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Daily Morning Lesson: June 25, 2025

Part 3: Winning the War - Selected excerpts to reinforce the World Kli and for peace in the world. Peace Among Friends, Excerpt #59

Reader: (00:05) We are studying selected excerpts on the topic of “Winning the War.” Selected excerpts for strengthening the world and the well-being of the world. We will continue from item 59, and the next sub-heading is, Peace Among Friends. If you want to ask questions from the hall, raise your hands, and I will raise a hand for Rav Laitman to see us, he will give us permission to ask, and then we can ask from the all as well. So again, “Winning the War”, selected excerpts for strengthening the world Kli and the well-being of the world. Headline, “Peace Among Friends”, item 59.

Reading: (01:08) 59. RABASH, Article No. 8 (1985), "Make for Yourself a Rav and Buy Yourself a Friend – 2"

Those people agreed to unite into a single group that engages in love of friends is that each of them feels that they have one desire that can unite all their views, so as to receive the strength of love of others. There is a famous maxim by our sages, “As their faces differ, their views differ.” Thus, those who agreed among them to unite into a group understood that there isn’t such a great distance between them in the sense that they recognize the necessity to work in love of others. Therefore, each of them will be able to make concessions in favor of the others, and they can unite around that.

M. Laitman: Yes, this is what Rabash writes in his article, Make for yourself a Rav and buy yourself a friend - 2. If there are no questions, we can continue.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (03:13) He says everyone has something common here. They are all needy of one force of love of others.

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: What is the need for that force? What does it mean that they all know that they need the same thing?

M. Laitman: The thing is that the will to receive of each and every person isolates him from the others. It gives his body and his mind all the data that concern his individual state. And we are engaging in studying the spiritual part in a person, where in spirituality, as we learned already, we exist as one man in one heart. And there is nothing between us that can divide and separate one from the other. Therefore, we see, as Rabash wrote and many other Kabbalists wrote about the connection between the students. That this is the condition to attain actually or in the sense what we study.

So, even though by nature we were created as unique individuals where each one does not feel the other. Through this force that works on us from a higher spiritual world, we connect a little bit, and we begin to see ourselves in the second, and the second in the third, and so on and so forth. Until the point where, as the wisdom of Kabbalah says, we reach a state where the whole world, the whole of humanity will be felt in us as though we are with them in one heart, in one body; and this will be the end of the correct development of our world.

Student: How to reach a state where we're all clear, that we're missing the exact same thing? Like he says here, that we need the force of love of others?

M. Laitman: We need that force of love of others in order to annul our ego. That each and every one has his own ego and we have to rise above it, and connect.

Student: So, a person sees both on himself and on his friends that they all need the same thing.

M. Laitman: It's not immediately, but later on, one sees it, yes.

Question (W Heb 1): (07:49) Perhaps you just discussed it, Rabash writes, everyone will be able to, when we understand the necessity to work in love of others, everyone will be able to make concessions for the others, and by that they can unite. So, a friend is asking, what does it mean to make concessions?

M. Laitman: This means that the egoistic demands that rise from our heart to our mind, they are felt in us as important things, and we want to satisfy these questions, these spaces that we feel in our mind. The fact that they are not full, we feel it as unpleasant, as a lack of – how shall I put it –a lack of existence, let's call it a lack of existence in our world. And so, those who begin to study the wisdom of Kabbalah, they also begin to feel questions that surface in them from Ein Sof; we don't know from where, later on we will find out. And when we want to find answers to these questions that awaken in us, these answers also come from the spiritual world from a state where we are connected between us. This is why we have an obligation to unite. Because, otherwise, we will not know what is the spiritual force that is organized around our world. And this is how we should continue.

Question (Turkiye 1): (10:42) How will the Creator become the only goal for the group that has come together? How to make the Creator the only goal?

M. Laitman: This is through the study, of course, the Creator is one for everyone. But through the study, we begin to detect His existence in every question we have, in everything we feel, we study, we receive, etc.

Question (MAK 3): (11:34) Is there a difference between the annulment and the concession?

M. Laitman: Well, of course there is. There are many things to it. But let's put it this way: If a person annuls his ego, he doesn't want to use it with respect to his friend, then instead of that ego that he had, he now turned it into a force of bestowal. And so, there's a big difference.

Question (Kyiv 1): (12:25) In the first part of what we read, it said that their faces differ, and then it writes that they work on love of others. This love of others towards each friend, it's also not similar to the way the friend loves the others?

M. Laitman: Yes, it is different, yes. The thing is that our attitude to others depends on whom? These are also different relations, they relate to one this way, to the other that way, to the third one differently. And I need to be connected with them, and together with them to adhere to one common desire.

Student: This desire that we adhere to, that, too, has a common feeling?

M. Laitman: In the beginning, it is personal, it's a personal desire. But later on, gradually, it connects to the other desires. It becomes more general until it makes all the desires become one desire.

Question (Tel Aviv 1): (13:47) Those who agreed to unite into a single group that engages in love of friends, each of them feels that they have one desire that can unite all their views so as to receive the strength of love of others. What allows, in a single point, to move from disagreement to a point of agreement?

M. Laitman: There's a big difference. If there is no such agreement to be in one desire, then it is difficult for them to detect the Creator as one.

Student: So, what needs to be done, or what needs to happen?

M. Laitman: We need to operate and the most important is the prayer. We have to connect between us and each one should think about the others until all of our desires unite into a great vessel that is capable of feeling, of including within it the feeling of love of others, all the people who exist in the world. They all actually want the same thing, to discover the Creator, as much as the Creator can be present in them, or they can be in Him.

Question (Haifa 2): (16:07) Is it possible for us to leave? Does the Creator ever leave us?

M. Laitman: No, the Creator doesn't leave us but, rather it all depends on our sensitivity towards Him. Therefore, you won't find anywhere a method of connection between the students and the Creator; it can be attained only in the connection between us.

Question (W Turkiye 8): (17:18) How do we transform to really be one common desire when we still haven’t heard the unique view or opinion of each of us? How to become one common desire that nullifies the ego between us?

M. Laitman: We gather together with our unified single view, that we can all become incorporated in one desire. Us towards the Creator, this is what he explains.

Question (W Rehovot 1): (18:18) How can the action of concession support or help the action of connection between us? How does that happen?

M. Laitman: Because through annulment, I nullify my will to receive, that I don't want to use it with respect to connection with the Creator. And then, instead of that same will to receive, I feel the Creator, the Giver. And so, when I fill all of my vessels, my personal desires to receive and receive, then they all become fulfilled by the upper light and connect; and I, thus, go and attain the Creator.

Student: In the article, he writes that we differ in our faces, we differ in our views. How in the Ten do we find a central point where we can unite above the different views, the different faces, the different characters, the different calculations? How do we find that central point and connect there?

M. Laitman: We do all sorts of actions, studying, questions and answers, whatever possible, in the hope, in the intention, that we'll connect together. And in such a way, we'll begin to feel a different reality. A different reality means that the individual world that each and every one has, will connect together with the spiritual sensation of the world, of the others. And this way, we come to as one man and one heart.

Question (W MAK): (20:50) The love of others, it is such a great force that by it you can overcome everything. The conditions for the development of this force, it's a mutuality. What is mutual love between the friends?

M. Laitman: Mutual love between the friends has room, if they understand each other, know each other, if they're connected with their yearning, one towards the other. And then the connection, the adhesion between them succeeds, and they reach attainment. There's a big difference between when they can feel each one their personal space in the spiritual world; versus when they connect and feel their common space in the spiritual world. And this is a huge difference, indescribable, it means that each of them builds a complete world in himself. And when they connect in such a way, it follows that many in the Ten, in the group, connect their desires together to such an extent that they feel the entire group as a single whole.

Question (French): (22:58) How can I maintain the love of friends when I don't feel pleasure in the connection from a friend?

M. Laitman: It's a problem. You have to pray to the Creator that you wish to be connected with the friends. Because through that, in such a way, you reveal the Creator to yourself and you get closer to the goal of life, the goal of creation.

Question (Haifa 2): (23:44) They say they agree to unite and understand. How can we increase the force to unite around us? Practically, how can we increase that force?

M. Laitman: To unite is not up to us, the Creator that shines on us, He, through His light, unites us. And this makes us equal to each other and also takes us through other ascents and changes that happen within us.

Question (W Latin 1): (25:01) When we become incorporated with the friends, and we annul before the method and before the world Kli, are these actions called “make for yourself a Rav?”

M. Laitman: Yes, if I wish to see in front of me the entire world group, or say a part of the world group, that would mean that I shape the Creator. That I depict Him being in front of me, and that's how we advance. And, buy yourself, a friend, is already an even closer connection, where all those that I used to relate to them as people who are with me on a spiritual ascent. They truly become like me, and our vessels, our desires, begin to merge, to unite, and the Creator becomes one for all.

Question (Latin 26): (26:46) How can every friend be more pleasant towards the other friends in order to enable us to do work in love of others?

M. Laitman: We're feeling that way only in the beginning, that there are many friends and each one occupies a certain level of connection. Some level of aid and knowledge, but later on, it's not so important to us because we feel everyone longing to be as one. And then the difference between all the friends disappears.

Question (KabU 12): (27:50) How do we truly come to pray for the Ten's attainment and not our own?

M. Laitman: We can't, because altogether, the force that we have through the connection between us, through integration and incorporation between us. That force becomes a new vessel for a new state; and thus we feel specifically through that vessel, specifically in it, we feel a new reality – the spiritual reality.

Question (MAK 11): (29:03) When we are now before the Creator, or not before the Creator, before the friends, we can receive from them, right? What can we receive from them in that state?

M. Laitman: You connect to them to form a common vessel. The friend gives me, I give him, to the extent that we can connect.

Question (W Turkiye 7): (29:56) The excerpt speaks about concessions, that the person has to make concessions, and concessions create resistance. So, the friend is asking, how can we broaden our point of view, our perspective, in order to rise above this resistance?

M. Laitman: We have to better consider the friend or the friends with which we want to unite. And to that extent, we begin to also sense the Creator, Who is one for all of us. And in such a way, we start connecting with Him, actually, and that's how we advance, through each time connecting stronger, better, higher with the Creator. And through that, we'll feel how we unite with the friends. How we can correct, make corrections? This whole process, it is a process of the correction of the souls that become incorporated in the system of Adam HaRishon, our whole internality.

Student: We always ask how to connect, how to bestow to the friends. When we turn to a friend and ask for help, sometimes she says that she can't do it. And then there is a gap between speaking and doing. How do we overcome this gap? How can we nevertheless feel that we are together?

M. Laitman: Together is already a very difficult condition. We need to connect, that's true but when we connect, we need to check: What does this connection give us? And we will learn how – just in order to ascend even closer to the Creator – I'm willing not to take into account all kinds of my personal conditions. The personal conditions of a friend, and another friend, and another friend, that way in my Ten, I take those conditions, just as if they came from the Creator. And by that, it becomes a circle, that we incorporate from one another and this way, we are corrected. That's why, connection, and conceding each one on their own desire towards the others, it's something very, very important. It's already a spiritual action, and by that, we build a spiritual vessel.

Question (Moscow 1): (35:11) If we come to the absolute point of connection, then in place of the friends, I reveal the Creator?

M. Laitman: And you discover the friends, and inside them, you discover the next degree, the connection with the Creator.

Student: That's the complete prayer that we need to unite with?

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Moscow 6): (35:50) You said that the difference between the friends is disappearing. Is that the common denominator?

M. Laitman: Yes, of course.

Question (W Argentina 1): (36:16) What depth of scrutiny do we need in order to reach the feeling that the desire of the friend is like mine?

M. Laitman: If I want to connect to the friend, so I call him, I come closer to him, we hug, obviously not physically, in our intentions. So, me and the friend connect, and together we can ascend to a higher degree. That degree includes my vessel and his vessel, and that degree starts feeling as both of us. As both of us, meaning I feel what he feels, and he feels what I feel, this way we incorporate. By this we build, by connecting between us, we build an even bigger degree, a common degree between the two. There, we already attain the Creator in a new way because on that third degree, his vessel and my vessel become one, and his private attainment and my private attainment also become as one. Then we start as if to give birth to something new between us.

Student: Is everything concluded in feeling the Creator?

M. Laitman: No, it's a new element in each one of us that we receive and we discover more ability to ascend, and more and more. Then we and the friend that's connecting, we start understanding where we are, who we're dealing with, and so on.

Question (W MAK 43): (40:03) If everything is from above, then what are we conceding, and who is the one that's conceding?

M. Laitman: I didn't understand your question. Whichever way I don't turn it around, I still don't understand it.

Student: Maybe I'll ask it differently: If everything is controlled from above, and a person doesn't have the forces of his own, could you say that the concession is not an action, but a recognition?

M. Laitman: No, you need to concede not because you don't have a form of your own yet, and you will at some point. Every ascent throughout the whole ladder, from our point to Ein Sof, the most highest degree. The ascent is felt in a way that we annul our ego and use it only to bestow with.

Question (CzechSlovak 2): (41:41) How can we reveal the desire of a friend? How to discover the desire, how to know what the desire of the friend is?

M. Laitman: Aim yourself or make yourself like a mother who wants to feel her child – what does he want? Then she tries to find what he wants and to bring it to him.

Student: Can we truly connect in other way than in our desire, in our common desire?

M. Laitman: Later on, we'll see that, for now, let's do what's written. You, with your desire want to incorporate in his desire, and he wants the same towards you, so they are both in equivalence of form. You and yourself, he and himself, and except for that, each one wants to connect to the other. And in this way you can attain the common Kli.

Question (Kyiv 3): (43:31) The common Kli and the common deficiency, are they the same?

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: How and in what manner is it connected, where we make concessions in the Ten, one towards the other? And for that to have a common deficiency, what's the connection?

M. Laitman: You want to feel what the other feels, and he, in relation to you two, and this way, you get a mutual vessel. Each one of you tries to connect in the other's desires – the first one and the second, the second and the first.

Student: Meaning with these concessions, we need to try and feel specifically the desire of a friend to bestow, or something else?

M. Laitman: There is no desire to bestow.

Question (ITA 1): (45:03) These concessions that we have to make in the Ten, are they actions, or thoughts?

M. Laitman: It's not important, the main thing is that we'll know exactly that those thoughts take place in us, and we want to keep them.

Question (W SPA): (46:12) The question is about the distrust there is in the Ten. Does it stem from separation from the friends or from the Creator? What is the feeling of mistrust in the spiritual system, where does that come from?

M. Laitman: We need to think. I think we just started reaching the connecting of the vessels – how each one annuls himself towards the other and connects between one another. So, we'll talk about it, what happens there in the vessels.

Question (W Spain 1): (47:11) How can I help a friend rise to love of others when she's not capable? Or is it something that I need to correct within me, as it's my own flaw?

M. Laitman: You need to understand her in your deficiencies, but not that you need to correct your desire in this. But you want to correct the gap between your desire and her desire, that they will both be as one. A few more lessons and we'll already understand, we'll start feeling and understanding what's happening to us.

Question (Hadera 1): (48:33) Are the desires that we receive ones that are coming up in us because they need correction?

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: And is this how the dispute comes, and that's from the dispute that we start working?

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (W Latin 26): (49:04) When two friends are more managed to connect and clothe in one another, in their connection can they draw the rest of the friends to the center of that connection?

M. Laitman: Yes. We need to think what impression we're making on our friends, that it'll be a positive impression, and correct. We might not know exactly how correct from that same state, but the fact that it's positive, that it will bestow to them in a positive way or affect them in a positive way for advancement, that we must be concerned about.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (50:13) We are constantly yearning to receive this force of love. And the force of love brings us the reality of the Creator. He says that for that, we have to engage in love. What is to deal, to engage with love?

M. Laitman: That we constantly want to check: Do I have love towards all the other friends? And if not, so I need to be concerned about it, pray about it, ask for it. And so I feel it.

Student: I heard that Rav said that each time we actually need to attain the Creator in a new way. What does that mean as far as we're concerned, to attain the Creator each time in a new way?

M. Laitman: I don't know, every time you are in contact with the Creator, and through Him to the friends or through the friend to the Creator. So all these conditions for connection, all these conditions in connection give you new styles in the connection between you and the friend. Only in this way, you advance.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (51:54) Let's say, I'll ask my friends if they want to adhere to the Creator, and each one will say, yes. So, could I say that there's already one desire?

M. Laitman: It could be that they don't know what they're answering about.

Student: So, how to reach one desire?

M. Laitman: That's why we didn't finish everything in one lesson. We are entering a topic, meaning the connection between us, and beginning to to dig deeper and deeper. Until we begin to see each and every one, every man and every woman in our group – our world group – so everyone understand what it is to be in connection, in incorporation, and how.

Student: From the connection, only one desire comes from the connection?

M. Laitman: Yes.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (53:20) I need to incorporate in the friend's coarseness, and in this way I can ascend with them together. Meaning to take their coarseness on myself, or should I focus on the connection, and that will project to my environment?

M. Laitman: No, I don't know what connection is, friend is something much clearer, do you understand? It's to them that I have to come to, what does it mean to incorporate with the friends, what is it to connect with them? What does it mean to feel the Creator in the connection with them? It's all things I have to scrutinize, I need to feel. So, let's hope that we will soon get there.

Question (W Turkiye 7): (54:28) When we feel a friend, is that already the feeling of the friend or is it me how I feel the friend?

M. Laitman: It's always the feeling in you, you are feeling. You don't feel her and how she is, you feel her through your vessels.

Student: Can I feel the friend's desire as my own?

M. Laitman: No. There are such degrees in our work onwards, but now, for the time being, no.

Student: If I feel everything through my own vessels, when will I come to the bestowal stage?

M. Laitman: Specifically in this way, you feel more and more closeness to bestowal. And the next stage is you'll begin to bestow.

Question (Moscow 6): (56:30) Do we need to aim ourselves in advance to connection with the Creator?

M. Laitman: Do we need what? Connect to the Creator? We need to connect for the sake of the Creator to have a vessel. And in this vessel, we will discover Him because this is the true purpose we have. To the extent in which we can connect, despite our ego, and in order to reveal Him; that is our work.

Question (W Turkiye 8): (57:33) There are friends in the Ten that advance quietly on the path, and there is one that constantly wants to ask questions. How to combine those two different qualities and reach connection?

M. Laitman: There are many means, first of all, no one can ask, and ask, and ask, you asked, that's it. Now let someone else ask; yes, now someone else. Meaning, we need to divide during the lesson the ability to ask, the ability to do something so it will be more or less equal. This all depends on those who manage the lesson.

Question (W Rehovot 1): (59:01) If there are no concessions in the Ten, how can we still conduct ourselves? How to keep connecting?

M. Laitman: We need to continue in the connection for sure, every day anew; to connect to all the friends. To make sure that each and every one of them wants connection. That who wants connection, I'm calling with my speech and together with her, I try to express myself, my question. That's the practice, no more than that.

Student: But if I feel that there is no concession in the Ten, no annulment, how can I keep not to work with all these calculations? What can help me, what action can help me not to start calculating and to just keep connecting if there's no concession?

M. Laitman: Annul yourself and feel that you're in the hands of the friends. And you'll immediately feel during that lesson or the next that you have a new connection from that, a more stronger connection in the group.

Question (Turkiye): (01:01:25) Can you give us a practical exercise on how to connect in the Ten. And that we'll take this exercise, all the Tens in the world, and through that we'll try to discover the Creator in the connection between us.

M. Laitman: That's in every question that our friends want to ask that are now before us on the screens. We can take each and every question and turn it into a world general question upon which everyone thinks about, seemingly. That's whatever it thinks and everyone wants to connect, and it's about that that we ask, and that's what we get to.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (01:02:44) What is a pure vessel?

M. Laitman: A pure vessel? The question is in what state we're talking about? A pure vessel is one that doesn't have desires to receive, that just wants to bestow. That works directly towards the other vessels; that's called pure.

Student: Yes, I really want to be in that pure vessel, to only ask for the friends, but throughout the day, I'm in actions for my own benefit. So, what should my prayer be, exactly: To ask the Creator to correct my desire in order to receive in a pure way for the friends? Or give me the forces to restrict my desire in order to ask?

M. Laitman: Those are exercises, you could do it this way, and you could do it that way. Yes, the main thing is continue.

Question (Petah Tikva Center): (01:04:18) I heard, do I have love towards other friends, and if not, I have to make sure that I will find it. Is that a clear way to check? Can a person always turn to himself and see what he feels towards the friends, and then towards that, and ask him to pray? Or maybe it's an illusion that the desire is showing him something specific.

M. Laitman: No, I can't say, but nevertheless, it's good to do these exercises.

Question (CzechSlovak 2): (01:05:21) Is the opening of a friend's heart a condition for feeling their desire?

M. Laitman: Yes, it's a condition, that's the condition. The main thing for us is to feel the other first, and then make your will his will, and he will make his desire as yours. And then it turns out that you're connecting by this to one another.

Question (W Spain 1): (01:06:14) How can the Ten uplift the other above all the opinions and forms until we reach one desire and truly reach love of others?

M. Laitman: We need to continue. Let's hope that from today onwards, God willing, we are continuing day after day, morning after morning with you together. And you will be able to see how every morning you're taking another step forward, another step forward, and this is how we will feel.

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