Morning Lesson August 13, 2022, Transcription 

Transcription is made from simultaneous translation which leaves a possibility for differences in the audio 

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The 15th of Av: the Day of Love - Selected Excerpts from the Sources. #10

1. Rav’s Introduction: Yes, all attainment of the true nature that we exist outside of it is by us achieving the force of connection between us and then from this whole negative nature, we reveal the positive nature. This is how we discover the true wholeness, the Creator who is revealed between the negative and positive, according to what we learn through the connection between us, through the coarseness when we rise above it and so on. This is basically the way and therefore all of the work is against the desire to receive that the Creator created deliberately so we have something to rise from the rise on top of and this way we can reach a state when we will feel him and acquire his nature. Out of that we already discover the complete reality.

I am happy that today we have German Congress and that we have many friends there and we are all together with them and that in the address in these devoted loyal friends, both veterans and new friends, so let us be together with them. Let's hope that this lesson also opens up for us our hearts even more bringing closer to each other to become a single vessel and the greater the Kli is easier for us to attain the Upper light in it, this is actually our purpose is to discover the Creator in the connection between us. In the beginning of the path, we think that the wisdom of Kabbalah speaks of some hidden things, the wisdom is speaking of some hidden things and later on we realize that they are hidden because we do not discover them, we do not see or feel them, they are outside of our vessels, outside of our senses. If so how can we discover the truthful reality which we are completely thrown outside of it and we exist in an imaginary world in an imagery reality, so we get back into the true reality.

You might say that we were as dreamers as in a dream and now we are coming back to the truthful reality and how can we do this. So the Sages explaining to us who have already taken the path and have done all the corrections in their senses, so they could feel the world of truth, that the path is through the connection. Therefore our nature to begin with is such that it is an egoistic nature, we reject each other, we are distanced from each other, we do not let each other to come close, we do not even feel this. This is done so much so in and natural automatic way that when we start to work on this above our natural forces and we do want to connect and to become closer to each other, then we begin to feel how difficult this is. This force of resistance is stopping us from connecting and to getting closer to the Creator and then for us to somehow start to discover our source, this force of resistance, we call it the evil inclination and the force of connection we want to achieve through our efforts and prayers we call this the good inclination. 

Because through it we discover the force of good that ultimately is revealed to us as the force of the Creator, this is why the most important thing for us is to discover the force of attraction on top of the force of rejection, force of love above the force of hatred, to realize that it all comes from the Creator only. Only we in this way we can progress towards him, there is no choice and of course in each and everybody, all kinds of details will reveal from rejection and nearing, one opposite to the other as the Creator created them opposite. In such a way we reach a state where we attain the force of separation which is our nature and the force of connection which we received from the Creator and it will dress into us according to our request and then bit by bit we attain one on top of the other and this is actually our work, so let's go to the passages. 

Reading 10 (07:44)

2. R. (09:05) This means that through the wearing out of the heart, the rubbing of the heart, that they wanted to connect but they are not capable because in each one there is an ego which does not let him connect. So as much as we want to connect then there is this rubbing, this wearing out between them because they are not capable of it, even if they are of the strongest ones. Meaning as much as they want to reach connection, they only feel the rubbing with greater force but in between each one will bring out warmth from the walls of the heart by wanting to connect to the others and feeling how much they are not capable of it. This is a very interesting feeling that the person feels how much, it is like stone over another stone rubbing and the grinding and this is how he feels that there is nothing but sparks that emerge and the warmth when these two stones wear out each other, rub on each other, but the in-between sparks of love emerge from that.

Until a dressing of love is formed out of that, meaning that even though they do not want it what they want it and then they have a struggle for and against, but out of this grinding, this rubbing, that dressing of love emerges meaning something that is born from the two of them together. This is called a garment of love and both of them will be covered under one blanket, they feel how much they have between them, nevertheless a single goal, a single work, and a single dressing which we call the single blanket. That a single love surrounds and envelopes the both of them and because each one is separately individually started to do it to the other but by the constant efforts as they keep trying more and more they feel that they are beginning to discover that there is something that covers them. Some blanket or some garment that surrounds both of them as it is known that it's Dvekut, adhesion, unites two things into one, this is what they feel that more and more they are close, and they connect and they discover that being close has nothing to do with the ego.

The ego is not there, only the connection is there so there is no room for calculations that they had before but instead there is a new calculation, the calculation for connection. When one begins to feel the love of his friend when each one instead of seeing his friend as somebody who is stranger without any flavor or color and any internal feeling which he did not have before. Now he feels the love of his friend that he has in that certain words and emotions, and then joy and pleasure immediately begins to wake up in him. Because he has next to him, let's say such people, but these are no longer people because we are talking about qualities now which he did not have before. Because the fact that his friend loves him is something new for him, he did not feel at all that he had something like that in his life before this is something new because he always told that he was the only one who cared about own wellbeing, in his self-love he was only concerned about himself.

Now he feels that his friend is also actually taking care of him, how does he feel that because he begins to care for his friend in such a way because otherwise he would not feel it. Even if his friend is caring for him hundred percent he could be next to a complete righteous, but he does not feel anything but just a small, nice attitude. Only to the extent that he develops such relations to his friend then he can feel that his friend, for a long time already, was aiming to him like that but they immediately discover that the friend cares for him, and immediately wakes up in him in measurable joy. Why, because this comes to him in the same connection where he also cares for his friend and then the two of them begin to connect in a single thread of mutual love and he can no longer care for himself and then this truly cancels his self-concern but otherwise it cannot happen, if the person is not emerging out of love, it means that he never got to feel the love of his friend. 

3. S. (15:23) You talked a lot about it but still how, does the care for my friend push my ego aside by shame?

R. It is not immediately and it's not only from shame. It’s from many stages the person has to go through, disillusion and disappointment and then hatred for self-love then weakness that he cannot get rid of the self-love, weakness because he cannot overcome self-love. There are many different stages in the recognition of evil. After that he starts to see opposite to that, that to the extent he begins to recognize his self-love he also begins to recognize the love of the friends towards him which he did not see or feel before because anybody who disqualifies he disqualifies through his own flaws and he could not see that he was being loved by others because he did not awaken the love of others or at least he did not begin to recognize the evil within him as evil and in this way he is distancing from the evil inclination and opposite that he begins to see that there is love in the world there is connection and he starts to be attracted to that.

4. S. (17:35) About the single blanket of love, what is that in the screen? 

R. It is in the screen that everybody wants to be in mutual bestowal and not to receive anything from each other but only to help and serve each other, to be in the force of bestowal. It is a common screen which is entirely, later on it will be entirely directed to the Creator.

S. How can we build this? I care for my friends and it's as if we usually say that I am not expecting something in return but here Rabash says that as a result of my concern I discover his concern, that he's caring for my well-being, and so should I really feel it from him? 

R. This comes to each and everyone slightly different, we will talk about it in the next excerpt. 

5. S. (18:59) It is as if the words that Rabash writes are not thoughts, I cannot feel them in the heart. It feels as if we are always only concerned about problems and the blows that we are sent so how and when will this truly start to work in this way?

R. But from these blows we will actually reach all kinds of spiritual discernments. You will begin to feel that the Creator is taking care of you in that he arranges for you such a life that is full of pressures from all directions in order for you to actually reach him and not in order to ask of him to get rid of the problems, from the pressures. But actually that from these depth meaning that each and everything is pressuring you and truly wants to pressure you to finish you off truly and from these states you reach a state where you only want a single thing; to be in adhesion with the friends and in with the Creator. Not in order for you to run away from these pressured state but instead you are happy that you have this opportunity to rise above the evil states when you truly are under pressure and instead you reach for the good thing and here you do a calculation if it is worthwhile to suffer or not. Baal HaSulam would say this about his body; let it suffer, this is what Rabash also said, he would be telling me about it. 

S. How can we reach a state where there is a balance between engaging in the disturbances and the blows that come and that I start working inside like Rabash speaks about here? To really engage in the love of friends? 

R. There is no balance. We have to rise above all the problems and troubles, our whole ego which is showing us that to the love between us and this way we go forward all the time, that's it. The problem is revealed, and then we move to the other side of the cycle, and we travel forward and other problems, more forward and another problem, more forward and this is how it is as we learn, a cycle, the wheel turns.

S. So when a problem is revealed it is a sign that we have to connect more?

R. Of course, what is the question? All of these things come from the Creator in order to help us to rise more and more above our egos.

6. S. (23:10) We can feel here that there is a truthful blanket of love here between us. We do not feel the evil inclination here, all we feel is the blanket of love. Can you help us feel more than that? 

R. I will try. According to the excerpt, we study, and we talk now about how the Rabash excerpt, the next one is from the Baal HaSulam. Hopefully by this and through our pressure we will wake up the hearts and in that way we can connect.

7. S. (24:55) A problem appears, and we go to the other half of the wheel, we go forward and then it happens again. So what does it mean in the ten to move to the other part of the wheel, the second half?

R. To move to the other half of the wheel is that we always go forward in the day and in the night, both when it shines it to us and when it completely confuses us and there is no possibility to understand or to feel anything good towards advancement, etc. So there is day and there is a night in our efforts, this is in the connection between us, in the effort towards connection. Not just that we have a day and night; then we cannot distinguish between these states and those states. We can distinguish only if we are under pressure from ourselves in order to connect and discover in the connection between us the force of connection, the force of love and then in the disposition towards that we find ourselves as being both in the day and also in the night like a wheel that is turning.

S. Part of the ten is going forward in one direction and some of the friends in the ten see it in a different direction. Is the effort to scrutinize this walking forward? 

R. Yes but nevertheless you need to talk and connect between you such that you will see that the wheel is turning together, and it is operating on everybody in the same direction and bringing all of us a single feeling. This is how we need eventually to discover it. 

8. S. (27:09) There are two stages one is love of friends and the efforts we are performing to attain that. The second is to rise above the love of friends. Is it possible that the person feels that he's not ready to take upon himself this love? 

R. Of course, it is like that to begin with, we are not built in a way that we can receive this love. We do not want to connect to the friends unless it’s to a very small degree. As much as a person has a higher soul he is more individual, he’s more distant from the others, he can’t receive from them any good attitude. Just like his own nature this is how he exists in the general system of all of the relationships between people. But after a few years and I am emphasizing years, and all kinds of problems which he receives as part of his development in the wisdom of Kabbalah he begins more and more to understand that there is an issue here of truly an evil inclination that is pushing him to be far away from everyone and a good inclination which he can receive from above opposite the evil inclination that will impress him and connect him to everyone, and this is how the person begins to belong to these two forces, and then he begins to work with them and connect with them. This is our whole work. To the extent that we connect between us, and we realize that the entire hidden spiritual nature we discover only within us by coming closer, so much so that we become incorporated into each other. That we build inside of us ten complete Sefirot and later out of that we begin to feel what spirituality means. That we have to move and shift into each other in all kinds of different forms and by that to build the connection between us, ten inside of ten, inside of ten in all kinds of different qualities, but inside of them we will discover the Creator. As much as we connect between us in a way that is more and more complex, incorporating more and more then we discover the light that is filling us up as Nefesh, Ruach, Neshama, Haya, Yechida, that’s it.

9. S. (31:08) What is this special change that he says I no longer have the ability to care for myself? In my nature I am self-love, so it seems like a completely different nature. 

R. As much as you are capable of caring for others you are also capable of shifting the concern for yourself to the Creator so that the Creator will finish it for me. I don’t have to care for anything that is happening with me. Of course it happens bit by bit, gradually but this is how I acquire the quality of connection, and within it adhesion, and within it Arvut, and within it the feeling of faith and confidence. This is the light of Hassadim expanding in the vessels and later on the light of Hochma, we will see that.

Reading 11 (32:20)

10. R. (33:03) Imagine to yourselves how difficult it is, how painful it is, against person’s will. It invites within him fear, anxiety and unpleasant feelings, truly a feeling that he has no idea what is happening to him.

Reading (33:28)

11. S. (34:31) What does it mean to give a gift to a friend? 

R. Give a gift to a friend gently, show him how much you are willing to be connecting to him, how much you are capable of doing his spiritual work, how much you receive from him everything that he has, and in this way you are willing to advance. You are willing to take upon yourself any burden that he has in his life and his spiritual work, you are willing to take all of that, bit by bit, gradually.

S. For somebody who has difficulty opening his heart, not that there are special occasions, just in regular times what is the advice? 

R. First of all patience, according to the heart that the Creator gives to each and everyone as much as one is greater than his friend his inclination is greater, his heart is more wrapped in stone, in the ego and he doesn’t feel anything. So we have to patiently as Rabash says, the first blow only makes a small mark the second one makes a scratch, that third and so on until he truly begins to explode the stone through many, many strikes. But each and every strike is felt in the heart, that a person has to be ready for this, that he is actually striking himself, he is striking his ego. 

S. So do I expect a response from each blow?

R. Yes you are expecting a response. You want to feel how much you are advancing, this is natural. Here there is a question. What does it mean that you are advancing? Where to? How do you feel that you are in spiritual work? That’s the question. 

12. S. (37:35) There is a feeling that the world is expecting that someone will begin to love us. Should we start to develop this love in a unilateral way in spite of everything that is happening in the world? Is this the only way to do it, one way love?

R. If I discover my relation to the world in my heart more and more, then in that the same place I basically discover the Creator’s relation to me through the world more and more. Sometimes I discover these relations in a negative way, sometimes in a positive way but I always accept it as something that comes from the Creator as there is None Else Besides Him. This is why the more I strengthen in this I have no problem, even if the whole world comes and disturbs me and everybody is in favor, or against, or this way, or that way, I will always only see in that a field that the Lord has blessed. That I need to organize the relations from the whole world towards me that it is all built as the verse says to serve me. Meaning that I will get all kinds of influences from that on me so I can aim myself to be in adhesion with the Creator in each and every moment. That it all only comes from Him because there is None Else Besides Him, He is the only one acting in reality.

13. S. (39:58) About this love in the stony heart, is it something we have to prepare each and every day or from the moment we get to know the path it becomes easier for us to be in this love all the time?

R. It is not that it becomes easier, sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't but we are not taking the difficulty into consideration, if it is pleasant for us or unpleasant, is it scary or does it draw me. I only take the extent that I relate to the Creator, that I identify myself with the Creator, by Him passing on to me in each and every moment His action, the action of creation when He is building me and the world the way I feel it, this whole reality. This is the Creator who does that, and I want to feel, to discover that in everything I feel Him and the besides Him also his relation, His direction, the way he leads me on my path. All that is what I want to discover, that is called the wisdom of Kabbalah, when I try to go every time with the same guidance that I feel that I am getting from the Creator. From here until the final correction it doesn’t change, but the conditions change, the feelings change. But basically the connection between me and the Creator and between us the world that the Creator built for me, that I need through the world to relate to Him. Then we will discover the ten Sefirot, we will learn. 

14. S. (42:30) Is it a good idea to examine how much I am able to perceive that each friend cares for me in order to measure my progress? 

R. Yes, to the extent that I see that they care, and I am ashamed that I cannot appreciate their concern for me, accordingly I advance. It’s like Rabash writes in the letter that I am ashamed of my petty acts. 

15. S. (43:32) We tried to create the inner connections between us so what gifts should we give each other in our connection? 

R. Show each other how much we are drawn towards connection and pray, each one toward the friends. The moment I discover that I am thinking about myself, forcefully push me towards the prayer of many.

16. S. (44:20) Through the incorporation in the society I feel that not only the society bestows on me but also from above. The Creator also the Tzadikim, they are protecting and caring for me as if I am their child. Is this a true feeling? 

R. The feeling is always true, maybe it’s false with respect to the quality of bestowal but what a person feels is the truth, that is what he feels, you cannot deny that. You can’t put something in your mouth and instead of feeling bitter to feel something sweet, you can’t. Meaning there is something that the senses cannot lie. That is why we have to reach a state where we need as much as possible to scrutinize every state, to tie it to ourselves and to the Creator, and to the extent of the equivalence of form or the oppositeness of form, then we can determine what the state is.

S. My question is that when we feel bestowal upon us and when I feel that I have nothing to repay. Let’s say I have a huge plate, but I am starving inside, I do not know how to receive what the Creator wants to give me. How to do action in this shame? 

R. You haven't yet scrutinized the signs that the Creator is giving you. You should increase the prayer, pray a lot that the Creator will help you understand what He wants from you. 

17. S. (46:59) The last two excerpts both say that the change is in the receiver. Seemingly the bullet makes another scratch and another scratch and then the heart of the receiver opens up. Also, in the previous excerpt they say that if the friend loves me then out of that I feel immeasurable joy. I thought that all the changes should be in the one who is trying to bestow, not that the friends will love me but that I will love the friends. That confuses me a little bit.

R. Continue. You will see that you will come out of this confusion. Actually you have all the right conditions to reach the truth. 

18. S. (47:51) I will continue with the question, if the friend doesn’t love me can the Creator be revealed between us in such a state? 

R. I did not understand. 

S. If I feel the friend doesn't love me. 

R. How do you know?

S. It’s what I feel. So I’m asking in such a state can the Creator be revealed between us? 

R. Of course not, but you will change because this is something you feel. Only the person is in charge of his own feelings. 

S. Yes but I work opposite the friends. So should I perform actions that the heart of the friend opens up to me? 

R. You have to love them, it doesn't matter in what way you’re getting their response. 

S. But they still don't love me, so what should I do?

R. This is what you feel because you can’t feel their love. This is how the Creator arranges the shape of the friend for you. 

S. So what should I do next? 

R. Having nothing before you besides good, only good. That depends on the extent of your correction. 

S. Yes but the relations between us, between the friend and me. What should I reach, what’s the end of it? 

R. You are not hearing me I told you that you have to reach good. 

S. Good means that he loves me? Is that good? 

R. Yes, of course. This is also something you’re asking, that love is good.

19. S. (49:36) Until we make this hole in the heart of the friends with the gifts, what happens then? 

R. When you want to connect to the friend’s heart and to fill him with whatever he wants, to do all the best for him. It’s not that the Creator fills our hearts but it’s through the friend’s hearts.

S. That is the study state towards the hearts of the friends but here Rabash writes that something special is created in his heart some opening, a hollow, some new quality. 

R. Connection with the friend, connection with the friend. 

S. This means that I feel how the connection in him is born towards the friends?

R. No. To the extent that I open my heart in the relation to the friend then I open in my heart a hollow, a hole. 

20. S. (50:55) The friends constantly shoot at my stony heart and when I feel that it is cracked, you know, you want to make up any justification so that somehow you can evade from it, you know, rest for a few minutes. What kind of counsel can you give at such a time so that I do not justify myself but rather I will search for every possibility; what kind of advice can you give me so that I don’t try to escape it?

R. You have no choice, you have to accept the path, to understand that the Creator is before you, not be friends, and He is simply in all kinds of different ways meaning through the friends which is, it’s imaginary, that it, the friends. So in all kinds of such ways He acts on you, that your egoistic desire, specifically through all kinds of shapes of the friends, these shapes pass on from the Creator to you the shapes of bestowal, negative or positive just as you feel it this way or that way, and then by that you change and bit by bit you come closer to the Creator, this is how it works. 

S. Sometimes it seems like you get so tired that you can become sick; if they would love me so much, I would suddenly become sick out of it. In ordinary life, it is recommended to avoid too much stress but here we are constantly in that state.

R. Don’t worry, don’t worry in our life we are only in a small egoistic, earthly force, but in spirituality we are between two spiritual forces. That’s why there is nothing there that can harm any of us, on the contrary, the more forces that will shake us the better it is.

S. In that moment when it seems to me that if they tell me a few more words or if I look at them for 5 seconds more, I will simply die, in that state, if I will not try to escape from it, is it guaranteed that nothing bad will happen to me?

R. Why are you concerned about this, whatever happens, happens, the Creator will organize what you need just as He organized this state for you, that’s how He will organize the next state.

S. It’s scary.

R. Why are you always so afraid, what are you afraid of? Whatever happens, everything is done by the Creator in order to correct us. I promise you that many additional bad things that are on the path and you will have to go through them, and this is how it is. Everything that God loves He challenges, He rebukes, reproaches.

21. S. (55:00) This phenomenon that we just wait, and we don’t operate to awaken the friends with love; if we do not yet have a feeling, how can we break this lack of movement? 

R. Together, together, rub us until emotion appears but it takes time, it takes time. Bnei Baruch, the most egoistic people gather together, the more difficult, the hardest people in the world otherwise they would not come here. 

22. S. (55:46) This blanket you talked about before, does it relate to a group or is it possible to also relate this to others? What should be our love towards people on the outside? 

R. No, no, no, we should relate to each other, as Rabash writes in all of his articles, with love, support, connection, embrace, however this is only between us. Towards the outside, we should simply seem like, I don't know how to say it, like a group of people that gather together, and they are like learning things, I don't know, about birds, completely neutral. The ones who are interested, we can explain to them bit-by-bit what we are doing, that’s how it is. 

23. S. (57:13) Regarding the fear that you talked about, you are already in a state where you understand that everything comes from above, that everything is for the better. How can we think like you when we are still in a corporeal state?

R. Still, I suggest for all of you to keep on going as we are advancing, and we are advancing much faster than in my time, when I was young, do you understand, this is how it is. I started with Rabash when I was 30 years old, now I am seventy-five, so after 40 years I will talk to you, what happened to you then.

24. S. (58:15) Is there room to imagine that the friends care for me even if in practice, in actuality, I do not feel that? 

R. Yes, the friends, you should always justify the friends, justify them. That they are always caring for you and you sadly cannot show them back your love. 

S. I need to really imagine it? 

R. Well of course, and work with that accordingly. 

25. S. (59:05) At the end of the quote, it says that “the difference between a spark and a flame is that where there is love, there is open disclosure”, meaning a disclosure to all the people, all the nations, that the fire of love is burning all the transgressions one meets along the way. What should this depiction teach us about work in the ten?

R. That to the extent that we feel bad, it is not bad, it is actually good, all we are lacking is the light of Hassidim in order to discover that it is good. That is why we have to make haste for our correction. In each state, in any state you feel bad, you should only image that you’re lacking the light of Hassidim to fill that state and then you would feel good in it because the difference between good and bad is ‘do have or lack the light of Hassidim?’. This here is a very narrow bridge we have to cross. 

26. S. (01:00:18) When we make this hole in the heart, you can feel it really well in Congresses, but what to do when the Creator is showing you that all-in-all, that it's a game and despair comes, how to use this state correctly? It's a kind of a feeling as though you've reached a concert all inspired, and at the end you realize that at the very last moment, they're showing you a little bit that that's not it really, how to use the state?

R. I accept everything as coming from the Creator, that's why each and every state in my life I accept it, seriously. There is no less here or more, everything depends on the extent of my seriousness with respect to what the Creator shows me on the screen we call ‘life’. That's what I want to see, more and more, until I discover the thought of creation: why is He presenting these things to me? Then I penetrate through this whole representation to the inner part of it, to what's going on in this play, what is it about? It's not like a child who opens his mouth, and he wants to know but he doesn't even understand rather hearing more and more later. In the beginning all he hears is sounds then words, then from the words he goes into the order of the emotions that is there between the ones who are in this game. Then he starts seeing the general scene; then he relates to the operating mind and through this operating mind, he relates to the operator Himself, meaning this is all in this game of life what we attain.

S. The right response should be gratitude to the Creator, to the friends?

R. Of course, of course because without them, without the friends and without the Creator, I wouldn't be in this game of this life at all. I would go back and forth like all the people in the world that are born, raised, live, and die having nothing to do with what really is going on, not even entering to see the world in a serious way. Like when we're on the stage, we want to see the scene, what does nature want of us? They don't have it, they simply play in a way that he's there, confused within the forces of nature, they are taking part just like wen we're saying about children in the kindergarten, that's it, and they don't come out of it until they finish their life until the next incarnation and more and more and more. Our goal in this life already starts to start to open the internality of the system where we are in, to relate to it, incorporate in a way that, we too, are bestowing and we're going into it in a personal way, responsible way, participating.

27. S. (01:04:55) What is that hollow place in the stony heart of his friend that he opens up, what does this hollow mean?

R. That my friend certainly has a desire to connect to me even though he, himself, does not feel it and then I’ll want to relate to that hollow.

S. Is it important to feel how you're influencing the friend?

R. Is it important to feel how I’m influencing the friend? Yes of course, I want to be certain that I am bestowing good to him, that I’m projecting arrows of love to him.

Reading item #12: (01:05:48) “I should advise you to evoke within you...”

28. R. (01:10:56) I would like to turn to the Congress; still, this is a European Congress in Germany, the center of Europe, so tell us please: how are you feeling, how are you connecting, what's new in the connection between you, how do we seem to you on the screens, there. Friends, wake us up a little bit.

29. S. (01:11:32) The atmosphere here is special, it’s excellent! Yesterday we started, you can see how beautiful it is here, we have about 100 -120 friends here. For the first time, we have so many friends, men and women, who came to a Congress with about thirty new friends who came here. Yesterday we had Yeshivat Haverot, women’ and men's Meeting of the Friends; we had a meal in the evening, an amazing evening, just amazing what is happening here! It's such a mixture, like you said, of friends who are loyal and new friends, and there's such a huge deficiency from the women. Yesterday they showed us what it's like to have a meeting of the friends of the women, it was really a true deficiency. We also had a Shabbat Haverim with the World Kli, and we felt such support, the World Kli, we felt that they are with us, they opened up their hearts, they were so happy that we are here and that we are connecting, and this was a new degree for the German Kli. So, we're so happy to be here, so happy that you're with us, and a great L’chaim to the world Kli, we’re here for you, L’Chaim friends!

30. R. (01:13:21) L’chaim! Okay, we'll talk about it some more, as much as we can draw from this Congress, European Congress, for us. In the meantime, read item 12 again.

Reading item #12: (01:13:48) “I should advise you to evoke within you fear of cooling of love between you...”

31. R. (01:13:57) This means to be cautious that the connection between us won't cool, meaning to be on that like a hand always examining your pulse: is it getting colder? Then you need to activate all the forces, it's best if even before that, you're in all kinds of actions that warm up the connection and not, God forbid, make cooling off.

Continues: (01:14:26) “I should advise you to evoke within you fear of cooling of love between you...”

32. R. (01:14:48) Of course, meaning if we always have to move towards the correction, towards the final Correction, then we should first be overcoming, increasing the love. That's why we always have to examine it like a pulse, to hold onto how much the love between us broadens and strengthens each and every moment, each and every moment.

Continues: (01:15:18) “Is like a person who gives a great gift to his friend...”

33. R. (01:15:51) Yes, that's something we have to always work on it, constantly work on that; also in the love in our world with its people in this house and the children, of course, with respect to their friends and spirituality, and in the group in the ten, and towards the Creator, it's nonstop. 

Continues: (01:16:15) “This is all of our work to display love between us...”

34. S. (01:16:53) In regard to taking the strength from the friends, it's clear that when a person feels heaviness, he can use the love from the friends. Is it possible to take, to receive this love in order to pass it, then, back?

R. If you are heading towards a friend in your feeling and you open the heart, and you feel that the friend also opens your heart, then try to absorb from him, his love as much as possible in order to return to him from your love. As for that, you don't need words, you don't even need actions, it's a feeling, it's a field of love between us which is the Creator, it's only that He is concealed. So, to the extent that we also from within, we activate emotions of love, a small field between us, “I to my beloved, my beloved to me”, so by that, we discover that we are in giant field, a field of love which is the Creator in all His glory, to that extent He is revealed to us, that's what we should do. So as much as possible to disclose our love to our friends, to each other however, however, and here there's a great question: it is possible that in practice we shouldn't yet do it, but to a small extent to the friends. Some can't get love from others because of an egoistic reason because it forces them to relate in this way as well. So, the moment I see how much he wants to love me, ‘no, no, no, no I’m distancing from that’. Sometimes a person performs some action to stop it, activates something a bit hard from himself, he distances the friend because it forces the friend –there are other relations here and conditions – it’s revealed bit by bit. There are such conditions that it's not yet the time, not yet the time to discover or disclose the love.

S. We have a big bank of the Creator that has massive force, now for example in the Congress in Germany, there is a massive force, at least 600,000 possibly more. The question: how a Kabbalist can use all of this force, it's a massive force. How to correctly draw from this force without it disappearing, how to properly use it?

R. First of all, our ego guards us, it guards us from jumping into the sea of love, it doesn't let us do it, and only to the extent that we are capable of withstanding the love from the friends because we too can provide them with the same concern and love, then we come closer to them. So that's why we get closer slowly and gradually between us to the extent of concern, not love yet but concern for connection, and like a spiral it goes deeper and deeper until we get closer. These things appear within us from the influence of the Creator and the influence of our friends, and our participation, mutually, in various external forms for now when we will go into deeper, inner forms of connection between us, then this connection will appear faster and more intently. Most importantly, never forget that we are under the rule of the Creator, and He directs us towards connection, that's it.

 35. S. (01:22:54) One thing that's not clear: it says that “when one can add in effort but doesn't, this also is a flaw”. What efforts do we need to make up in order to love the friends and for them to love me, what efforts?

R. I don't know.

S. I will give you an example; when I met my wife I courted her.

R. Don't remind us of such things, okay. What do you want to show us, what?

S. I want to show you how do I court the friends, do I bring him flowers, it's not clear, make up things, what things can I make for him to love me, for me to love him?

R. I don't know what to say, I don't know, if I we're sure that the friend lacks something, something he actually lacks not what I think, then I would try to get that. Sometimes you could even speak to other friends to help a certain friend but typically we're all in a state where, thankfully, who is your lack in most cases some things that the friends need to fulfill except for, like Rabash writes, only love, good relationships, support, that's always missing.

S. I want to ask you something and I apologize in advance: when you make tactics towards the friends when you studied with them, did you have a patent toward the friends that you create a connection with them?

R. No, no, unfortunately, or not unfortunately, I do not have such connection with the friends, I asked Rabash about that and he said, “you and I together will we are like friends”, and I asked him how could it be you and I are student and a teacher? He said, “no that's unrelated, there can be a student-friend and that's us”. He didn't really let me connect with the others, I always connected to him during the lesson, I would sit next to him. After that, I would go on a walk for hours with him, in the evening I was again in his lesson and a few hours of sleep and then once again I'm next to him in the morning. So, I was always next to him, ten years from 1980 to 1990 and I did not have a group, I didn't have a group. I also didn't have friends, no, and according to my nature I don't need anyone, my nature, my character is very difficult, it's a very big ego. When I told Rabash, “how deep is that”? He said, “that is in the hands of the Creator, you just have to learn from what's happening and see how it will also fall into place in your life”. 

S. According to what he writes here, it says, “the most important is to deal with the tactics as if you’re courting the friends and if you don't do it, it’s like you sin. So maybe I can ask people who have much more experience to maybe share ideas, how can you court after friends since this is one of the most important things?

R. I think it's best if each one in a subtle way, in a subtle way, awakens in the friends the greatness of the goal, the greatness of the path, of greatness of the group. That each one thinks in what way can he awaken the friends in a way that's not overbearing, just to inspire. Where it comes from, maybe they even don't know, maybe they do it through his movement, through offering something, through suggesting something, it doesn’t matter, but they need to feel that suddenly that there's importance in someone in the group and why is it not as important to them? That will make them advance, the main thing is to awaken the friends towards connection, I like that a lot next to Rabash.

S. For us it's also missing for the tens to court after one another, to feel that it's good to be with the friends, we're missing it as well. The question is how do we build it, you know? You said something nice; the question is how do we practically implement it to have such a power, such a connection between the friends with importance to the goal and I feel this is missing?

R. The fact that you say it now in such a way, that's already a good example for everyone and me too. Yes, yes I'm actually studying from all of you a lot as it says, “I’ve learned a lot, I learn from all my students”.

S. Well, thank you.

R. But with regards to the woman, as you said, I still feel that cake that she made for me!

S. Ah, the cake, the cake.

R. Yes, the cake, no, no need for more, you see I already remember that, I still remember that.

36. S. (01:30:05) We've gathered here, it is a special moment, and we don't want to miss it. The question is when I came to the wisdom of Kabbalah, “I thought wow in a few years I will attain that love with friends and now I see that it's impossible, we're so different. New friends also want to reach that state, how can we reach the state, these experiences that we had of the more senior friends and the younger friends to reach a new degree to continue to develop and onwards?

R. Look, in the past people lived 20-30 years and that would be enough for them; today they live 80 years and more, why does it happen that way? It's according to how much our evil inclination demands spiritual work, it's not because we design medicine and our food gets better or our clothing or other things, no there's just one thing that is determining that: how our will to receive requires correction and it requires correction that takes years. Therefore, how people lived for 30-40 years ago, today 70-80 and it's not the end, and you'll see how more it will advance and it's all in order for us to have time and possibility to correct our egoistic desire. There's not any other form we need to reach or any other thing we need to do, just fill our time with that and the closer we get to corrections we’ll suddenly see that we are free from all concerns that we don't need to worry about food or other things. All of that would just be automatic and cost pennies, if at all, we will have to worry only about the network of connection between us, and that's the only thing we'll be engaged with. It will be truly pure spiritual work that we will all be immersed in that, and then this world in general will just vaporize, it won't be sensed because the interior of it, the internality of it will appear in us. 

Excerpt #13: (01:34:22) “Once I have acquired the clothing of love sparks of love begin to shine within me...”

37. R. (01:34:50) Let’s have a workshop: how do I move from my corporeal vessels and it appears to me that there is only the friends, and how do I become included in them, immersed in them like Rabash writes, “until I stand into declare that there's only the friends in the world because what I truly discovered in the spiritual world”. How do I undergo that transition from myself to the friends, nullify before them and declare that the sides being immersed in them there's nothing, so please workshop.

Workshop Question: How do I go from my corporeal vessels and imagine to myself that there are only friends, which I incorporate in, until I see that there are only friends in the world?

38. R. (01:48:50) Okay, let's go to questions for now: any question about what you have discussed about thirteen, please friends?

39. S. (01:14:49) There is a feeling that there's this mutual center, the corrected ten and what makes the difference sometimes is the external form of how the friends present their deficiency. How do you diminish from the external form and cleave to the essence?

R. By devotion, how devoted I am to the goal, how much I’m adhering to the goal and I want to cling to it and be in it now already. To that extent I do reach the feeling of truth, of getting closer to the friends and the Creator, yes. To envision the goal where we all need to be included in each other without our personal feelings that the Creator will rule and absorb us into Himself. This is what we call, ‘our hearts will rejoice in Him’, and that's the only thing we want.

S. Yesterday, you spoke about a bad example that we gave one another. How do we move from the bad example to a good example?

R. Well, each one needs to understand what he can present towards the friends which is a form of progress that can help them. I, by the way, I'm not good at that, I cannot express externally something that I have within. I hope I have something within but even what I have, I cannot express that in an external way in a way that inspires others to speak about it. Sometimes it comes out also with my ability of speech and I'm very sorry about it but that's what the Creator gave me. So each one has to try with whatever he can, to try to add more and more until we put together such a field, a common field between us that we will all be inspired by, moved by, and live by because this field of connection between us will be like an antenna. Like something that attracts the upper light, the Creator, and reveals it at the center for our connection, like a locator, like a radio locator. So, that's how we will discover it.

40. S. (01:52:53) There are really amazing sensations from the Congress and now at the workshop, we clarified that one of the friends wants to feel loved, the love of the ten towards him, and is trying to show such love to the ten. I just wanted to share that happiness that you have clarification.

R. Each and every one of our Congresses becomes more powerful, internal and purposeful, and it’s really felt how we are doing these Congresses almost every month. But it indicates progress, the pace of our progress, and therefore we should really thank our friends, also in fact, all our enemies too, both those who are in favor and who are against. All those forces ultimately come to the Creator to establish us, design us properly, so how we feel this present Congress like another degree that we rise to a higher level of understanding, connection, and power, that is thanks to all the friends all over the world.

41. S. (01:54:41) At end of excerpt ten it says that “the moment that he reveals the friend of friends to him, he experiences immense joy, and he can no longer be concerned with himself.” So, do I first need to feel the love of others towards me then be concerned for the other?

R. No, no we have to show the attitude to the friends and in warming up the hearts and opening our hearts to them and wanting to show them our connection and love, then we, more and more become worthy of revealing their attitude, their love to us, and that's how we connect.

42. S. (01:55:57) What does it mean that I come out of for my corporeal borders, how do I reach it?

R. That I don’t pay attention to all of the corporeal framework where I am, doesn't matter to me what I am, rather I care only about how I can rise above the feeling of this world, humanity, people, even friends. That I only describe them only in a spiritual form and accordingly I relate to them, the more and more I can raise them all the way to the final correction that's it.

43. S. (01:57:07) This question is in regard to the last one: what are the corporeal vessels exactly, are they…?

R. These are vessels of mine, of course, vessels of reception that I'm immersed and when I get closer to the friends, I can detect those vessels where I'm still in order to receive and either restrict them or maybe even correct them in order to bestow.

44. S. (01:58:05) What do you mean when you said that our attitude toward the friend has to be complete devotion?

R. Full devotion means that we need to look at the goal that will connect between us in such a way that personal, individual feeling that each one exists in and of itself, meaning that he has his own engagements, his own things in life that only belong to him, that this feeling and these concepts disappear. We all feel that we are like a kind of creature that has billions of hands and legs and a single head and a single heart, that's how I would say it, that in such forms we come closer to unconditional love.

45. S. (01:59:44) You mentioned earlier our heaters, why is there so much need about all the lies that are said towards us? Is it necessary or is it mean that we are not connected enough?

R. I think that all those things come from the same root, None Else Besides Him, there’s nothing else and we’ve always learned that. All those who rise in each and every generation, rise against us to annihilate us and the Creator saves us from them, that's how it should be. So, like Baal HaSulam writes, “I don't attribute any of these things to these people, personally”. You know, typically, people want the ruin of whatever source of evil that rises up against them and wants to harm them. No, not even to neutralize it, only to take some indication from it that we need to be more unified, more unified, and that's how the Creator helps us unite and come closer to Him. The more we try to be together and connect to the Creator, by that, we basically will win against these enemies, it says so in so many places. All the wisdom of Kabbalah talks about how we work with and confront the forces of separation and hatred. So certainly these forces need to be, I don't disregard them, and I don't think that they will just disappear but to the extent that we will connect between us more and more, then we will see how they weaken and die, and they don't have a role in the next world. But it's not that we hate them, rather we just need to hate our lack of connection because of which they exist, that’s it, that’s all there is. There are such people who come to me and say, “how can they say that, what did you do to them?” and I haven’t done anything to them, of course that’s clear, they too cannot bring up anything serious that I’ve done to them. But what they are supposed to do is to keep awakening us so that we try to come to connection between us and the Creator, that's all. That's basically what we need to do and that's their death, and that's our correction and it leads us to our goal. So, I don’t work against these forces that now arise because of the elections and all those things. They come out of their holes and start telling all kinds of stories and of course there's power and money behind that and all that. We just need to look at our goal, connection between us and how we come to a state where they actually teach us that we have to connect between us and this with the Creator, and as it says, “look at them and you will find them gone.”

S. The senior friends I used to it, we’ve been through it so many times, but how do we hold the supporters and the new students that may be are exposed to it for the first time?

R. What can we do, we just have to explain that if it doesn’t happen this way, it happens another way, this way or that way, but we have to be understanding that all this is happening and will happen from the moment that our institution becomes valid, we were very meticulously about the usage of money because that's typically how every institution is being judged, and we were very, very meticulous about that so they look at that already and there’s nothing they can do. So what can they do, so they look into all kinds of things that happened to each and every person in life, and I'm not a saint, so of course they will point at me as well. So they do whatever they do, they can do whatever they want, if we come towards connection, basically, neutralize their influence and rise above it with connection. And then we will actually give them a gift for doing all those actions against us afterwards. That’s how the Creator advances us both through the good and the bad, everything comes to Him, from None Else Besides Him.

S. So, what to ask during this time?

R. Nothing besides connection, it’s a very unique state, a good state and I wouldn’t cancel it, I wouldn’t give up on it, only to connect between us further and further, that’s it. From my perspective let it continue, let it continue, if this thing can be pushed until after the election, this and that, then let it happen, let it happen, it only works to our advantage, don’t be afraid.

43. S. (02:06:50) There are beautiful words that we read now that I come out of our corporeal vessels and there's no really other than the friends and then I, myself, am canceled. Is it possible to translate as the importance of corporeality diminishes and what rises is the importance of the connection with the friends and then through that the importance of corporeality diminishes?

R. Exactly that, exactly like that. 

44. S. (02:07:54) How do I stress myself to enter real connection with my friends?

R. How to press on myself, to always tell myself but always not forget that without connection without discovering the connection between us in the group, I do not come closer to the goal of life.

45. S. (02:08:24) …

R. What do you mean the other side, the friends?

S. Yes

R. Yes and?

S. Does it mean that it’s love that is determining something?

R. There's nothing we can do, Rabash writes about this too: I can’t love my attitude to the friend if I also don’t feel love on his part towards me. Only when both are covered by the same blanket and so forth, then love erupts between them, when we warm our hearts towards each other. Love cannot come from one and not at all from the other, it has to come from both.

46. S. (02:09:52) He says that I need to be able to receive all my everything that Frank has seen the spiritual work. What does it mean?

R. Just opening the heart, we have to bring the hearts closer than close it and nothing else is going to help a lot of words out of his plantations only opening our hearts being closer then we will feel very clear we're doing the heart lies the Creator. The connection it doesn't need any place even though he himself is called a place, but he doesn't need a place when he appears then in his appearance we find a place for the spiritual word for the spiritual dimension.

47. S. (02:10:53) The moment I understand that I have to love the friend unconditionally and do certain actions for the friends to feel it then I feel that I rely on the Creator?

R. Yes of course. Without the Creator I cannot love the friend, yes.

48. S. (02:11:14) What is the meaning that a place is created in the stony heart of a friend?

R. That I will be able to bestow to that deficiency, to fill their hearts with something. That’s how I discover that all their hearts are essentially hollow places that I can fulfill, and that's the only thing they actually long for, and that's why there’s this thirst for fulfilment and I can fulfill them with whatever they want, specifically those spaces in the heart. Because in the heart there is nothing besides this very thin shell of the heart and the whole heart is hollow. As it says my heart within me is hollow.

49. S. (02:12:44) what opens a hole in my heart? How do I know that I’m doing it right? 

R. That I feel that I cannot love the friends and I long for it to happen, but I can’t. Then I turn to the Creator and demand that He give me this ability to connect with the friend's hearts, then that creates the hole and through that hole the whole world comes in and out.

50. S. (02:13:35) What do we do if the gift I'm trying to give the friend is being rejected not once but many times? Where did I go wrong?

R. It’s not important. We need to realize that there are many degrees that we have to try to climb, and in some degree of all the degrees we will begin to feel the spiritual reality ,and then we will be in a new state of how to move forward and overcome. In the meantime we need to work without any spiritual feeling, but the feeling needs to be between us as much as we try to connect between us.

51. S. (02:14:26) What do I do if I can’t take the love that the friend drops on me?

R. Right, that's because it obligates me to love the friend back so her love towards me obligates me and I can’t bear it and that's why I reject her. That's how it happens, and we need to understand the friends that in behaving that way we need to understand them and somehow come closer to that, come closer to everyone.

52. S. (02:15:31) How do we feel the light of Hassadim?

R. The light of Hassadim is a light of strengthening between us, how much we want to connect between us and come to a state where we are all drawn to connection. That is called being in Hassadim.

53. S. (02:16:00) How to depict that behind each friend is the Creator and through that open the heart?

R. How to imagine that behind each friend is the Creator? That's the effort that we do, we want it to happen like that and be drawn to that. I see that all the sentences I now hear from women are correct. That these are good correct sentences, but they do not realize them, and that's why they keep asking. You have to realize it.

54. S. (02:16:60) What comes first, the love of friends to me or my love towards the friends?

R. What comes first, of course my love towards the friends. If the love of friends comes to me then I have to quickly make an action on my part, otherwise it's not good. I have to be in the same line as the friends towards me, always making sure that my love towards the friends will not be less than their love to me. In short, there is no measure to it, the more the better.

55. S. (02:17:57) What does it mean to fear the coolness in the ten even though the ten develops from the states of hatred and from the states of love?

R. We have to love both this and that. We have such explanations that we need to love the Creator both from the good and from the bad and that's the main thing that a person needs to attain, both the good side and the other, and so to me it doesn’t matter. What I need is each and every moment to adhere to the Creator, and as much as I feel good things or bad things that appear, I grab hold of them, I take them in. By that I only bring myself closer to adhesion with the Creator. That it doesn't matter to me what I get, good or bad as long as it helps me make another step forward towards the Creator, and the Creator always awakens in me these states through the ten. Then it turns out that without connecting to the ten, without adhering to the ten I don’t achieve adhesion with the Creator, and that's basically our work, that's our inclination.

S. So what does it mean to fear the coolness of love?

R. To be afraid of the cooling down of love is that that I don't have any signs from the group or the Creator through the group, that I have no more to do towards them, that the Creator doesn’t awaken in me anything. That’s the worse stage, there's nothing worse than somehow staying detached from Him. The main thing is just to keep the influence by Him positively, negatively, that you’re going in circles day and night, and you don't know how to settle these things, and with the group and the Creator and all of that awakens, it brings you finally to close, corrected relationships. Now let's hear from the Germany Congress.

56. S. (02:21:12) How not to run from a great love? I don't want to miss out, so I want to expand.

R. For this we all need to open our hearts, both men and women to open our hearts. When I come to my friends and reach a state where I am completely included in them, I love them, connect to them, bond with them to the point that through them I can feel how I’m connected to the Creator. The group stands in the way between me and the Creator, the group is basically the correcting system, the connecting system between me and the Creator. That on the one hand I cannot connect to the Creator directly and what the group does is invert all of my egoistic vessels, it organizes the transition between me and the Creator in such a way that I can connect to Him. So the group is not creating separation here, on the contrary it creates connection. It translates my desires to such a form that the Creator can take them in, because it translates the relation of the Creator towards me so that I can understand the Creator. So the group is really this complete adapter that the Creator creates, a complete ten Sefirot. So through direct light and reflected light I connect with the upper force and come in contact with Him, and if I come to that then it is all worthwhile. Whatever disturbances arise, people who curse me or want to do this and that, and the Creator sets up things on the way more and more, most importantly I am in connection with the Creator through the ten, I feel that I am aimed at Him and that’s the main thing, and all the rest are disturbances that actually direct us to the Creator. You know that if you want to come to something, to reach something first of all you need to know what's the straight path and what is the possible deviation, to the right to the left, up and down, whatever direction. So we need to know how to not deviate, those disturbances we feel as disturbances they actually guard us and thanks to them we do reach the goal. So, thank you for the lesson for the participation. What do we have next?

57. S. (02:25:15) We also have the noon lesson.

R. I'm ready.

S. How do you want to summarize the lesson?

R. It feels like a congress more than the ordinary and I see that from time to time we are increasing our connection more and more. Hopefully now in this month after the Tu B’Av we are going into more states of connection, of love. Of course the shells, the Klipot will guard us from outside, they guard the fruit so that it doesn’t corrupt. We will continue and everything will fall into place. When we achieve the final correction, the final inner ripening of the fruit then we will peel off the shells and throw them out as shells. In the meantime let's go ahead.

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