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Daily Lesson (Afternoon) December 14, 2024

Part 1: Lesson on the topic of “To Bestow in Order to Bestow”

Reader: Hello, we're in a lesson on the topic of To Bestow in Order to Bestow. We're going to be reading select excerpts from the sources, starting with excerpt number four. You can find the materials at Sviva Tovah and the Arvut systems and send live questions to our sites. Whoever asks questions in the study hall is asked to stand up, hold the microphone close to one's mouth, and speak loud and clear. 

Excerpt # 4: Rabash, Article No. 31 (1990), "What 'There Is No Blessing in That Which Is Counted' Means in the Work"  

Reading: (00:30) Things that a person gives to his friend so his friend will enjoy. The giving itself is called “bestowal.” A person who is Zach is one who tries to make people happy, to make them feel good. On these Kelim, it cannot be said that there is Din in these actions, meaning that there is a judgment that prohibits using Kelim that wish to bestow.

However, here, too, there is a matter of intention, meaning whether he is sincere. That is, when he gives, is his aim that others will enjoy it without a care for himself, for he cares only about others? This quality is called “bestowing in order to bestow,” when the act and the aim are both in order to bestow.

Re-Reading Excerpt # 4: (02:30) Rabash, Article No. 31 (1990), "What 'There Is No Blessing in That Which Is Counted' Means in the Work"  

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (04:08) If whether in the state I'm in, I come to bestow, I act as in bestowal, and still the evil inclination kind of puts in, ‘ah, it'll be okay because you'll benefit something from this.’ From a corrected state, I'm not supposed to hear those voices, the evil inclination pushing some other thought that, ‘oh yes, you will get something like that, you will benefit from it.’

M. Laitman: So, what is the difference if the evil inclination is stopping you, or it's not stopping you, and you're trying to come to bestow in order to bestow fully. 

Student: It feels to me like it kind of, it makes the thought filthy, it's not pure, it's dirty. Because I've rewarded something. The evil inclination knows very well that if I do something, in some way I can gain from it. So, how can I run away from that? How can I get away from that? 

M. Laitman: You cannot escape. 

Student: A Kabbalist also experiences this? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: So, what's the difference? 

M. Laitman: The difference is that perhaps he's able to rise above his desire and truly be in order to bestow, and you're still trying, but you cannot. 

Student: I still do the action. Is it still considered bestowal? 

M. Laitman: No. When will the act be an act of bestowal? 

Student: That it's really for the benefit of the friend. 

M. Laitman: How will you know? 

Student: That I don't benefit anything from it. 

M. Laitman: How will you know?

Student: I really don't know. 

M. Laitman: Does anyone have an answer? 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (06:36) Maybe this precise point that you said, that the Kabbalist is capable of rising above. He understands that, knows that the inclination is in control, but he manages to overcome it. That's the point that's missing there.

M. Laitman: What's the reason he's able to overcome? 

Student: That's really the question, that's what I'm asking myself. But in my opinion, it's to bring contentment to the Creator, for Him. 

M. Laitman: Yes. Any more questions? 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (07:09) Maybe the sublimity and greatness of the Creator is what will bring the changing of the intention.

M. Laitman: What is the sign that I know that I'm above? 

Student: Where you're going against yourself, against your desire, that you don't enjoy the action, you know that you're doing it for Him. 

M. Laitman: When I don't enjoy the action. Hmm.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (07:47) Maybe when a person starts to notice the benefit of the friend, and whether he enjoys it or not is kind of like the fringes of things, until the point where it's redundant. Where I'm thinking about the friends and the pleasure, and for the friend, the Creator enjoys it. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (08:16) Maybe joy is the measure that I'm doing good for the Creator. My joy and the friends around me, that I'm giving them joy, maybe that's the measure that I'm in the direction of the Creator. 

M. Laitman: Maybe, perhaps.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (08:36) How can I even bestow to the friend, because I will always enjoy this, because in the end of the day, I have a friend in the Ten, I feel there's a goal, so every act of bestowal, seemingly, has my personal benefit, because her success is my success. So, how can I even be in a state of bestowal in such a state? There's always this personal benefit and reward. 

M. Laitman: It's possible. Who else has thoughts? 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (09:18) When the moderator read the excerpt for the first time, I heard to do good for the friend, but the second time, I heard for him to feel good with himself, which sounds different to me. And then, with those questions, to do good for someone means that I come, I make her a cake, I make her a drink, I make her laugh, I do some action. 

But for her to feel good with herself, demands from me thought, scrutiny, annulment to truly clothe in her deficiency, and not what I want to do for her. It almost feels like not the action itself is the main thing, but to what extent I feel her deficiency, meaning my pleasure is not the main thing, and not even her pleasure, but her lack, her deficiency. Is that the way to relate to it? 

M. Laitman: Meaning our purpose, our goal is to perform an action without pleasure.

Student: It's an action without pleasure, but it's not her pleasure that I'm concentrating on, but on her deficiency, to try and clothe on that. Either to let the friend feel that he is good, respectable, nice, exceptional, but the moment I aim to something, it immediately cancels my desire.

M. Laitman: Okay. We'll think about it. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (11:09) I think that for it to be bestowal, there needs to be a connection between the deficiency of the friend and the Creator, meaning I need to annul myself so that the Creator will be in the picture.

M. Laitman: Yes,

Student: So, that's a sign that a person attains a certain connection with the Creator, then he knows he's in an active bestowal. 

M. Laitman: Yes, that makes sense.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (11:56) I'm not answering to what you asked. What is intention? 

M. Laitman: Intention is what a person intends for this action to accomplish.

Student: Is it only a thought or is it a vessel, that the kabbalist lives in a different intention? 

M. Laitman: It's a vessel. 

Student: So, how does it happen? We always talk about our intention, and it seems to me like the most dissolvable thing. It doesn't matter what I believe or what I say with my mouth or my thoughts, my heart wants different things, and it just dissipates. The moment I think about it, I'm already in another place. How does the Kabbalist come to a state in which he creates the stable, dependable intention that he can live with? 

M. Laitman: Through the correct exercises, where he constantly wants to be in such an intention, in such an action. He wants it to determine this thing in his heart. 

Student: How do these exercises uplift this thing to become so stable? 

M. Laitman: He expects the Creator to do it for him. 

Student: Is this a special light that the Creator brings upon him and gets embroidered into something that... So, what do I do down here for a million years, trying to think about the intention? I feel just like on my first day I came here as far as my advancement with the intention. The same. What am I missing? What's not correct? How is it that I don't have some foundation already? 

M. Laitman: You're missing the intention, for it to come out of your heart and for it to enter the heart. 

Student: Whose? 

M. Laitman: Someone's.

Student: I don't understand. Can you give an example of how an action appears and the intention of a person that really works correctly? What is he doing? 

M. Laitman: He's concentrated in his intention for it to develop from within his heart and to come to the hearts of the friends. 

Student: He's concentrated for a few minutes, a few hours. How long can you hold on to it? 

M. Laitman: That's according to the power of the intention. 

Student: In that concentration he's holding on to the Creator trying for the Creator not to run away get out of his thought? Is that an exercise you can do and advance with? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (15:47) In the excerpt we read, it's written that a pure person tries to perform good deeds and that there's no judgment in these deeds. What does it mean that there's judgment in his actions? What does that mean that there would be judgments in his actions? 

M. Laitman: Judgment in action means that against his actions there's a force that interferes with a person, disturbs him, and he accepts this force as a judgment on him.

Student: And against that he prays to the Creator to give him the intention? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (16:48) It's written that his mouth and heart are equal, and in the end both the act and the aim are in order to bestow. From what I understood from what you said right now, it's like through these exercises, these games we advance and eventually reach bestowal in order to bestow.

M. Laitman: I also don't think those are games.

Student: Exercises, games? I call it games because it's not real. It's like we're trying to rise up from the earth. We're not there yet. When a person reaches that, he needs to feel that it was actually given to him as a gift from the Creator? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: So, it's actually a gift from the Creator. 

M. Laitman: Of course.

Student: So, he feels that he wouldn't be able to reach this with his own forces if the Creator doesn't give him to bestow. So isn't that the answer to the question of when a person knows he reached it, because he feels the Creator gave it to him, and it's not thanks to his games or his exertion, but the fact that the Creator decided now to give him a gift. 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (18:08) I have this question about the essence and the form of the work altogether. We are going through an educational process for years in which we learn according to the principles of Rabash how to behave in a society to come closer to the Creator, resemble Him, and develop spiritually. Let's say I go to a Ten meeting or to lesson. I'm already programmed in such a way that my presence needs to help the friends to look and think and be as purposeful as possible, and that's how I behave. Now it wasn't like that in the beginning. I went through a process and now I'm like that. Do I need to engage in my intention, what I mean, whether I'm okay or not, or do I simply need to do what needs to be done and the upper light will correct my intention, and I will gradually feel that maybe I'm doing it with a more correct intention. Meaning, where does my focus need to be? On my intention or on what I'm giving to the friends? 

M. Laitman: What you wish to perform, to execute with the intention. 

Student: What does it mean to do something with the intention? Let's say I'm in a Ten meeting. I came, I tried as much as possible to give greatness and importance of the goal to the friends, and I didn't pay attention to my intention.

Altogether, it's not there. I came to give importance as much as possible—greatness, impression, importance of the goal.

M. Laitman: That's the intention. That's the action. That's your intention. You want it to be this way.

Student: So, I can't manage to understand the difference between an action and the intention. Another important point that I noticed. It could be that I receive something completely different. Let's say I came to prepare for the lesson.

I came on a certain wave. I came, I sat down at the table, and suddenly I changed. 

Something changed in me, and I suddenly started to feel that now I need to do something for the friends. In the action, I'm not concentrating on what my intention is, where my thoughts are. Do I need to go deeper in this, or It doesn't matter because the Creator corrects it. 

M. Laitman: Why do you think the Creator corrects it? 

Student: From what I see, I cannot directly correct my intention. I can help and do what the kabbalists say as much as possible—sometimes in effort, sometimes easier—but the intention of really why I'm doing this, do I really want to bestow if there's no pleasure there? I'm refining the question. What does it matter if I bring the friends greatness and importance and receive pleasure from it, since I'm respectable, and they respect this, from me wanting to come closer to the Creator. It gives me pleasure and filling, but the main thing is that I am giving them the forces along the way. What does it matter what I receive or not, and with what intention do I do it? Why is it so important? 

M. Laitman: That's what you think? 

Student: The question is, do I need to focus on that? If I enjoy right now that I come to the preparation for the lesson and I give the friends greatness and importance. I look at another student. He's like this and like that, what does it matter? What's important is that we have greatness now and impression from the path. Do I need to engage in whether I enjoy or don't? 

M. Laitman: Did you ask them? 

Student: What should I ask them? 

M. Laitman: Ask them if they also think like you.

Student: I don't know. These are thoughts that awaken as we're in the lesson. I'm asking you how much to engage in whether I enjoy or whether my intention is changing. The question is, do we need to engage in that or is that the upper light that comes and does it on me since I'm exerting and giving the forces to the friends, and He will correct my intention. 

M. Laitman: Now you're saying something else. You want to give the power to the friends, forces to the friends. That's something else. 

Student: So, what do you do? This is the educational process we're going through. It's truly education, it's not internal work, it's education. I feel like I went through an educational process. I wasn't like this once, and now I see that I am like that, but the questions here are constantly focused on the intention, whether I need to, and do we really need to engage in this so much? A friend comes, I give forces to friends, get pleasure from it, get respect from it. I come closer to the Creator from this, it doesn't matter, hat the Creator will do, the intention. Where is the focus of the work? I'm hearing here that the focus is in digging and digging and digging and I see that I stopped doing that long ago. Maybe I'm erring and I'm confused. 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (23:42) What is it actually to give the intention to the friends? What is to give my intention to the friends? 

M. Laitman: When you want, using the connection you have during the lesson, for all of us to connect with one intention. 

Student: I felt before I came to the lesson, in what kind of intention do I need to be where my heart and my action will be equal, because you said that there's this constant force that bothers us. That's very important. Before every action I need to make an inner scrutiny with my heart and with the actions I do to the friend, is it truly equal? What's this action where I aim both my heart and the action that I do to the friend so it will be equal? 

M. Laitman: That means his mouth and his heart are equal. That speaks to the quality of the intention. 

Student: On the other hand, I don't need to ask anything for myself. What interests me is what the friend will have from this, actually. How do I aim my heart in a way that I don't want anything from myself, just what the friend will get from this, that I'm filling his lack. 

M. Laitman: If with your intention you wish to bestow to the friend and you want nothing for yourself, that's really the best action you can demand.

Student: That's the preparation I need to do before the action? 

M. Laitman: And during the action. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (25:52) The more we do work and advance, I feel the gap between what's happening to me in the world outside and what's happening here. The gap grows and grows. It becomes a huge distance.

M. Laitman: Why is it bad? 

Student: I'm not saying it's bad. I'm just asking whether to give my intention means that I'm coming here and I'm devoting myself to what's happening, to what's being said, what's going to be in the workshop, and suddenly the intention awakens that I did not bring with me. I didn't even work on it. I only came with the intention to dissolve here between the friends and suddenly an intention is built that I don't feel like is mine. It's something from the incorporation between us. 

M. Laitman: Why is it bad? 

Student: I didn’t way it’s not good. I just said whether this is the way. I can’t just bring the intention. I can only come and devote myself and be with you in your thoughts and your speech and what you’re doing, I will do. Then I get this intention that comes from the incorporation between us.

M. Laitman: That’s excellent.

Student: That's what I feel like is happening here. I feel like all the friends came, maybe some more ready or otherwise, and I simply came without any intention,  with a lot of mess and noise in my head, and it's like I'm incorporated into your intentions and what you're doing. 

M. Laitman: That's very good.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (27:35) About the intention, there is this verse, more than the calf wants to suckle the cow wants to nurse. Sometimes it seems like the ability to keep the intention and give is in accordance with the fact that there is a correct

deficiency in order to receive before me, and it's possible that it can be something that influences one another and there the intention can be more correct, since this is actually the Creator that connects the deficiency with the action? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (28:28) My desirable goal in the Ten is to connect between the desire of the friends and the desire of the Creator?

M. Laitman: That's very important, very special, very exalted. 

Student: I'm asking it because I think: What is bestowal? What's the desire of the Creator? It's something that we seemingly are seeking in the darkness in the Ten and trying to do it together. What is it the Creator wants? And I see that I'm learning almost absolutely from mistakes. I get up in the morning. I'm thinking, what does it mean to bestow to the friends. I perform the action, and a day later or at the end of the day, I discover that it's not really the will of the Creator. That's not really the correct intention, and then upon that intention prayer. I really feel like it's the whole Ten that's seemingly searching together for this desire of the Creator. Is this our common search? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: And this is something that I do with the help of the friends where I'm trying to connect between the search in darkness which is constantly changing and the deficiency that the friend raises? 

M. Laitman: Also correct. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (29:56) He writes that what a friend gave to his friend, things that his friend enjoys, is called bestowal. What's important that the friend will enjoy what I gave him or that I will have the right intention? What is bestowal considered here? 

M. Laitman: That the friend received what he wanted through you.

Student: And if I didn't have the correct intention, but he enjoys it. Like another student said: the friend received this, but I didn't have the right intention. Is that nevertheless bestowal?

M. Laitman: No. 

Student: So, if I don't have the correct intention, what do we need to do? Do more actions and pray for me to have the right intention? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: And to do many actions even if my intention is not right, even if I don't love the friend and I'm overcoming in order to give her? 

M. Laitman: When you overcome, it succeeds. It works. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (31:05) So, I understand that all of our problem is to overcome something in the desire to receive. We received this gift. Do we actually need to scrutinize this. A few days ago, a friend said to me that I'm an egoist. I’m saying it in my words; she didn't say it like that. I felt that simply I'm crumbling from that. Are we not willing to recognize our evil? Baal HaSulam says it like from the inflictions. Is this not the place to start scrutinizing how bad we are? How much we just want to receive for ourselves and altogether to come out of that starting point that the Creator… We need to first see who we are.

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: That's the first assumption. I think it's the first thing that it's worthwhile for each and every one. My suggestion is to see that we're doing things, and even as we're diverting our attention, first we have to do this and while we're doing the action I can learn from it, even if I see that I did something and I didn't do it with the right intention. Is that also worthwhile to scrutinize the case after the fact? 

M. Laitman: Yes. Because you never know if you've done it with the right intention, the wrong intention, partial intention, so it's recommended to keep going.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (32:52) I'm trying to understand something in the actions. Not too long ago a friend was suffering from something. Last week I heard a friend saying that his heart is dead, and I felt at that moment that my heart is also dead, and I felt that it's not correct that I should remain this way because how will I help him? And then I felt in parallel that when I ask the Creator only when he agrees and does what I'm asking for my friends, then I have pleasure. What is that place? I'm maybe judging him.

M. Laitman: Control. 

Student: Control? What can I do with this? 

M. Laitman: That's what I'm telling you that you have.

Student: So, what do I do with this control? Give it up? Ask the Creator to correct it? Ask the Ten to help me?

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (34:36) There was a friend here who talked about the truth, that actually it seems like an essential matter on this path, and I constantly have this feeling that our deeds, our actions in the society and in the Ten blur the truth. Nevertheless, you can't stop doing. The student’s question was so precise. He asked if we're continuing to do we have to focus on the intention. Otherwise, where will we have a prayer emerge from this? I come, I do Tens, discussions, duties, cakes, soup everything, and what? 

M. Laitman: What do you want to hear from me? 

Student: I want to hear how I make it so that my actions and my heart are equal. 

M. Laitman: Whenever that will be? What will that be? When his mouth and heart are equal, and for the time being, try to pray all the time.

Student: Before every action? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (36:27) Yesterday we completed an exercise in the Ten that we were working on for the last three weeks in which for the whole day we thought about a certain friend in the Ten. We did a certain attack of love, this beautiful love with each other, and yesterday morning we did a summary, and each shared her impressions. There was this feeling that it really advanced us and gave us a lot of power. What is the contribution to the general body that is called the Bnei Baruch when Tens from the whole world Kli perform exercises of this sort? 

M. Laitman: We connect in this action together. We connect ourselves into one Ten. We hope that our heart, our strength, our forces will unite and give us the right result. 

Student: We see now that we’re in MAK and we’re in Baden-Baden, in Haifa, and now that we’re doing this exercise, we are actually becoming one beating heart through which the Creator will be able to talk to us? 

M. Laitman: You can say that.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (38:24) Sometimes if I perform an action and I see that a friend is missing something, and I say the Creator gave me now the tools to help her. So, I need to help her. Is such an action for her called an act of bestowal? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: So, there are actions that I sometimes do that are in bestowal; sometimes I don't do in bestowal. It’s not always bestowal, not always not in bestowal. It changes, and the more I advance it is supposed to be more towards all being bestowal. Even when I did the action and I know the Creator gave me the possibility and the tools to help that friend, and yet I enjoy it or don't enjoy it. It's not important. 

M. Laitman: It's not important? 

Student: Is it important? I can enjoy it but it doesn't destroy the action and the intention. Is that correct? 

M. Laitman: That's correct. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (39:47) Is it okay that a Ten will decide about an exercise for itself? Let's say we feel that there is some exercise that can really bring us closer and evoke love between us. Is it okay for a Ten to decide on such an exercise as far as they are concerned? 

M. Laitman: Why not?

Student: I'm asking because this scrutiny arose in our Ten .Or do we need to just be adjacent to what Rav said in the morning lesson. 

M. Laitman: No, no. You don't need to attach yourself. I also don't give such exercises, typically. 

Student: If friends are really impressed from an exercise. Wow, it brought us closer, evoked love in our hearts, awakened so much more thought about the friends, prayer for the friends. Can we say that the Ten can measure the success of an exercise in the intellect of Ten egoists, or do we need to… 

M. Laitman: No, no. What you like, what you find likeable to Ten egoists, that's already enough to establish this exercise for now, and maybe in a few more times, a few more lessons from now you can do it again. 

Student: Is it important that each time different friends in a Ten will express, let's say like a connection duty person? 

M. Laitman: Excellent. 

Student: So, it shouldn't be dominant; it should be each time?

M. Laitman: Yes, yes. 

Student: Another question. If we're constantly aiming ourselves to bestow, and we're exercising bestowal, why is it important to wait for the gift from the Creator? We always talk about how many efforts we need to make in exercising bestowal, emerge, go out of ourselves, overcome ourselves? Why does a person also need to wait for some gift to come to him from the Creator and He'll give him this nature? 

M. Laitman: But what is the purpose of this whole thing? 

Student: The goal is that he will become one with the Creator. 

M. Laitman: Okay, and that's what we're asking for. We want to see the result. 

Student: Okay, and there's this sentence that says, my son's defeated me, So, it doesn't mean that I won meaning, that I feel that there's some force in the mutual action. Of course, I'm talking about myself, maybe I don't understand what's happening, that we're there yet. Like you said in the beginning of the lesson, that there needs to be an intention of everyone in the lesson to be in one intention, and I'm hearing that there is kind of like this inner battle, that each is fighting his will to receive. How do we move to a state where it's the common war and my son's defeated me altogether? 

M. Laitman: I don't think this is possible. I think maybe one time it will work out, maybe it won't, but what we need is to try to check ourselves if we can reach a state where his mouth and his heart are equal. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (43:25) Can we say that love of friends, like interest, like feeling. What do I do in the Ten, like the result, so love will cover all crimes, and by that we'll be able to justify? We can in our common prayer?

M. Laitman: Yes, you can with a prayer. 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (44:09) You said that the correct intention is when a friend receives what he wants through you. The correct intention is when a person receives what he wants through you, that he receives what he wants with your help. We are trying to collaborate, to cooperate and make efforts in order to understand and discover what in order to bestow is.  

Each Ten has a very strong inner force with a desire to attain the goal, but there is something external that is different from one Ten to the other. How do we help one another, one Ten to the other, in order to attain the intention that the friend will receive what he wants through you. If we are talking about a Ten, how do we help one another? 

M. Laitman: How do we help one another in order to receive the friend who received it from the Creator, something from the Creator?

Student: You said that the right intention is when a friend receives what he wants through the friends. How can one Ten help another Ten so that what one Ten wants, it will receive with the help of the other Ten?

M. Laitman: I don't know what to tell you 

Student: I'll ask it differently. What should the intention be, meaning what's missing in my heart in order for me to yearn to help everyone each time, whether it's my Ten, another Ten. My Ten wants one thing; another Ten wants something else. So, what am I missing in order to help everyone? 

M. Laitman: You can't help everyone. It's like doing nothing, to no one. 

Student: So, what should I aim toward?

M. Laitman: For you to try and connect with your Ten, then at least you have before your eight or nine women who wish to reach connection. You want to connect to them, and what they want you also want to want. 

Student: What about another Ten? 

M. Laitman: Another Ten doesn't exist. 

Student: But what's this collaboration between the Tens when we connect now in the lesson? 

M. Laitman: There is some cooperation. 

Student: Unless there's some kind of inner work there? 

M. Laitman: There is, but it doesn't determine what to do.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (50:00) About the deficiency of my friends. The friend receives a deficiency through me. We had a discussion in the Ten, and it wasn't so clear what other deficiency there can be from one friend to another. After all, we are all with the deficiency to connect to the Creator. How do I move from one friend to another, and each friend has a state and a family that's different, different disturbances. I see that simply every friend has different disturbances, but the deficiency is the same. That's what it appears to me like. On the other hand, I may have to connect to them through their corporeality. How do I search for a different deficiency in each friend when I think that the deficiency needs to be the same deficiency actually, or am I wrong? 

M. Laitman: Maybe you're not wrong, but for the time being in an error. 

Student: What does that mean? 

M. Laitman: I still don't understand what you're asking. 

Student: We need to connect to each friend's deficiency. How is that possible? I have a Ten, and I have many friends. Each friend has her deficiency, and I want to fill that deficiency. So, the question is whether I need to go to each friend and ask her. We did this exercise once in the Ten. We asked every friend what deficiency you have, and each said whatever she wants in the Ten, to be like this or something else, and all together they're pretty corporeal matters, a little different order in the workshops, all kinds. After these things do I need to seek a different deficiency in each friend, or actually the deficiency of every friend is the connection to the Creator?

M. Laitman: I don't know what to tell you

Student: Maybe a friend can continue because we really have such… 

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (52:40) We really scrutinized, because you once talked about how the corporeality of the friend is my spirituality. We also found words that you said that I don't need to think myself and activate my ego into what he's missing. The exercise the friend was sharing we also did in our Ten, and we just thought about that friend, we love her, we sent her, and then we thought if we should do this exercise again, is it more correct to focus really on what she needs and not activate my calculations. What I’m asking is whether to feel this deficiency as the most internal thing that I need to focus, or on what the friend shares that she needs from us inside the Ten, maybe also in corporeality.

M. Laitman: The best thing is to connect with the general deficiency that exists in the Ten, where you want to connect among everyone.

Question (Women Petah Tikva Center): (54:05) I have a question that is in my mind for a long time. This has to do with the discussion that you did with two other students, and these are the conversations that are sent to everyone. The question was about the Petah Tikva group, and then you said as an answer, that we can learn specifically from the Petah Tikva group, the women’s group. We can learn devotion and persistence from them. In comparison to the men, they are more driven. What do we as men and women need to do to be more driven, ready? 

M. Laitman: Ah, Ready.

Student: So, the question is, as men and women together, because we have a convention in February. So, in order to come ready, in what do we need to be more ready?

M. Laitman: We have to try and be connected between us that we won't feel like we can separate from one another.

Student: All the women in the world Kli, Israeli, everyone, there is a convention in February called Connecting to Lishma. In what have we advanced as a women’s Kli so far, and what else is missing? 

M. Laitman: I don't think you are missing anything. You are missing, but there are such small things that within a month it will provide for itself.

Student: What did we attain?

M. Laitman: We attained connection, understanding, and all in all I don't know what to add. I am happy about you, happy with women more than with men.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (57:25) I heard that the Creator gives a gift to a person. Can we ask for this gift from the friends, for them to receive this gift that the Creator can give them, the force of Lishma, and now I feel all this deficiency from the friends all the

questions. If our deficiency will be that this whole Kli will receive this gift of Lishma, the world Kli, all the friends, men, women, can we succeed in that effort?

M. Laitman: For sure, all the friends. There is no question.

Student: Especially since we are here, friends from all kinds of Tens that are truly integrated with every question from every friend. So I am really asking the Creator to help this entire Kli to receive this gift and for this to be the prayer that each of us has in his heart, so we will be able to succeed together.

M. Laitman: Yes. L’Chaim!

Question Women (Petah Tikva Center): (58:48) In the outside world your measure for success is that you have a goal, and you reach that goal. Here sometimes there is this feeling like our goal is bestowal and connection and we are going around our own tails. We are chasing after our tails, and it is beyond our attainment, maybe even beyond human attainment, achievement. The question is whether you feel that you are working and working and don't feel that you have a result, whether only the work as it is, is okay. 

M. Laitman: No, there has to be a goal before our eyes, and we need to feel that we are approaching it. 

Student: And if a person works and he doesn't feel it. It feels like it is always in the same place.

M. Laitman: He doesn't have the right connection with his Ten and with the other Tens. 

Question Women (Petah Tikva Center): (59:57) This morning we had a conversation with the management of the organization, and actually it really touched me that one of the managers said that we don't need to wait for someone to do for us, but rather we need to take responsibility and to do, and I thought about the fact that, for example, if we have this desire to do like a women’s event. How can I check whether the desire for that is mine or that maybe it will really serve the society. 

M. Laitman: I think this is a question that touches everyone, and it would be good if women ask themselves this. 

Student: Each time before some big convention, when we want to organize some event that will prepare the women’s Kli for the convention, it is always kind of unclear whether it will happen or not, this question mark whether we are told no or we are told yes. I don't want to be really on such a degree of… 

M. Laitman: If it happens or not is up to you.

Student: That's exactly the point, whether for the future of the organization, is it correct that always before a big convention where ladies come here, and we should organize something for our women’s Kli that comes from the whole world, or do we have to each time be in this question mark, whether it will happen or not.

M. Laitman: No?

Student: What do you mean? 

M. Laitman: I mean that if you want it, it will happen.

Question Women (Petah Tikva Center): (01:02:02) How do we understand the moments that we have to be for the intention, to adapt it to the connection? How do we understand the moments and how the actions need to be adapted to the intention or to what I feel? 

M. Laitman: it's a problem. I don't know. 

Student: Does there need to be such a calculation altogether? 

M. Laitman: I don't know how to arrange this question.

Question Women (Petah Tikva Center): (1:04:15) The friends here, the world Kli  women are so devoted, and I heard that you gave the compliment that your women are connected and you're satisfied. If I don't feel that I'm in that connection that you're talking about, what do I need to do in order to be in that connection?

M. Laitman: Ask them, connect to them. By that you'll certainly make it.

Question Women (Petah Tikva Center): (1:05:12) In our Ten a friend received an unpleasant blow in her life. We know how we have to think about the friend and support her, but even in the thought about how we're going towards the convention, how do we as a Ten use what the Creator gives to that friend so that the Ten will advance forward, so they answer this.

M. Laitman: in the connection between you, you can arrange everything.

Student: So, what scrutiny does the Ten need to do now in order to answer the Creator correctly for what he gave us?

M. Laitman: We can solve all the problems in the connection between us. 

Student: So, the solution is not just to think about the friend but for something to happen in the connection between us.

M. Laitman: Yes. 

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