Congress Lesson 2 June 4, 2021 Transcription
1. Rav’s Introduction: Yes, where do we attain the vessel for the revelation of the Creator especially in our time and our generation, which is the last generation? Only through Arvut. Arvut is our Kli. Therefore Baal HaSulam wrote, especially for that, his article of Arvut. We know that the revelation of the Creator, entrance to spirituality, and our whole spiritual existence happens only in a vessel of Arvut. This is something very special that by coming out of myself and being included in the friends, there I find my spiritual vessel, which is not in me and therefore the upper light can't come to me and correct and do something with me. Only by helping me integrate with the friends, incorporate with the friends, that's where I find my Kli, so my Kli is in the friends. In truth, it is understood in a structural sense if I am the part of the Malchut in the Kli, in the 10 Sefirot of the Kli, so all my friends are the first 9 Sefirot, the first 9. So, it turns out that if I incorporate with them, then I acquire their vessels of bestowal and specifically this way I complete my spiritual vessel that was in the friends and through the Arvut each and every one of us helps the other acquire vessels of bestowal and be ready for the revelation of the Creator. Therefore, without realizing the Arvut, we cannot do any step forward in our spiritual journey. Only by incorporating with each other and getting closer to each other, connecting and helping each other in different ways, then the light that reforms works on us. We awaken it and the Creator wants to be revealed in us, and by wanting to connect to each other, each one to his friend, through that action alone that action is sufficient to raise ourselves from corporality to spirituality. There is a lot of material about this. A lot is written about it in different places that Arvut is the spiritual Kli. It does not exist in any one of us so we cannot just draw the light that reform, we have nowhere to draw it into. We have to incorporate with the friends and then through our incorporation with them we can draw the light that reforms. So we have what needs to be reformed, so we have the thing that needs to be reformed. This way we receive the spiritual vessel and begin to enter the upper force. We will read, you will ask, and the Arvut is a profound matter. All the spiritual laws come from carrying out the Arvut. All of the books Kabbalist write and what they discuss is only from their revelations in the Arvut. All of reality is divided into two: (1) outside of Arvut is corporeality and (2) inside the Arvut which is spirituality.
Excerpt 1 (05:06 - 06:25) twice
2. R. (06:26) Meaning we need to reach a state where we are included together, incorporated between us, so that this incorporation enables us to invite the upper light. This upper light fulfills our desire and prepares it for the revelation of all spiritual states where we see that we are all dependent on each other, help each other, we are Incorporated with each other between us. Through this, we also incorporate with the higher will of that state, which is the Keter of that state and the Creator becomes the purpose of that unity.
3. S. (07:19) Does it mean that we have to show each other the proper example of how can we bestow contentment to the Creator through Arvut?
R. Right. Basically the Arvut is the only thing we need to do. It is the only action that brings back the broken vessel of Adam HaRishon to correction. Then as much as we try to bring that Kli back to connection and unity, above our ego and all the disturbances, we ask the Creator to help us with that. Then, through all of these efforts, we come to a correction.
4. S. (08:18) What does it mean to give your friend contentment?
R. It means that whatever the friend needs in order to reach spirituality, I am willing to let myself go and help him with everything.
5. S. (08:39) How don't you get confused between egoistic, corporeal Arvut “take care of me and I’ll take care of you'' and the spiritual Arvut?
R. Who do we want to benefit through this action, ourselves, each one to the other, or the Creator?
6. S. (09:04) What kind of responsibility should each feel towards his friends? What is that mutual responsibility that he has to feel that friends are expecting him to give them?
R. He needs to feel that he is holding the spiritual Kli of the friends in his hands and they hold his spiritual Kli in their hands and then from the Arvut, from the lack of it, we need to come to such Arvut that controls our vessel through the relation of the Creator. We need to understand that we have to work together to allow the Creator room to appear. That is our responsibility and from that responsibility we have to achieve Arvut, Mutual Guarantee.
S. Can the friend show the friends that they're discontent that they're not doing the work properly?
R. I don't think that we typically need to think about this but it is possible if a person is completely not participating meaning not trying to take part in building the system of mutual guarantee, on top of the broken system, then it's a problem. We need to imagine this 10, each one needs to think about his broken 10 and how he can move it towards participation and revelation of the Creator inside of it and then as much as you can invest in that you have to invest in that in prayers and requests and different actions whatever possible. You have to try to build the spiritual vessel that's it, most importantly in all of this is prayer.
7. S. (11:36) Mutual responsibility in the 10, how is this condition expressed and the feelings and emotions between the friends?
R. Mutual guarantee in the 10 each have to feel it on the friends how much they try to feel the true deficiencies in the 10. The connection of the friends in the 10 even whether it's in bad states or in good states, and through mutual aid, mutual awakening, mutual support that everyone will feel that he has friends who are willing to do everything for him. The Arvut is like a plant, it's like a flower, we have to make sure it always grows because that will be the vessel where the Creator is revealed to our corrected desires. When they appear from their common screen that is their Inner strength that they're holding them, each other correctly they reveal the Reshimot and all of that is called the vessel of Arvut.
8. S. (13:27) I wasn't in mutual guarantee towards my 10, I preferred corporeality to spirituality, meaning I promised the 10 something and I didn't keep my promise because I had to deal with some corporeal problem. I had no choice, now I ask for their forgiveness but what I'm afraid of is that it will happen again. I am not sure what will be my response, will I not do it again, if there will be a situation where I have to choose between corporeality and spirituality, I don't know if I am not going to make the same mistake and choose corporeality over spirituality, what do I do?
R. This is exactly the example where mutual guarantees post to help the more I invest in the group if I truly invest and I want to discover, there is my spiritual process. By that I somewhat assure myself that these corporeal troubles, these concerns will not fall on me in such a way that I will have to leave the study. There is no such thing. The Creator doesn't work on us in this way. We always rise and sanctity and not descend. Sure we go through failures on the path but not to the point that I detach from the spiritual process. That does not happen at all with regards to the upper purpose it does not happen.
Excerpt 2 (15:25 - 16:05) twice
9. R. (16:06) This is something really strange, what it says here. How by the common Arvut, the general Arvut that we are signing between us, we promise ourselves a general universal existence in all possible realms. How is that possible? If you say about spirituality that I'm not familiar with then that's how it is. But if we are talking about corporeal laws then what does it mean that if we care for one another then, for sure, we will lack nothing corporeally wise. Either it is the Creator that works that way that He signs for it, and provides each of us with a sense of security, food and in general everything that we need in life. Or how does it work? Because, all in all, by us wanting -- does it simply happen by us wanting to connect with one another? So let's read it again please.
2nd read of Excerpt 2 (17:25 - 18:07)
10. S. (18:10) How in the darkest times can one be certain that 600,000 loyal trustworthy . . .?
R. If you behave this way then you can discover not just 600,000 loyal friends who are standing there for you but that you are in your own personal final correction. It all depends on the person who works towards the group in that way.
11. S. (18:55) The feeling is that there's a problem to agree after every new state to agree that it is coming from the Creator and one way or another it is all related to the Arvut in the 10?
R. Yes, correct. Everything depends on the agreement of Arvut inside the 10.
12. S. (19:23) What is the difference between Arvut and a spiritual vessel?
R. Arvut is the spiritual Kli, there is no difference.
13. S. (19:53) Baal HaSulam writes ‘in this general Arvut, every member of the nation is rid of any worries for his own needs’. What comes first, the general Arvut or that he's rid of all the worries?
R. Of course, the general Arvut first. By the Arvut, each and every one raises himself to a level where he doesn't care about anything else. If you care about the Arvut, you don't need to be concerned about anything else, if it's done in the right way.
Excerpt 3 (20:34 - 22:20) twice
14. R. (22:22) We can say even more than that. We can ask and ask and ask of the Creator all kinds of things but it doesn't really help, why? Because the Creator answers you if you ask for the friend. And He is willing to answer the friend if he is asking something for you. That's how each and every one works if he is incorporated with the others and asks for the others. In this way, they immediately are rewarded with seeing how the Creator listens and hears and answers anyone who prays for his friend. When he prays for himself, it just increases his ego. So if we truly want to succeed there is no choice, we have to only ask for the friends, to care for the friends. By that, we will all succeed. You should write it down and look at this every day until we realize it and begin to feel it and get used to it and realize ourselves this way.
15. S. (24:00) Why is it so unclear and it is really impossible to believe what you just said that I pray for the friend. It's like a mantra. If it's like a business and I invest in it, I understand. But how does it work that I have to invest in him and everything's going to be fine for me?
R. And it works. Above your ego, above your intellect, there it works.
16. S. (24:50) How do I ask for the friend? How do I do it in the 10? Am I supposed to say something verbally or it is a concern in my heart, what is it?
R. When you see that your friend has some desire, some deficiency, that he really wants something to happen, so just know that as much as he asks for it, himself, it is not going to happen. When you see that he is lacking, that the Creator is showing you that so you'll ask for the friend, that's how it works. It always works in a way that we will be able to complete our vessels of bestow, our connection, our mutual guarantee. It is not the friend's problem or my problem. The Creator sets up these conditions between us so that each one shall help his friend. This way we can correct this network of connection between us. We will fulfill our collective Kli in the light of Ein Sof, which is not mine, not yours, not anyone's, it is just one Kli with one light.
17. S. (26:36) Asking for the 10 and for a particular friend. Is it one and the same? If not, what is the difference?
R. The request for the friend is more powerful than asking for the 10. In the 10, you are also included and it is a more vague thing. But for the friend, that is a problem. That is where you need to invest yourself more. It is more opposite, more in contrast to your ego. The 10, however, it’s like we are all together. It's like some squad, some team that you're included as well. Your ego doesn't resist the group as much as it resists helping each and every friend, personally.
18. S. (27:53) What is the condition where it says ‘until everyone enjoys’?
R. That we all feel that we are in mutual guarantee and everyone asks for the other, and takes care of the others, and thus everyone benefits.
19. S. (28:18) During the Congress, the feeling of being connected with the 10 in and outside of the lesson, the feeling of being connected to the 10 is much stronger during the lesson yet when we finish the lesson, we feel completely disconnected. How can you balance these things out?
R. Well, make efforts, ask, discuss between you. If you want to see a homogeneous group that is working as a single body, it will work out. If you ask in this direction, there is no problem.
20. S. (29:20) Asking for the friends in relation to this, if you understand that you have to ask for the friend but you can't, so what do you do?
R. That is good, that is a place for an inner struggle -- for a prayer before a prayer. To ask the Creator to be able to ask for the friends.
21. S. (30:05) How do I recognize the desire of a friend so that I can pray for that friend in particular?
R. You have to see that. You have to see how each and every one wants to invest in the 10 and tries to come out of himself but he can't and so on. Besides, if you don't have a way to see what the friend actually wants, think about his lack in corporeality, health care for his family, children's well-being and so on, all kinds of things.
22. S. (31:02) What testifies to that understanding that it is better to pray for the friend than for myself? How can I know what he receives?
R. How can I know that the Creator will show me? How does he do it and in what way and then I'm going to ask? That is not the way to go. We want to rise above our ego and to the quality of bestowal and to the quality of connection that is above the force of our connection and rejection from the connection and that's how we have to work. Your questions are such that if I'll be let to see what is going on and how do I benefit from it and then I'll work. It doesn't work that way in spirituality, meaning in spirituality you ask to rise above our entire intellect, emotion and everything.
23. S. (32:21) I think that you already answered the question but in the 10 I see friends that they are perfect, they show no deficiency that I can pray for. How can I pray for these friends then? That seemed so perfect and they show no evil, what can you do in this condition?
R. Each and every one is lacking spirituality that's for sure. You can be healthy, rich, powerful, all the best in this world but in spirituality you definitely lack things still. So you can always envision what the friend is lacking and pray for that.
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24. R. (34:35) It is true for nations, countries and for everyone it doesn't matter if it is a smaller or greater connection it is all in relation to their mutual guarantee.
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25. S. (35:58) Only by praying for others can I become a human being, an Adam?
R. How else can you build the spiritual vessel for receiving the upper light to correct you to correct your shattering and feel fill you with the attainment of the Creator? In what other way please tell me? There is nothing else, no other method action nothing. That's why I don't understand what you are asking didn't you understand yet what Arvut is that by that I restore my vessel that I am Adam HaRishon, Adam it is me and by the Arvut I restore, I bring back to myself, my entire vessel but that it has to be in order to bestow. That's why it is the way that it is that I pray for them, I care for them, for them to be corrected but actually I am bringing back my Kli.
26. S. (37:27) What should we pay attention to when we keep the mutual guarantee, I say 10, so that the Creator is responsible for all of Bnei Baruch?
R. To pray for others to care for others not for oneself, that to the measure to which you care for others you correct yourself spiritually wise. You have to understand that if I care for him and him and for everyone else I correct myself that way because there is nothing left, except for what is supposed to be for me and that I have reached that it's called I have reached the complete correction this is spirituality.
27. S. (38:30) It says that a part of the nation does not want to keep the Arvut, how did they know?
R. I don't know these things, these smart things, I don't know how to reach it or not, we will reach it and then we'll see first of all do what you can, okay?
28. S. (39:25) What actions is it important to take in the 10 to build the Arvut
R. What we are reading right now praying for the entire vessel.
Excerpt 5 (39-53 - 40:24)
29. R. Meaning that out of this boat called humanity no one is independent, we are all interdependent until the very end of all corrections, all right.
Excerpt 6 (40:46- 42:04)
30. S. (42:11) For what friend in the 10 should we pray for?
R. What you see that they are lacking.
S. I mean for who?
R. What do you mean for who, the one who touches your heart.
31. S. (42:39) How to be in Arvut when you are in a state of indifference?
R. This is the whole issue that this indifference that we don't care about what happens to the other. It's not that we want to do harm but we don't care about doing good to him. I don't feel that there is another someone outside of me, and he needs to be the most important and it becomes the opposite that I don't look at him and I don't care. Even if I see that he feels bad I subconsciously feel happy because I always measure my state opposite to him. We always measure our state compared to another state in society and here we have to understand that the spiritual correction demands us to be in devotion towards all the friends.
32. S. (44:13) Is it possible to pray for each friend individually because each friend is precious in his own way?
R. Yes, we have to pray for each and everyone and for everyone together it is possible but also each and everyone. In general we have to understand that the request for each and every friend that I raised in my heart for them, that needs to be my constant work. That is my spiritual Kli
33. S. (45:04) Why if we have the experience from all the 10 of raising MAN it seems like the 10 forgets about it completely?
R. Not only forgetting but we're not advancing so much because it is not the concern of one shall help his friend. It's not the concern that each one of you has towards the friends, it's the concern for ourselves at best that you are caring about the 10. You are part of the 10 and that's why you care about the 10. If you try to demand in a way that is farther from your egoistic heart you will see success.
34. S. (46.04) We understand that when there is a new spiritual state the previous one does not erase, it superimposes. Does this work in the opposite direction? In other words when we are told they all have their individuality as they have separate faces yet they come to a single unified view. Do the separate views still exist as the unified view and let's say love comes in but above hatred, does it not exist?
R. They are all different everyone is different, all the views are different and we cannot discuss this at all right now because we do not have the measurements between NRNHY and KHBZON where each and every one, the levels of coarseness surely shall effect each and everyone in the ten, that's why these questions right now are not relevant for us.
35. S. (47:10) About praying for friends and if I don't have the feeling for it but I still pray for the friend is it okay is it effective?
R. Yes especially if you had your own sorrow for not having any emotion and sorrow for the friends.
S. I can pray for the friend, I see that this friend gave up some things for spirituality like dissemination, can I pray for the things he doesn't have a desire for?
R. Yes that too.
36. S. (47:54) Should the concern be equal to words are the friends in the 10?
R. No, we cannot measure to see whether the concern is equal or not. Each and every friend as much as I can be sorry for his lack and pray for him I do it.
37. S. (48:19) In a 10 there are such states where some of the friends are sharing that they already feel a great state when somebody shares a prayer. Is that the right direction?
R. I do not know, I don't know what they are imagining to themselves, I'm not discussing other imaginations here.
38. S. (48:49) Sometimes you say we can ask for anything other times you say we should only ask for the 10, today you should say that asking for the friend is more preferable and accurate and another question should we only ask for the friend's spirituality.
R. No, also for the friends corporeality as we have learned before that the friends corporeality is your spirituality.
S. Sometimes you say, anything the friend is lacking I can ask for him?
R. Yes of course, spirituality comes first but even corporeality.
39. S. (50:00) You said that we're not supposed to look for results because that would be egoistic and I was wondering would it help us if you gave us an example of a spiritual lack that you noticed in a friend and that you prayed for it would that help us or is that the wrong approach if you gave us an example?
R. If you are thinking about your friend wanting to help him advance in spirituality even if you are asking for corporeal things for him but if it is for someone who wants to advance toward spirituality with you, it is actually the correct raising of MAN to the Creator.
Excerpt 7 (51:20 - 52:30) twice
40. S. (52:35) It seems that the more the friends know about my corporeal situation, the corporeal situation gets worse. So is it necessary that the friends know about it?
R. I don't think that there is a direct relation between the things as you present it, but it is merely your psychological response to it. It is good for the friends to know, more or less, what goes on with each and every friend, a bit. You don't have to open it all up and sit on their head with your personal problems, family problems, problems with your kids, etc. And neither with your spiritual problems. But a bit, everyone has to depict his situation to others so that you can help each other, because otherwise we cannot advance. We have to try to use the Kli of the ten in all of our corporeal and spiritual states.
Excerpt 8 (54:10 - 54:43)
41. R. And this is also a question. Meaning, even though I am not in a good state and the friends are praying for me, I will not really be able to enjoy what they are asking of the Creator because I am not adhered enough to them in order to get help from above.
Second reading of excerpt 8 (55:07 - 55:30)
42. S. (55:40) Thank you so much for everything that is happening. It feels like a new door has been opened, a new opportunity. But there is a certain kind of doubt here in that it says, in Rabash, that the ten should not become the seat of the scornful, where I care about them and they care about me, and it's all in order to receive. So what to do about that?
R. I don't think that this is something that you should be concerned with because if we are studying together on a daily basis, daily you are getting a correction on this path and it will not happen. You will not corrupt each other. You will not. Besides, every day we add further scrutinies to our common Kli, the Kli of Arvut.
43. S. (57:05) What is the difference between drawing the light from incorporation and the prayer of the ten?
R. A prayer is more beneficial. If it is the correct, proper prayer, then this is actually the strongest weapon, our strongest force.
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S. What are these powers before the Machsom, barrier? We don't have the forces of bestowal or attainment yet.
R. It doesn't matter what force it is. He receives everything that exists within them he receives, we are talking about spiritual forces, of course, corporeal forces don't go through Arvut. Someone is good in medicine, someone knows history that does not pass through adhesion of Arvut. But all the spiritual forces do go through Arvut because we restore, reconstruct the general Kli of Adam HaRishon, and so all of us merit to the measure to which we connect to it.
S. (59:01) Question about the Convention. When I see a friend from anywhere in the world asking a question now, as much as I try to adhere to that person in the Kli, does that law also work? Does it apply, this excerpt number 7?
R. Of course. What's the difference between your ten and everyone else’s ten, who are now sitting together and discussing spirituality. There is no difference. Furthermore, as it says, “The glory of the King is in the multitude of the people,” so we can get more use out of it.
45. S. (59:50) Is there some sure test that I pray correctly?
R. You have to check and decide.
46. S. (01:00:11) A question according to the excerpt. Rabash says we should appreciate the friends. Is it enough to appreciate them intellectually or it also has to be in the heart?
R. Both, as much as possible, both in mind and in heart.
S. (01:00:40) And if the heart does not connect to it at all and only the mind does?
R. So you have to try more and more until the heart opens up and you will see how much the mind and heart are interrelated and interconnected, and the mind can influence the opening of the heart.
47. S. (01:01:10) How can I discern about the friend, is he trying to change my behavior in our meetings or is it just my ego looking at it this way?
R. You have to see over time, if you work the way we say, you will find it.
48. S. (01:01:55) How is it possible that the attempt to get closer to the friends or the inability to do so causes all destruction, because how can bestowal bring damage? How is it possible that my lack of proximity to the friends causes all the destruction? Also their attempt to connect doesn't cover for it, basically?
R. If we are approaching the friends, then we are correcting the Kli of Adam HaRishon. If for the time being, the Creator gives us the correction but we don't draw it, we only increase the corruption and bring things to destruction. Meaning, it is not enough that, suppose there was the shattering of the Kli of Adam HaRishon, but afterwards when there was the opportunity for the correction of the Kelim given and they were not corrected, then there was the destruction of the First Temple and then the destruction of the Second Temple, and different other destructions, until we came to the Holocaust, etc. It is all because we did not correct the Kli of Adam HaRishon in time.
49. S. (01:04:13) Without a doubt there is a special power of adhesion between us, but it looks like there is always an excess of it. So how can we correctly utilize this excess force that penetrates our vessels each day? Can we pass it on to others, the rest of the world? Can Arvut be passed on?
R. We need to use the doubts in order to elevate ourselves in bestowal above the doubts. Doubts are something really good and a person has to rise above that in faith above reason, and then to work with all the doubts, precisely with their help.
S. The question wasn’t about doubts. The question was: we feel an excess of this powerful adhesive force between us every day, so can we pass on this force of Arvut to others? Is it transferable?
R. No, it's impossible to pass it on. Each one, according to the measure to which he builds the Kli of Arvut, he uses it. And if he is not participating in it, then he does not have it.
50. S. (01:05:50) According to excerpt number 8, it says that you cannot receive the influence of the society if you're not attached to society. Is this talking about some desired state, because achieving spirituality could take 15 or 20 years and it turns out that we are looking at some state that maybe we have no hope to reach.
R. I don't understand what you are saying. You have a group, you have friends, and you have different examples that you get from them, positive and negative. You have the sources, lessons. Try from all of this to see how can you be adhered with the force of bestowal, love and connection.
S. (01:06:55) I'm not talking about myself. We have a friend who is being rejected for a long time and then he comes back again. From feeling him, I want to ask, how to give a friend the feeling that he is going to get strength only from the group and not from moving away for a while?
R. I don't know, these are your problems. I don't take care of such people, I don’t. If you leave Bnei Baruch for six months and then you come back, I no longer look at you as someone that I should invest my efforts in. You are saying that this is something that happens to him all of the time, so that is your business then. For me, that is not a student. Maybe he is in a group and he is sleeping and he can exert himself and he's going through different states, but he does not leave. He does not leave! For me, then, that is the criteria according to which he is a friend. A friend means someone who is with me in the battlefield, and even though he might fall, feel powerless, be ill, he does not leave us. This is something we have to talk about all of the time.
51. S. (01:08:20) According to excerpt number 8, it says that it is impossible for the person to receive the influence of the group if he is not adhered to the group. How can we help a friend who is in a descent and is not sufficiently adhered to the group?
R. We pray for him and what follows is that we give him our own Kelim, our own Kelim, and by him coming back a bit, he then has to be concerned with how to give it back.
52. S. (01:09:20) The feeling of adhesion in the ten, is it a feeling of each and every one completing his own lacks by each and every friend in the ten?
R. Not necessarily by each friend in the ten, not that much. We don't talk that way. To be adhered to the ten means that he wants to complete the ten in whatever way he can, and he is constantly checking, he is scanning the entire group, searching: who can he help and where can he participate? And that is how everyone thinks. Who is lacking what? Health? To connect in different ways? These are necessary things.
Excerpt 9 (1:10:20 - 1:11:48) Twice
53. R. (01:11:49) So here it's not about praying for the friends but as a result of appreciating them and seeing that they are marked as successful and they are greater than from them I receive forces their values their vessel I can use them as if add here myself to them like a child to a grown up or someone small to someone big and from them I can receive something three of them.
54. S. (01:12:26) We followed your advice and we gathered here in the forest and we made a picnic. We even bought a rope and tied each other like you recommended a couple days ago as an example. What are we lacking to be connected externally and internally?
R. You bought the wrong rope, you have to buy an inner rope that will tie your hearts together so that we will all feel as one heart but from this you come to it. And I am happy to see you that way and let's continue and we will make it. Today we have a very special scrutiny. I feel some kind of tension in the vessel in general but it is good. We are starting to feel where this vessel is, that if it exists in the Arvut that it's not enough, we are just connecting because we are friends because we are hanging out together, no. We have to make a vessel called Arvut which we do not have and in this vessel that we will receive, that will be called spirituality, the Creator is revealed only in the vessel called Arvut. Arvut is not just connection but it is that everyone is responsible for everyone else. That's how everyone connects and this is precisely the kind of connection that you have to have where everyone is integrated with everyone else. That Adam, that is, the true correction of the vessel of Adam HaRishon.
55. S. (01:14:58) To what point are my responsibilities about Arvut with regards to a friend who decided to leave?
R. If he decided to leave I have to talk to society and what society says is what I have to do. To either let him go because we see that this is his way in life and there is nothing that you can do or we, nonetheless work on it in order to keep him and tie him to us even more but this has to be a decision of the entire 10.
56. S. (01:15:48) Can a person ask from within, power from the friend’s, power to overcome or only from the Creator?
R. A person can pray for the friends for the 10 and ask from the bottom of his heart for help and along with it to pray to the Creator for the Creator to help him, connect to the friends and be together with them in one vessel and for the Creator to help him adhere to the friends and that way he will arrange himself for sure.
57. S. (01:16:51) What is this feeling that we are now unifying with all the tens around us, what is the feeling that we need to carry at heart and really dissolve into that feeling?
R. We want to create a connection between us and in which each one of us will be included of all the friends in his ten, for him to understand that this is his vessel that is outside of him and that he wants to connect to these deficiencies that exists outside of him. That precisely in them when he is adhered to the friends, when he is adhered to these deficiencies and he wants to receive them, then instead of them being deficiencies in the friends, in him they actually become positive vessels for the revelation of the Creator.
58. S. (01:18:25) We need to look for the lack of the friend, what he needs. Let's say one friend needs money, the other one needs a wife and the other one needs more spirituality, more adhesion. With this question am I not lowering my faith in None Else Besides Him that he gives everyone what they need?
R. No, he needs our prayers because the vessel cannot be corrected but by raising MAN, by raising a deficiency, a plea on our part. A spiritual correction can happen only through raising the prayer, a plea from us to the Creator. It happens by us understanding what is going on with us and agreeing with this deficiency, the vessel of bestowal. I'm asking to have the ability to bestow the ability to love, the ability to give, so how can it be that I am not asking for it, if I am not asking that I do not have a deficiency? A deficiency in this egoistic world, then maybe you hide it because you know maybe it's unpleasant, it's not nice but a spiritual deficiency you cannot hide it because if you do, it means you have no deficiency, lack and it means you will not be able to advance.
S. But it's not clear I still notice some deficiency and we learn not to see the deficiency, how do you ask?
R. From the deficiencies that you see, try and not think that you already know everything. Listen, try to enter that state and then you will see the deficiencies that you see, first of all yours, so to tell the Creator about your deficiencies is no flaw, it is not a flaw.
Excerpt 10 (01:21:34 - 01:27:47)
59. R. Good. Now we have one more thing to do together with the man are thousands of women.
I would like to maybe hear a question or two from those groups of women who are connected to us. Maybe we can even see them if possible on the screen please. We have women New York 5 where is info woman? I don't understand why it cannot be organized quickly. I want to get the questions through women info.
60. S. (01:23:13) What do we need to focus on in order to be in Arvut in order to shift the scale, to the scale of merit?
R. Right, we always need to understand that we have to add more and more forces in order to advance from one stage to the next, and no stage repeats itself even though it seems that it does, it does not repeat itself but it only goes and grows. Another thing is that we have to understand that Arvut has to exist both between the men and the women because we all got Torah from both the men and the women and therefore the implementation of the Torah is only in the Arvut. Therefore women practically have the same rules and laws as men I'm saying practically because you know there are some things that women don't have to do but actually they have to try to work on the connection like men do.
61. S. (01:23:08) What am I asking for actually?
R. We need to pray for the friends in a very precise manner and from the heart. These two forces have to exist this way in the prayer. On the one hand it has to be very precise, on the other hand it has to be very clear to me that I am doing it for a specific friend and for specific problems.
62. S. (01:26:22) It's so easy to pray for something we see as a flaw in a friend and I can be everything from health to how they behave to whatever, how a friend perceives to me in a matter of they are lacking something, something is hindering to connect or hindering them to reach spirituality. Would it be more precise to pray to see the grace and the greatness of the friend and that the corrected state of the friend rather than to pray for my corrupted view of the friend?
R. No. I have to pray for the friend and not for myself. By praying for the friend I correct myself for sure. That is the clearest correction.
63. S. (01:27:36) How can I pray for the friends without feeling that I am doing it for my own benefit?
R. Try, try. You have to try to pray for the friends, only for the friends without anything in return to yourself. You are trying every time and more and more until you begin to feel that it is possible. It's a matter of exercise and these efforts they build or give you the vessels of bestowal try to do it. What you are saying is true, how can I pray for the friend deficiencies of my own problems, how can I pray for them, try to pray for them until you start feeling that suddenly it happens. Effort, there has to be an effort.
64. S. (01:30:11) Why are we disseminating if the efforts that we make through our Arvut will not affect the many?
R. It is not enough we have to make an impact by all possible means. We live in the corporeal world and we have to bring it to bring correction to everyone in the spiritual world, we have to work in it also by connecting to the Creator through the friends and asking him for corrections for the friends and the rest of the world this is actually our work.