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Daily Lesson June 29, 2025.

Part 3: Winning the War - Selected excerpts to reinforce the World Kli and for peace in the world. #62

Reader: We are in the lesson on the topic of Winning the War, selected excerpts to strengthen the world Kli and the peace in the world. We are in excerpt 62 from Rabash. You can find the selected excerpts in our sites, and send live questions there as well.  

M. Laitman: We learned about the breaking, about the records, about how desire should receive the light again according to the records in it that remained of the light. meaning there is a difference between the desire that is still not in contact with the light, or a desire that is already in contact with the light, because there is a record of the light in it. And then on the relations, the connection between the vessel, meaning there is a record in it, an impression of the light that was in it before the restriction, and the light that now comes to the vessel after the restriction, there’s a big difference. Because now that the vessel is without a light within it, there is an impression in it, a record. And according to the record that is in the vessel and the light that appears on it from the outside, between the two of them, there is a clash, a collision. And this is how they begin to work together on the will to receive. So, let's see what happens to us in the encounter between the light and the vessel. Please, 62. 

Reading: (02:34) Excerpt 62. RABASH, Article No. 17, Part 1, (1984), "Concerning the Importance of Friends"

How can one consider one’s friend greater than himself when he can see that his own merits are greater than his friend’s, that he is more talented and has better natural qualities? There are two ways to understand this:

1. He is going with faith above reason: once he has chosen him as a friend, he appreciates him above reason.

2. This is more natural—within reason. If he has decided to accept the other as a friend, and works on himself to love him, then it is natural with love to see only good things. And even though there are bad things in one’s friend, he cannot see them, as it is written, “love covers all transgressions.”

M. Laitman: Yes, this is what Rabash wrote. And basically, we can agree with it. In other words, the main thing for us here is to be incorporated with the record, with the light that shines on us from within and from without, and how with this record we we change afterwards, we look at the light that comes. So, it all depends on the relation of the inner light that remains in us from the encounter with the light, the surrounding light, the big one, and our relation to that surrounding light, that great surrounding light, to the inner light. And besides these two, we have no influence from the outside. And it all depends on the relation between them. We will learn about this afterwards. 

Question (Kyiv 1): (05:34) We wrote about the relation to a friend in faith above reason, and you in your explanation are talking about how we need to relate to inner light and surrounding light. How do I, in my relation to the friend can distinguish between the different kinds of lights, inner, surrounding? 

M. Laitman: This is something we cannot talk about now. Wait, maybe we'll get to it even today.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (06:13) What's the difference between above reason and loving a friend? Can you go above reason without loving a friend? 

M. Laitman: No. Realizing it is impossible. Above reason means it is contrary to what I think, let's say, or feel, and instead I want to work like the giver, similar to the light. And if I compare what I would do without calculation and bestowal upon a friend, or with a calculation and bestowal upon myself, so from that I already have discernments. But these discernments come to me only from the will to receive that I draw, understand, and feel the light in my will to receive, or I reject it and see the light that comes to me in my relation to the light, in my rejection, that it rejects the light. 

Student: The rejection enables me to go above reason in relation to a friend, or does it enable me to love him, to start to love a friend?

M. Laitman: No. To love, it has to be an action that comes out from the basis. There has to be a restriction, a screen, a reflected light, and afterwards, when my reflected light becomes a clothing for the light that emerges from the Creator and comes to me, a clothing for the direct light, then the two of them, direct light and reflected light, then we're talking about the reaction of the vessel. A vessel is only a desire, essentially. Therefore, we cannot compare between the light that comes, and the vessel, which still doesn't do anything, but a vessel that puts on itself a restriction not to receive the light as it is, as perhaps he would want it according to his own desire, its own desire, the Kli's own desire. But rather, after the restriction we have in the desire, when the vessel performs the restriction and then relates to the light as opposite from itself, when a sensation or revelation of the oppositeness between the light and the desire in the vessel is done, the light is a desire to bestow, to fill the vessel, to love it, and the desire of the vessel before the light bestows upon it and changes it from reception into bestowal as well. So, after this action, this operation, the vessel becomes opposite from the light. In other words, there's a big difference here between where the vessel is before the restriction, when the light didn't change it, to a vessel that is done after the restriction, that also wants not to receive but to bestow, to be like the light. And this is how they continue together. There's a lot of mutual influence in this. Before the restriction, when the vessel still does not respond to the light that shines in it, and after the restriction, when the vessel feels the operation of the light on it and cannot remain this way, but only to remain, it's better to remain alone, empty, without the light. And then the light departs from the vessel, and the vessel remains empty. This operation of the vessel, when it restricts itself, restricts the reception of the light, and that's how this operation is called from the perspective of the vessel: the restriction. And then after the restriction, the light returns into the vessel that does want to receive it, because now it drove away the light, doesn't want to feel it, and then the light presses the vessel, because it wants to enter it, and as a result of having a record from all its previous operations, the vessel calculates how much light it can receive, not as it received according to its own will but according to the desire to bestow that is in it, because it was in contact with the light, and according to that contact, it can now calculate how much and in what it can be as light. And this is what now determines the state of the light in the vessel. 

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (14:23) How in an action that is done from above of the entrance of the light can the Kli refine the love? 

M. Laitman: Through the operation where the light fills the vessel and creates in a  vessel a reaction that is similar to the light which comes from the desire to bestow, which the vessel received as bestowal from the light, it turns out that the light which fills the vessel is in a vessel that is contradictory to it. And therefore, in order to receive the light, the vessel must be in equivalence of form with the light. Therefore, the vessel performs a restriction, it doesn't want the light to be in it, and after the restriction, it builds a screen, which is the desire to bestow from the perspective of the vessel, on the part of the vessel, when the will to receive decides that it now wants to receive only in order to bestow. And this is what now determines the level to which they operate and carry out the desire. The light does the Creator's will to fill the vessel and give to the vessel all of the desire to bestow in it, in Him, and the desire in the vessel, which is filled with the light, it too feels within it its will to receive, its desire to enjoy the light, which is how it was to begin with. And besides, it feels that with the light itself, it cannot be in the right connection, because the light wants to fill the vessel, and by this cancel the will to receive in the vessel. Because of it, there is some sort of a compromise between them, where the light fills the vessel, the vessel rejects the light initially, because it's the contradictory nature between them, between the light and the vessel, and when the vessel cancels the light, the light cannot remain in the vessel, and leaves, it comes out of the vessel and exists around it, which is called surrounding light. So initially, we had a desire in the vessel, will to receive, and the light entered the will to receive, and then the vessel felt, the vessel feels that it cannot tolerate the light because it comes against its will, and then it exits the vessel, that light, and exists around that vessel. In other words, there's already a connection between the vessel and the light. And afterwards, when the light is around the Kli, the vessel, it surrounds the vessel, and gradually will nevertheless come to a stage where it does want to enter the vessel, and this is done by the desire in the vessel, which is a will to receive, which now receives the light because it wants to become similar to it. So by this, the vessel awakens, wakes up back to be like the light bestowing, and in that bestowal that it wants to bestow upon the light, or to the origin of the light, to the Creator. So in it, it turns out that the light and the vessel are no longer contradictory to one another, but on the contrary, the Creator wants to bestow through the direct light on the desire, on the vessel, and the vessel wants to bestow back to the Creator through the reflected light. And then it turns out that we have oppositeness between the direct light and the reflected light, both of which want to bestow upon each other. So, we have a state, the first state, where the light is contradictory to the vessel in the intention, in the desire, and a second state where the vessel changes in its desire, because the light that comes from the Creator influences, and the desire in the light is all to receive. And in the encounter between them, a calculation is done, where the vessel cannot remain as it is according to nature, will to receive, and then the will to bestow in the light will cancel the vessel, will fill it, that vessel, and by this will control 100% as if there is no operation on the part of the vessel. The vessel does not agree to it, it performs a restriction on itself, meaning, performs an active operation on the light. It cannot simply repel the light, it performs an act on the light that comes and fills it. It does not want to feel it inside, because by this it feels how opposite it is from the Creator, who wants only to bestow, while the vessel wants only to receive, and therefore, in reception of the light from the giver, the will to receive feels itself opposite from the light, and by this it feels itself completely unrelated, not belonging to spirituality, to this world, but rather wants only to receive. And by this, a big difference is made between the light, which is surrounding light, and the vessel, which is the will to receive, and the surrounding light enters the desire, and by this becomes inner light, and the vessel that receives the light within it becomes an inner vessel. So now we have, after these four operations, we have an inner vessel and inner light, and this is called the first state, the first. Inside this first state, we can also discern a few lights and vessels, and the light that enters into the desire comes out of the desire by the fact that the vessel doesn't want to just receive the light, because this distances him from the Creator. The vessel feels how much it is the opposite of the light, and then it remains empty. The light departs, and the vessel remains empty. And this operation, where the vessel stops receiving the light according to its desire, but out of the fact that the desire has changed, so now the vessel doesn't want to receive the light at all. This operation is called Tzmtzum, restriction, the restriction of the desire. Following that, the vessel will already want to achieve the form of the Creator, meaning have a desire to bestow. So here we already have operations on behalf of the vessel, a vessel that was filled with light that was surrounding it, the light enters into the vessel, into all the four degrees of the desire that exist in the vessel, root 1, 2, 3, 4, and the vessel that felt the light inside the desire feels the light as opposite to it, so much so that it can't stand it. Because this contradiction is what the vessel feels, and it doesn't want to feel that. That feeling is terrible. So, the vessel leaves the light, or maybe it's better to say the opposite, the light leaves the vessel and the vessel remains empty. But out of the fact that nevertheless, it did receive the light inside of it, a record, Reshimo, remains inside the vessel. And according to this record, the light keeps on working. It can receive, bestow, make comparisons between this kind of filling and another kind of filling, etc. This is the beginning of our nature.  

Question (Holland): (29:26) In the work, let's say, considering the friends as greater than myself, we understand two things. What is the subtle difference between the understanding of going above reason or covering with love all transgressions? What is the difference in the understanding and in the approach of loving the friends greater than myself? 

M. Laitman: Within reason, this is clear to us. As I, in my vessels feel how much the friend is doing me a favor, helping me, etc. Accordingly, we realize that a person should do the same thing. This is what we do in this world to people who relate to us in such a way. And so, here, there is light from one party towards the other party, a very small portion of light, because this is still before the restriction, before all of these conditions. However, one gives, and the other one feels that someone is giving to him. And then he receives, and when he receives, he receives it according to what he invited, meaning that he wants to receive the light, this good bestowal from the giver in such a way that it will resemble the action of the giver. And so, it turns out that one is in bestowal to the other, and the other, by feeling that bestowal from the first, also bestows. It is considered that he is making a clothing, a garment, over what the first one does. And this is how we understand these operations between them.  

Question (Latin 4): (32:58) How to avoid, when I look at the friend, when something negative creeps into the heart and disconnects us, how to avoid that?

M. Laitman: This is my relation to the friend, which is a negative relation. I don't want to see how my friend knows how to answer some question, and so it turns out that I relate to him as, let's say, something that is hindering me, because our desire is a desire to control. So, it turns out that if I agree to hear what the friend says, I must subjugate myself towards him. I have to be smaller than him, and then I, as one who is small, can receive from him when he is great. This is how I arrange the relations between us, and then it turns out that the friend fills me. That is, I am now the receiver, and he is the bestower. He, in some way, resembles the Creator for me. And this is how we continue with all of our friends. With these more, with those less, I either receive or I give, I bestow. And this is how we organize things between us. Let's say, after each one bestows to everyone, to each and every one, then between all of us, there is already a certain order of relations between the will to receive and the will to bestow. 

Question (Turkiye 1): (35:40) How do we build the surrounding light and the inner light in a shared vessel within the Ten? 

M. Laitman: By trying, let's say from this moment onwards, to have such relations between us that not according to who gives and who receives from him and gives back, that is, not according to the operations that are revealed to everyone, but rather we want to try to be according to the conditions of the wisdom of Kabbalah, where if I feel someone that is operating, then how does it influence me? And how should I work accordingly? We learn that before I relate to someone else in some way, I have to be not just a plain will to receive, but a corrected will to receive. Corrected means that I place a screen upon myself. A screen means that in my ordinary will to receive, as it is, I don't receive any bestowal from others, from the friends, but only on the condition that I have a screen and I can receive the bestowal of the friend through the screen. That is, I repel from myself receiving what he is bestowing to me, and I want to clothe on his bestowal, my own bestowal. That I also want to receive from him so that my reception will be in order to bestow contentment to him, to the friend. And then, in such a way, I'm allowed to receive. And then I receive, and out of that, I already have my reflected light, which I activate towards the friend who is giving to me. And in that reflected light, I receive what the friend is giving me in actuality. And then what I have in me, following the friend's operation and my operation, is that the light of the friend, the light that comes through the friend, clothes inside my reflected light. Since I stopped receiving from the friend, I don't want that. And then the reflected light that I activate towards him is as a vessel that receives the light of him. And in this way, this is how my operation is and his operation. 

Question (Turkiye 7): (40:08) It mentions an act of choosing and an act of decision, choosing a friend and deciding to accept him. So, what choice is it? Because it doesn't seem that we're actually choosing here. So, what does it mean to choose and decide independently? 

M. Laitman: This is true. We don't choose anything in the meantime. I'm simply giving you an explanation that the light comes, it reaches the vessel. This light is called a direct light, because it enters into the vessel, and the vessel makes a restriction. It shuts itself and doesn't want to receive without bestowing anything back. It makes a calculation. How much can I repel the light so it will not enter into me? This is the first decision. It is called the first decision. It's called the first restriction. And afterwards, after it makes this operation, it makes a clothing from him over the light that comes to him, meaning that he receives the light above himself. That is, he doesn't receive it already inside his vessels, inside his belly, let's say. He wraps the light, the direct light that comes to him with his reflected light, and then he makes a calculation. What light and how many lights of that direct light he can clothe with his reflected light. By that, he clothes the direct light inside the reflected light. He checks to what extent this will be reception in order to bestow to the giver, and then he receives. Let's say, it's like you come to someone, you are invited for a meal, and so you sit, and they bring you, let's say, all kinds of pleasures, and you then in the first blessing, you bless the host, then you take a part of that dish, you take it to your mouth, and now you have a special operation where the light of that dish enters into you, and you can already work with this light, meaning you can taste flavors in it, you can relate while it is in you, you can relate to the host and feel how much above those flavors of the food, you can feel your relation to the host. This is the beginning of the connection between you and the host. To the extent that your reflected light is unrelated to the inside of your desire to receive but rather to the desire to bestow, then by that, already the light that comes out of you towards the host is as a feeling of gratitude to the host. And the host feels that you are receiving his bestowal with a blessing, in a good way. This is how these relations develop between the bestower, the Creator, and man, who is the created being. And the entire wisdom of Kabbalah actually speaks about all of the relations between the Creator and the created beings, and to what extent the created being, and through which actions can receive correctly his portion, his dish, and by that thank the Creator, connect with the Creator, and feel the Creator. This is our work. We learn a part of this work between man and his friend, and a part of it we learn between man and we say the place, meaning the Creator Himself, and our goal is to operate all of our desires so that they will be either towards the friend or towards the Creator, that all of them will be such that we only raise them to bestow upon the Creator. The Creator wants to bestow to all human beings, and each one of the human beings wants to bestow back to the Creator. This is called equivalence of form. This is how we develop. By me receiving or relating to the friend's desire as an address, to which I can ship or send from myself a certain action, to that extent I become similar to the Creator.  

Question (ITA 1): (48:25) When I feel that I'm being filled with light, do I need to use the screen and to refuse that light? Do I receive the light only if I can bestow it onto others? 

M. Laitman: Yes. After we already feel that we have a connection with the Creator, we need to learn how to perform correct actions in resembling the Creator. The Creator only bestows, and a person who wishes to resemble the Creator should also, first of all, take upon himself actions of bestowal. But we are will to receive. How can we be able to be entirely bestowing, each one of us and all of us together? Therefore, each one wants to use all of the power that he has to only be a bestower. And if he receives according to his nature, this is how it is in all of us. So the first action that he performs in spirituality is that from that power that he feels in the Creator, he receives bestowal from that power. And then he repels all of the light that reaches him, pressures him, wants to fill him. And this is how he begins his connection with the Creator through the restriction, that he doesn't receive anything for himself. But in order to resemble the Creator, this is not enough, that he doesn't receive. Each one can behave this way to everyone else in the whole world, and then people will never connect with each other. But rather, in order to have a connection, he must resemble the Creator in his act of reception. And then he discovers within him a desire to repel the direct light that has now reached him. And he remains in such a way, meaning he feels nothing. He stands under the light that the Creator wants to bestow to him, and he doesn't want to receive it. This action that he doesn't want to receive is called restriction. That's it. And then, when he is already not connected to the will to receive and he only has a will to bestow, he receives the light that comes from the Creator with this desire to bestow that he has now established within himself, by himself. And this light that fills him, this is called a direct light that is cloaked inside the reflected light. We will learn more about it. It's really unrelated to this lesson. What else do we have? 

Question (PT 19): (53:24) It says here, love covers all crimes. I wanted to ask you always, how is it manifested in the Ten? With all the crimes that we have in our work during the day, how does this love develop? Because in the wisdom of Kabbalah, we always say that things have to be practical, not just theoretical. So how do we do it? When we come to the morning lesson, for example, how do I implement this love covers all crimes? How does it work? What do we have to do? 

M. Laitman: Let's say that you come to some restaurant. As usual, you pay, you receive some dish, and they give you a service, really 100%, as it should be. And later on, you discover that you are actually somehow related to the host, to the owner of the restaurant. And so you embrace, and you want to bestow to each other, he to you, and you to him. And then this continues until what you feel in the food is that you only lack how to relate to the host. Because he gives to you, and he refuses to receive any payment from you. And you want somehow, nevertheless, to give back to him, to complete for him. So what can you do then? And so, the one who receives and has nothing with which to give back to the host remains indebted to the host. And the host, whether he wants to or not, he writes each time that he receives from him, he writes in his ledger. About each and every person throughout the whole of history, the Creator has his ledger. And those who want to receive from him correctly, it is considered that they want to study the wisdom of Kabbalah, the wisdom of how to receive, and by that not just to receive from the Creator, but to the contrary actually, to be bestowing. It's as if the host owes him. And this is how they arrange new relations between them.

Student: So, if I'm not in bestowal, then I'm considered a criminal in the eyes of the Creator? 

M. Laitman: Yes, of course. 

Student: So I'm a criminal, right? And what is love towards the Creator? It's being in equivalence of form with Him? 

M. Laitman: Well, love is something we have to reach. 

Student: We need to attain it.

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Woman Petah Tikva 23): (57:31) What is the relation between the light and the vessel before and after the restriction, and how is that expressed in the work of the Ten? 

M. Laitman: Each time we have a certain relation to the vessel and a certain relation to the light that fills the vessel. How do we implement it in the Ten? This is what we learn, it's the entire wisdom of Kabbalah, the whole of the wisdom of Kabbalah is in that.

Question (Woman Petah Tikva 8): (58:23) In the beginning of the lesson, I heard that the light fills the vessel and the person cannot tolerate it and wants to reject it. Is that something that applies to us also in our situation under the Machsom, the barrier? 

M. Laitman: Possibly. 

Student: The light that pressures the person, does it compel him to perform more actions, to pray more? 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: In what way does it pressure him? 

M. Laitman: The light that pressures the person awakens him to perform more acts of bestowal. 

Student: And if the person finds that he's trying to flee that pressure, you say that He has an open book, right, so how to deal with that correctly? What to do? 

M. Laitman: To learn, together with their friends, how to bestow to the Creator by bestowing to each other. 

Student: And when that feeling comes to a person when he's alone, does he also need to do something? 

M. Laitman: There is no such thing. If he's alone, he cannot study, because the whole of the wisdom of Kabbalah is from bestowal to people to bestowal to the Creator. 

Student: So, let's say that a person feels pressure to always be in prayer, and he wants to escape that. Is that not that kind of influence? 

M. Laitman: If he wants to run away, then he wants to run away. There's nothing that can be done here. We're not talking about any kind of bestowal here. We're just saying he doesn't want to be in any kind of bestowal, although his life may be pressuring him.

Question (Woman Petah Tikva 33): (01:00:20) Rav, you explained that before I interact with a friend in any way, I need to be corrected, and then I make the connection only according to the screen, only according to the intention to bestow. And so, it follows that you need to always be doing that calculation, right? Even before the act we call “opening the heart.”

M. Laitman: It's together with the opening up of the heart. 

Student: How to perform the opening of the heart correctly? 

M. Laitman: Do what we study, and you will feel that in that you are actually doing it. These are exactly the same actions that we are studying.

Question (Woman Rehovot 1): (01:01:17) I heard you say that what obstructs us from connecting is the desire to rule. 

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: So, what kind of indication do we have when we come to connecting to the Ten? What kind of examination should we make to see, to be watchful against trying to dominate the Ten? 

M. Laitman: We don't use our egoistic desire to receive. 

Student: And how can we diagnose that? So I think that I come to the Ten from a place of wanting to connect and… 

M. Laitman: Think less and do more. Never relate to the friends in a way that you want to receive, feel yourself somehow.

Student: But in real time, when the crimes awaken in the Ten, in real time, how can I, how can you see that the Creator is working within the friend, or how can I establish within me that sensation, that understanding that the Creator is working through her, and it's not the friend herself? 

M. Laitman: Just continue, and you will see how everything will be established within you. 

Question (Woman Unity): (01:02:53) So, usually I don't want to receive from a friend because I don't want to feel lesser, inferior. So, is it correct to receive from her so that she feels good, but then I also feel myself as being above her, right? So, how to perform the right calculation and know that I'm bestowing contentment?

M. Laitman: The right calculation is when you want to operate only for the benefit of the other.

Student: I really feel that I received, and then the friend receives contentment from that, from me receiving from her? 

M. Laitman: Start operating the way we're talking about it, then you will feel it.

Question (Woman Spa): (01:04:16) If the records are impressions left in the soul and the created being advances according to them, how can the created being know that his impressions are correct for his advancement? Are they always necessary? Are they always positive?

M. Laitman: No, the records are about the relation between what happened, what will be. So in them, it's according to their magnitude, there is no plus or minus there, but rather records are just records. We need to see what are the relations between us when we actualize these records, meaning the relations between us are such that we want to see the state after we actualize the records.  

Question (Woman Heb 1): (01:05:42) The beginning of the restriction always happens in the mind? 

M. Laitman: Yes, you can say that. 

Question (MAK 112): (01:06:00) What does it mean to open the heart? 

M. Laitman: To open the heart, means to clean it, to cleanse to it from the egoism, and make it so that everything we do will be only in order to bestow to the Creator. 

Question (Woman French 1): (01:06:40) In the work between us, in the relations between us, what is the light that we need to reject and restrict? 

M. Laitman: What do we have to reject? Everything that evokes lust within me, from the smallest one to the greatest one. This is what I have to do.  

Question (Woman MAK): (01:07:37) How to work correctly with faith above reason such that you don't only receive the friend lacks, but for this to become a correction that leads to natural love? 

M. Laitman: Keep working the way you're talking, and then you will reach it. You can't jump to the very last degree. 

Question (Woman Rus): (01:08:12) We receive faith above reason when we have the screen, right? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: Now, if we go with faith below reason, we're just play-acting faith above reason, right? We're trying to enter into that state, and that brings us closer to the goal? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: So, that game or act, playing at faith above reason, how to act like that? 

M. Laitman: Keep acting as much as you can. Like you were playing with dolls once, so you should play with that. And then you will see how it truly formats you.

Question (Salt Lake City): (01:09:06) We love you so much, all together. The question is, how can we unite faith above reason with the covering of love that it would actually be felt in us?

M. Laitman: Again? 

Student: The friend is asking how to connect. Yes, we have first point, faith above reason, intention, and the second paragraph is covering with love. How to make it sensible, that we all feel that covering love inside of us? 

M. Laitman: Faith above reason is the first step, and then to cover all of the relations between us with that, that's already the second step.