it weren’t for the women, we would not be able to prepare all of these materials. This work involves the internet, the audio, and the video production. We are only able to carry out this enormous volume of work thanks to the participation of women. Men are busy with other tasks. Men are more involved in maintenance, and women are involved in the processing of materials in all the various means of mass communication.

Question: What proportion should exist between the studies and dissemination, whether it is translations or something else?

A woman must study for at least half an hour a day. Moreover, it is best if she listens to a part of the morning lesson on a daily basis. Our lesson is divided into three parts, and the third part of the lesson is usually more universal. Therefore, she can listen to the third part of the lesson or to my lectures for the general public.

A woman doesn’t need to understand in detail the arrangement of the universe and to know the acting mechanism of the laws of spiritual physics. For a woman it is enough to have a general understanding, and she should devote all other time to dissemination and help. Because of this she joins the male part and gives them her desire, her Hisaron. This is her spiritual contribution, through which she becomes corrected.

Question: Why don’t women want to be corrected?

Do men want to be corrected? I think men want it even less than women. There are always more women than men in all the groups. There are always more women at my public lectures, although lately there is a tendency, where the ratio of men and women is approximately the same as that of the world.

Host: Why is it that there are more women?

A woman feels a lack. She cannot enjoy this life the way a man does. A man has the first nine Sefirot inside. This means that there are many temptations in his life that allow him to feel more or less decently.

Host: He has many toys…

Yes, he has many toys, and a woman does not. She is not satisfied by these toys. She is more serious and practical. If it weren’t for the children that fill her life, she would exist in a state of horrible dissatisfaction all the days of her life. The children and the home fulfill her somehow and soften the sensation of an inner lack.

However, right now we are living in a period when the egoistic desire is growing, and children (even small children) are not perceived as very close to the home. The egoistic desire is growing stronger in everyone, in parents as well as children, and it increases the distance between them. The feeling of belonging to the parents is growing progressively smaller in children. The new generation is arranged this way, and it is neither good nor bad, it is the process of the world’s development. Children feel, “This is my home, these are my parents, but I am of my own accord.” They are not tied to the parents the way they were before, in previous generations. This distance between the parents and the children will grow larger and larger.

Therefore, today a woman feels less satisfaction than before. Her egoistic desire has grown, the distance between her and her kids has increased, the kids can no longer fill her inner needs, her desires have gone beyond the limits of taking care of children. Also, we see that there has emerged a feministic movement, women want to influence and control the world. Why does this occur? It is because the ego is growing, and it is no longer satisfied by only the home and the children.

Host: Is this bad? When you say that the ego is growing it sounds like a condemnation.

It is neither good nor bad. It is evolution. We can only say whether it is good or bad with respect to our correct or incorrect use of this evolution. Development exists, and it is for our benefit—this is how we need to perceive it. Only a fool can go against nature and say, “This development is bad. I don’t accept, and I will break it.”

One cannot go against nature. We are parts of nature, and everything in us is from nature. We can watch what is happening to us—that’s something different, but we cannot oppose this life and its development. We are trying to do this in the areas of upbringing and governmental regimes, and we see how much harm we cause ourselves.

We cannot, we simply cannot go against nature! What does the science of Kabbalah tell us? Learn from Upper nature, find out how it governs us, build your life path on that basis, and you will achieve success.

Therefore, we must understand that the egoism of a woman will grow stronger, the distance between her and the kids will increase, her desires will grow, and then her pressure on the male part will also grow significantly, so that they will bring her fulfillment, and fulfillment that is more verified, spiritual fulfillment.

Question: What can support a woman during a time of realization of evil?

If it’s possible, a connection with other women who are also on the same path can help her.

Host: Maybe you can explain in a few words what a realization of evil is?

The realization of evil means that one has not received fulfillment. He still cannot receive it because he is unable to bestow and to bring his desire to fulfillment. He wants the spiritual, he wants to rise above this life, but he cannot, and he does not know what it depends on. There are different levels of realization of evil.

Host: What can help in moments of realization of evil?

First of all, good organization among women can help to some extent. But we cannot depend on that so much because after all, even when a man feels bad, he doesn’t want to communicate with anyone and it is difficult for him to be in contact with others. I am talking about beginners because a more advanced person understands that he needs to connect to others precisely in spite of this feeling.

Besides this, what helps a woman is the support that she renders the men’s group—her work. She must carry out the work that she took upon herself to do regardless of all of these states, desires, thoughts, and moods. This work in preparation, dissemination, upbringing, the processing of materials—everything that we give you an opportunity to do, not even because we need this work done, but because the person needs it in order to bestow to others and advance this way.

Just like a man, if a woman stops participating in the dissemination of the science of Kabbalah, she can no longer help herself, she descends (this pertains to men also), breaks away from the connection to those who are advancing, and she can no longer be helped. It is like a person who becomes sick in some neck of the woods, where there are no clinics or hospitals, and then let be what may.

Therefore, you need to maintain your connection to our organization, participate in as many projects as possible, create some kind of interconnection that will compel you to continue to work even when you are not in the mood, since this does happen.

Question: Does spiritual work between women exist even on a minimal level?

No, spiritual work among women consists of talking about how to influence the men, how to help them and support them so they would reach a spiritual reward, spiritual fulfillment from above. And of course, women need to interact in mutual work. In other words, they need to develop a work relationship between them, but not an inner one, from soul to soul.

Question: Can you give a clear borderline between what a woman should and should not do?

Love for the neighbor, which men develop in their group and which Rabash writes about in his articles about the group in the book “The Steps of Ascension” is work that is meant only for men.

Question: If two women participate together in a project of dissemination of Kabbalah…

They can talk about the fact that they want to influence the men through their work and their inner desire, so they would advance. And they will receive fulfillment in this desire “for the men to advance.”

Question: Can a woman tell her girlfriend how in her eyes the spiritual is an exalted and great concept, how the spiritual attracts her, and how she is ready to put her life on the line for it?

No, we don’t even do this among men.

Question: In other words, women should not talk to each other about the greatness of the goal?

They should talk about the greatness of the goal, but not about what I want and what I feel, but about how great and meaningful the goal itself is. Then they are talking about the goal and the greatness of the Upper Force.

Host: Should they do that?

Yes, of course. After all, a woman is under the influence of other women even more than she is under the influence of men. There is competition between them, and what other women say about her is more important to a woman than what men say about her.

Host: Our next question is: “what can help in the realization that one is advancing in the right direction, and how can one return to the right path?”

It is only the connection with the group, the organization, a set daily routine, week, month, and year. There are holidays, events, we gather at international Congresses, we have meals, lectures, and so on. A woman must be connected to all of our tasks in all the places in the world. If she takes upon herself as many responsibilities as possible, this will guard her in any states because she will be obliged to carry them out. It will help her rise from level to level, from state to state, taking part in the common world group, which exists and advances toward correction as one common soul.

However, if a woman does not have this connection and this routine, then just like a man, she will be unable to advance. Everything depends on the daily routine. The spiritual is felt in us as ascents and descents, changes of states, changes in health, mood, and everything else. If a person does not tie himself to the common “wagon,” he will fall.

Host: The next question was asked by a 16-year old girl: “Many women ask what they can help the men with. I am 16 years old, and I don’t have a boyfriend yet. I would be very interested to study Kabbalah. I am open to it, although I treat it critically. What should I do? Until now, I attended lessons with my mom a few times.”

She should continue. She doesn’t need anything else; there is no coercion in the spiritual. One shouldn’t try to do anything by force or “break” himself. However, she should continue to stay interested, read, choose materials that are more favorable to her, more comprehensible, which she likes more and feels more connected with.

Also, she should see what others do. Other girls of 15-16 years old can also join us; they can join our work in serving the world, which we carry out in order to serve humanity through Kabbalah. She can participate in this and find some niche for herself. Possibly, what she will do for us will help her understand what profession she wants for the future. This happens often here. Some people here are planning to receive doctorates in Kabbalah, others purposely study computers in order to join us and help us later. This determines many things for a person. He begins to tune into the spiritual and material life in one bundle and clarifies his life this way. I strongly recommend for her, and everyone else, to act this way.

Host: And does the fact that she doesn’t have a boyfriend pose a problem?

No, for a woman it doesn’t matter—not at 15-16, and not at 35 years old. Besides, we try to fulfill that side as well. We try to help those who study with us, the men as well as the women, to find a mate for themselves.

Host: Next question: “If my state doesn’t change over a long period of time, does it mean that I am studying Kabbalah incorrectly, or do I just have elephant skin?

It could be both simultaneously. However, everything depends on the effort. Of course, every person has his own Aviut, his own “skin.”

Host: Every person has his own elephant, a big elephant or a small elephant.

That’s right—a thick one or a thin one. Certain people are more perceptive, others are more “thick-skinned,” and some are completely impenetrable. But ultimately no one can withstand a human desire, and one only needs to exert more effort. Then we see that a person for whom it was so difficult and therefore he had to exert so much more effort than others, springs forward, and his jump is incomparably larger than others’. In other words, effort is never wasted.

Host: Some of our listeners may be thinking that Rav Laitman constantly says that we need to exert more and more effort. It sounds like a mantra or a promise of some sort. In response to many questions, we heard that “one needs to exert more effort.” Is it possible that he is promising something to us now, and then nothing will come out of it?

I am sorry, but don’t you need to put effort into your existence in this life?

Host: Yes, but in this life we have at least some signs on the way, at least something...

No, you just got used to it, and everyone does it. This is why we say that “the suffering of many is half the comfort.” We know that we need to work: get up early in the morning, run somewhere, work there. As a rule, the places where we are forced to work don’t provide us any pleasure, and we would not have chosen them for our pastime.

Host: But we have to do that…

Where does this “have to” come from? Why do you “have to”?

Host: If I don’t work, I don’t have an income, and I won’t be able to eat.

So, you should come to Kabbalah precisely with such a desire: “I have to.” Otherwise, don’t come.

Host: But at work, I receive a paycheck at the end of each month…

Do you want a spiritual paycheck? Do you feel that you need it? Then come, give effort, and you will receive it. If you don’t need a spiritual reward, don’t come. A person that comes to Kabbalah comes with the question “what is the meaning of my life?” Such a person has no life! He comes to save himself. He does not come in order to fill his free time with some hobby. Therefore, we are talking about people for whom it is a need, they feel a need in this. A person feels that if not for this, then why should he live?

Host: But this process that you are describing demands so much effort and sounds so difficult. One needs to give more and more and more…

But you are advancing every time, you feel how more and more is revealed to you, you begin to understand more, feel more, the boundaries of your perception are broadened. You begin to feel like a person. You feel that Hissaron, that unfilled desire, which you have come to, how it increases and becomes filled, increases and becomes filled. You advance in your perception of life. If it is necessary for you, you come to Kabbalah.

Kabbalah was hidden for thousands of years because people did not have this desire. They did not feel the need for spiritual life. Life passed by in darkness. Now in the population of the world we find a greater and greater percentage of people who ask the question regarding the meaning of life. What does the new generation ask? It asks what it should live for. This is why hyperactivity is being revealed in them, they don’t want to study, they don’t want this life that we have. They are asking what they need this for. This is precisely what characterizes the new generation.

Therefore, one in whom this question “why” emerges needs to either fulfill it and receive an answer, or to turn to drugs meanwhile or something else that will calm him down. This hyperactivity that we see in the new generation is a sign that something is gnawing at them from the inside.

Host: What is gnawing them?

Still unrealized unfulfilled desires are gnawing them. These are new desires, which we are incapable of filling. So, we give them Ritalin instead.

Host: Can you explain it in simpler terms? What are those “unrealized unfulfilled desires”?

Those are desires from a different state, a different level of existence.

Host: They are new desires in the generation?

Yes, and it doesn’t even realize it yet. A child doesn’t understand yet that it is a desire to feel life not on the same level as his parents.

Host: Why? What is so bad about his parents?

Before this generation, we developed by the material, animal path. Our animal body somehow pushed us forward.

Host: Why the body? People studied in universities and developed. Art developed. What body?

Yes, but that is called a bodily development: when one receives a push toward the fulfillment of his bodily desires…

Host: What do you mean by “bodily desires”?

These are food, sex, family. And we have human desires, which are given to us by human society: to develop and fulfill the desires for power, money, and education.

Host: What about knowledge?

Education is knowledge.

Host: And this is how it was until now?

Yes, this is how it was until now. From now on we are entering a crisis, a breaking point. What is that breaking point and why do we call it that? It is a breaking point from all previous development, the end of all previous development.

Host: What constitutes the end?

What is ending? The concept of family—that basis that we have in the bodily material life—is breaking. And money, power, and knowledge don’t attract the young generation. They need it in order to exist, but the question that emerges in them is above money, power, and knowledge. They even neglect all this. They want something beyond all this. What is beyond? They don’t know yet, but the question itself already exists.

Host: How do you know this? If we ask the kids, they won’t tell us what you are telling us.

I see that this is what is happening. What do they want?

Host: They want to sit at the computer. If you provide them with food, they will sit at the computer all day.

It is a temporary game. We are in a transitional period. I still caught a part of the chain of Kabbalists that stretched from Adam ha Rishon to Rabash, with whom I studied. However, I see the new generation that already pertains to a completely different period. This is a transitional generation.

Why is it transitional? Neither they nor we can distinguish this new need, a new desire, in them. A person advances through unsatisfied needs, desires. We have bodily and human desires, which we just spoke about. But a new need, a new desire, emerges here, and it exists above our bodily and human desires. It is a need for spiritual development, and it is what they have and what forces them to ask the question “why”. This is why they roam about on the internet. Why do we need the internet? We need it in order to discover very quickly that there is nothing to find in this world.

Host: In other words, we need the internet in order to learn this quickly?

This is precisely why the internet developed.

Host: Before one would need to go abroad and travel for a few years, and now we have the internet for that.

Today they know in advance that there is nothing in any of this. And ultimately, over the next few years, you will see to what extent all of this will begin to fall apart: all of those blogs, correspondences, rumors, connections—all of that will decline. We see how quickly these kind of things change. However, the desire will be more clarified, and we will feel even worse. Right now we are still looking for ways to fill ourselves; we have a thousand TV channels and we can go anywhere we want on the internet.

Host: The internet is a world of infinity.

Yes, and in a couple of years you will see that you will not want to go there. What can we look for there? We don’t want it anymore. We will not find what we want there. We tried and we have already tired of it.

And then a very strong cry of that generation will sound, after it has gone through the internet and now has nothing to fill itself with. Once we wanted to fly to the moon or somewhere else. All of those seemingly high human aspirations are greatly reduced and then vanish. And what do we come to? We come to what Kabbalists spoke of. As Baal HaSulam wrote, at the end of the 20^th century we enter a new generation, the generation of the Mashiach.

We are now in the generation of the Mashiach. It is only the beginning of its development, but we already exist in it. And the only question of this generation is “for what do we live?” It is directed to clarify the purpose of life, and this purpose comes from the place, from which our life descended. We need to find out where our whole continuation is heading. This question pertains not only to this life; in a way, we are asking about all the previous reincarnations, although we don’t understand, don’t realize this yet. We are asking why we exist in this world in general, why we went though all the previous lives, why we are alive now in this reincarnation, and what will happen later. Will we die again, then live again, and so on and on? Is there any purpose in this? If there is, we want to see it. Otherwise, we have no reason to exist now.

This will lead to suicides and general despair. Depression is presently first among all the illnesses in the world—it has turned into a modern epidemic. Suicides, drugs, and terrorism—all of that comes from disappointment. A person who has what to fill his life with does not engage in these things—he moves ahead, achieves something, fills himself, and enjoys life. But if we look at the world, none of this exists, and the blows are intensifying. As a matter of fact, we are in the process of disintegration of human systems. All of civilization is beginning to find that we are incapable of maintaining ourselves. And all of this will now be felt in all its strength by the new generation.

Therefore, we, Kabbalists, must provide them with a method of correction, a method of existence, revelation of the goal and the reason, the means of advancement. Without this we don’t leave anything positive behind for our children. We need to take care of this.

Host: Are you pessimistically inclined?

No, I am sure that we will give them a good inheritance. I am sure of this. I see that we, Kabbalists, are in the same process and right now we have the ability and the strength, we can prepare a new path for them. This way, when that moment comes and the desires of these boys and girls will become more revealed, when they will learn more what they really want, there will be the right book nearby, the right method, and the technical means for connection between them and for a message in the world, so they will be able to realize it all. We need to prepare this for them. A transitional generation is when we, as parents, need to prepare the method for them, and they, being children, need to reveal it and work out their spiritual need properly. And then a generation will come that will realize it.

Host: Here is the last question. My impression is that it was asked from the very bottom of the heart. A woman writes, “No matter how much you explain, I still don’t understand anything. Why is that? How can I come to understand?”

I began to study Kabbalah, to be interested in it, or in other words—to feel that the answer regarding life’s meaning is here, in 1976. I came to Israel in 1974, and in about a year to a year and a half, approximately in 1975, I began to look for the continuation of my question in Kabbalah. Before that, I tried to find the answer in science, Bio-cybernetics, which back then was my job, my occupation.

Host: What question are you talking about?

I am talking about the question regarding the essence: “what is the meaning of life and for what do we live?”

Host: Were you an unhappy child?

This question made me unhappy. I don’t want to call myself an “unhappy child,” but this question worried me greatly and didn’t allow me to be happy with life.

Host: So, you were in some kind of a search?

Yes, in a search.

Host: And then you came to Kabbalah?

People told me that I probably wanted to return to religion. I didn’t want that at all, and that was not my goal, as I did not see that people who had returned to religion or were born in that environment, knew anything about that question. I didn’t see that they understood what they lived for at all.

Host: So what did you do?

So, then I was told that since religion was not what I was looking for, I needed Kabbalah. I began to search. I did not understand what they were talking about, what they wanted, and plainly, I did not know where I was. I was already 29-30 years old then.

I remember that a lot of time passed before I understood where I was, in what world, how this world advances, how it exists, according to what principles, how I perceive this world, how I see it, why I see it this way and not differently. A person must learn this from his inner perception and find out about himself by being outside of the self. The same thing with the world: we must learn it by being in it and also beyond its boundaries. We must also learn about the Upper Force that influences us and the world and connects us.

There are many points of view, many takes on examining what we are talking about in Kabbalah. That confuses a person a lot. But we have no choice because by doing this, we develop our soul. No matter how confused a person is, he needs to acknowledge that he existed in this confused state for many-many years. And it wasn’t like now, when these things are becoming familiar to us and we have books that explain everything to us so thoroughly, and there are people like me who try to tell us these things like they are giving warm, softened cereal to a newborn. Still, I understand that it is difficult. However, this is the path of our development, through which the soul develops from that point in a person (since every person has only a point from the spiritual inside).

It is a very big Kli, into which a person receives the world of Infinity, the Light, his eternal spiritual life. There is a lot of confusion; a person feels a lack of satisfaction, a lack of understanding, and an inability to orient himself. But all of that is irrelevant. Development is still occurring in him, and a time will come when it will be revealed to him. The spiritual is revealed suddenly, like coming out of Egypt. This is why the term Pesach comes from the word Pasach, which means to skip or to jump over. This is what we should expect. I wish that it will happen as quickly as possible for you.

Host: We are ending today’s show, which consisted of so many questions from women. Could you briefly and coherently, in one sentence, direct these women who are asking the questions and wish to develop in the spiritual?

First of all, a woman must perceive herself as a woman and not a man. She must realize herself while being in her place. Second of all, she should understand that the people who are bringing her this method are Kabbalists who have reached the end of this path and are writing to us from there and telling us how we can quickly realize it by a good and easy path. Like parents to their children, they bring us the path of development. We need to take it in the form that it is written and realize it accordingly. Then we will quickly achieve a good life.