Morning Lesson May 9, 2022 Transcription
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Rabash. Concerning Love of Friends
1. R. (06:20) What should we take from this, what should we learn from this? There is a big difference between the general society of humanity, where we live in, and as much as we need to be in a connection between us in a different manner between the friends, that it is two very very contradicting and different societies that is why wherever we are whether at work or at home or on the street or anywhere it has to be very distant and different than the way we connect between us and the way we aim ourselves in the connection between us to the Creator. So it is a completely different isolated society and that is how we need to determine ourselves, that there is a big difference between lets say work, home, the street, and what we are organizing here between us in the ten. And only in the ten is where we determine a relation from us towards the Creator and that is where we expect the revelation of the Creator between us, and the rest of the society is where we are where, what were in. The way it is a custom in society that is how we exist according to what humanity determines, that’s it. Man is as if in two forms of life, one form in society that is advancing towards the Creator, and a different form of life is in a society that is living the life of this world. And this attitude has to be clear and not confusing between the two.
2. S. (08:24) I wanted to ask about being humble. On the one hand Rabash writes that it is important to be humble and modest, on the other hand he calls upon all the friends to actively express love of friends, so how do you, how do these two coincide?
R. Being humble does not mean that I am restricting myself, but I need to calculate what needs to be revealed or concealed in our relationships, I am only speaking in our ten, in the 10, what should be concealed or revealed in order to advance in the most beneficial way, the most effective way towards the purpose of creation, the purpose of life, what must I do? Then according to that we can advance, that is why I need to conceal my ego, and to reveal my attitude towards the friends, as it is written and according to that advance. What is the rest of the question?
S. Later on it becomes very clear that you need to actively express love of friends.
R. In order to give them an example. Love of friends does not have to be in concealment, I do not have to hide it why? Because it brings more love, iff I explain to others, I reveal to my friends as much as I love them, by that I am inviting in them the same attitude to come to the others. I give an example.
S. What is the most effective way in your opinion to express love of friends in the virtual world?
R. The fact that I am concerned about the connection, us gathering at the times we determined, that I tried to be in all of our gatherings, in all of our events, virtual, and I am concerned that all of my friends have the study materials, and things they need in order to advance and connect. That is it, at least.
3. S. (11:28) In the end Rabash leaves us with the question of whether everyone needs to know what each of the friends need or is it okay to work on love of friends in general?
R. He writes in number four, right? “Should everyone know his friends' needs specifically for each friend so he would know how he can satisfy them or is it enough to practice love of friends in general?” So we need both but obviously that first in general I need to try and give society as much as they can receive, as much as they want to receive for me, as much as I understand that it's for their good, by this I put my matters on the side, what I think or understand, and I measure myself according to what is written by the Kabbalists and that's how I relate to them that's the main thing that I won’t mix up my ego and here.
4. S. (12:50) How do I openly need to show that I'm working on love of friends?
R. I have to reveal in any way possible that I'm concerned about the friends, very simple, that they'll connect together, that they'll have the study materials, that they will be there at all the times we’re connecting, that's how it is, and I must also publish it, advertise it.
S. That more answers the question of what to do, but how?
R. Search for yourself, what do you mean? How do I know how? It depends on each one's personal conditions.
5. S. (13:54) What does Rabash refer to when he says hatred of self, is that really necessary?
R. Self hatred is essential that every time I try to uproot, to erase from my ego, from myself, as much as I can, in each and every day, a bit, like I take a bite out of it, grab it, and in this way I try to feel everyday as much as I work with the ego less than I did yesterday, it's very important. We forget about it for sure but its desired everyday to judge yourself as much as I did something today about it or not, and habit become second nature, like let's say an athlete that is used to doing hard work, let's say, he lifts weights and without that he already can't, that's how we get used to it. We will get used to pressing our ego.
6. S. (15:37) Every now and then if the Creator creates some kind of dispute between two friends in the ten then we fall from, well we no longer justify the friends, hate erupts, excetera excetera, what does the Creator want to teach us?
R. The Creator wants us to ask of him that he who makes peace above will make peace on us. He wants us to turn to him and ask him for connection, that's why he awakens disputes between us.
S. What results should we expect by covering the criticism and instead of it, upon it, showing love to the friends? What do we want to get as a result of this work, what should be built?
R. Our mutual vessel, that in this mutual vessel we can feel the Creator as much as we annul our egos and as much as we connect above our egos by this we build a spiritual Partzuf, that part of it is restricted and part of it is activated in a mutual connection, and by this we prepare a place for revealing the Creator.
S. Why does it have to be above, against the ego, the spiritual Kli?
R. Because it’s entirely in bestowal, resembling the Creator, identification with the Creator, equivalence of form with the Creator.
7. S. (17:33) Thank God in each ten we have twelve friends and there are two friends that I can't connect to, I can connect with everyone else no problem, I feel them, but as it says in item three, that you have to remember that the society where it says that, he explains that you need to feel everyone. Why is it that the Creator hides two friends from me?
R. In order to give you work, that you'll be able to annul yourself even more and connect to them.
S. But the more I annul myself toward them the madder they get at me.
R. Very nice. The Creator isn't giving you an opportunity to be lazy, he's giving you a place to work, say thank you and work.
S. Thank you, I will work.
R. Don't forget that the Creator is standing behind every friend and managing the friend towards you.
8. S. (19:17) Why does criticism accumulate and finally erupts in the ten?
R. It's because our will to receive grows in each and every one in order to show us as much as we are not corrected yet, and so if we're sensitive more we’re correcting it with a small amount so if we’re more coarse so it's revealed more and more until it just outbursts and it teaches us how we're supposed to behave towards one another. As much as we have to build connections between us, in order to watch out for ourselves that we won't get to such an explosion that we won't be able to deal with it anymore and so on.
S. To correct it in the world means to correct the ten.
R. Yes.
9. S. (20:30) A friend has a question for almost a year in relation to a certain ten, that the heart is not that open to your ten but it is more open to another ten. Can we discuss this, consider the situation, and decide to switch friends between tens?
R. The fact that there's a contradiction or a disconnection or resistance, collision, it's on the contrary, it's a place to work and as much as we advance more, we will have even greater arguments. Rabbi Shimon students wanted to kill each other, it's not these words, it's the truth that's how they felt towards one another that they wanted to kill each other but after they overcame and connected between them so they reached love, and in that love, in that vessel of love, they discovered the Zohar, the book of Zohar, and without such great hatred between them and afterwards correcting it and reaching and great love, they couldn't discover it not the coarseness in their vessel and not the purity in their vessel, and the Creator is revealed in that gap between the coarseness and the purity.
So on one hand each one is greater than his friend his inclination is greater, we all grow through our egoistic desire more and more don't forget that. We advance in our will to receive and as much as we advance more, the will to receive will be greater and I in my descents will hate everybody and will want to run from that group and will be against that group that's clear, that's how it has to be and afterwards I still want to overcome this will to receive that grew in me and I understand that I still have to adhere to the friends and come to connection, and specifically in that connection I can reveal new spiritual degrees. That is our path, left, right, left, right, constantly that's how we rise, that we stay on the middle line, our connection towards the purpose of creation, but also on the left and our ego that is growing in our will to receive and also in the right in the will to bestow, to overcome above the will to receive and in those two we grow and don't forget about that. That's why, what does it mean that I move away from the friend that I hate? Specifically because I hate him because I get such a feeling from above I'll come closer to him, I'll perform all kinds of forms of connection between us, that even though I can't be connected to him I still accept this work that this is like a crane that with it I can lift myself it's very important, okay.
10. S. (24:33) When Rabash talks about society is he talking about the ten or the group in general?
R. Rabash is speaking about the ten. The ten can be two and onward, better not more than ten because then it's difficult to get along with more than ten, and except for that we need to try to always divide ourselves into groups which are compact, that locally can discuss and organize their matters, that one will feel the others. Ten is no more or less, it's desired to be ten but if not so less, but more than that for sure not we won't be able to control such an amount of people.
S. So when Rabash says society he means ten?
R.. Yes, of course.
11. S. (25:56) How to love and care for the friends in a way that will not lead to the development of egoistic desires?
R. I need to show them my concern, my concern, that I prepare myself for the lesson, that I bring the materials to the lesson, I try to organize more materials around it, I'm speaking about myself the way I do it. I speak to the reporters, to more people who write or ask, people turn to me with more questions during the day, different people from our society, something to do, something to offer, and in this way I do it, this is what I can do. That's how each and every one of us as much as he can strengthen the general society and as much as he can strengthen his own private society meaning the ten we have to be concerned about this and that, and the fact that we're not speaking about constantly about this general society it doesn't mean that I'm letting go of it. We talked about it, we understood it, afterwards I have to keep working in this without being reminded in the lesson about it, but in the ten, yes we do have to remind each other about it almost every day, as much as our connection must be more and more close.
12. S. (28:00) If I care in general for what the friend needs as Rabash writes can’t it increase the ego between us?
R. No. It depends with what intention we're doing this. The Creator takes care of us and he's turning us around and he'll organize all of the relationships between us, don't worry about it. We only need to worry about the connection, the closeness between us, and the more there's a distance or disputes we have to see that it's an opportunity that the Creator is giving us to correct it.
13. S. (28:53) How is it possible to give love to the entire ten in general without taking any of the friends into consideration in particular?
R. That can be, it's not real if I just take my ten into account and not each and every one. I have to see each and everyone and the group in general.
14. S. (29:35) Could it be that we don't want to use love of friends as a springboard to reach the Creator? Why not reach the Creator directly?
R. Of course we want to jump straight to the Creator, I have no problem with the Creator. Why? Because he's the Creator, he's great and big and does everything and I can't cheat him, I just annul there but towards my friends I can't, so we need to understand, so without me organizing myself with my group in mutual bestowal I don't have a path to the Creator. That's called from the love of the created beings to the love of the Creator, you don't reach the love of the Creator, without the love of the group you don't reach the love of the Creator. It's one after the other, it's two degrees.
15. S. (30:18) What do you do when you feel rejection towards a friend that shows her love for the ten openly and my ego feels that it's too much, exaggerated?
R. I feel all that in my ego, that's why I have to perform a correction on it, that as much as I look at the way she behaves, it’s like, what if she was like my daughter, how would I relate to her and so on. We need to try and see these things above our will to receive.
16. S. (31:05) If the friends hate me I feel hate from them should I express love towards them? Sorry I didn’t get the rest of the question.
R. I must express love to everybody without any connection to what I feel from them, simply, because the Creator brings me to the group and puts my hand on the good fortune and says take this for yourself, only this is the place where you can grow and reach the purpose of creation.
17. S. (31:50) What's the difference between Rabbi Shimon’s hate and hate that leads to destruction? Meaning hate that you can work with that’s a present and hate that's harmful?
R. Hate that I can overcome and as it's written and make his hater his lover, that's hatred that builds and then I rise with it.
18. S. (32:22) Reading TES I felt fulfillment, reading Rabash now I feel hate, could that be the difference between how things really are and the potential we might reach?
R. In TES we don't really feel the connection between us and the opposite of form between us, it's something else but when we read Rabash, when we connect between us in the group and the difficulties in the connection, there we feel our relationships in a very sharp way and it's worth looking at it directly. The main thing is we need to take this all patiently, that when we start studying TES it becomes very monotonic, another day, and another day, and another day, and what'll be, more details and more details, how much can you do with it? And then we discover these things in a way that, that we can't keep going anymore but we have to help each other and that's what’s written, man will help his friend, alone we can't. In a small society two, three even, though you can advance it's very difficult it seems easier it's not it's more difficult but society from ten or as much as close to ten is the optimum society that each one can help the others and then we will advance. Believe me it's worth believing in the Kabbalists and to do what they recommend.
19. S. (34:17) By shutting my mouth and not criticizing, does that bring correction to the ten?
R. It depends. I have to ask myself if the criticism I'm discovering if it's beneficial, does it build or does it destroy, and here I need to think. It could be that I'm taking a friend and consulting with him and even not one but maybe two, maybe three, but it's worth consulting first with part of the group in order to reveal this criticism to the whole group.
20. S. (35:05) And practice what does it mean to feel pressure in the ego? Is it an opportunity to ask the Creator to see if the friends are great?
R. Yes, of course. I ask the Creator to show me my friends that they are greater than me and not the opposite that the Creator shows me that they know more, that they’re greater, that they're more sacred than me, and I fall from this into despair, how I’m so small towards them I have to be happy from being in a society that my friends are do great that they give me an example, that they that they can draw me ahead that they give me a boat of Arvut, that with them I can reach connections, and by I supposedly I'm not happy about it and I curse the Creator and my whole life, because towards them I feel how small I am. I have to be happy that I'm small amongst the great, just how Rabash writes, the more I make a zero of myself towards the friends, by this I become greater.
21. S. (36:37) What does it mean to feel every day that I'm working with a smaller ego than yesterday? Am I not supposed to get a heavier weight every time?
R. Yes and no, that every day brings something, it's not a must, there are days that and even a lot of days that you, we supposedly don't feel any advancement, then suddenly it comes. It all depends on the calculation on what a person gets used to doing.
R. I'm very happy of you, it's good that we let the women complete us with their very good questions and that’s till tomorrow, we'll keep going, and also throughout the day try and repeat the materials we study, that it'll be ready for everybody, until tomorrow, and we'll keep going.