Morning Lesson March 3, 2021  Transcription is made from simultaneous translation which leaves possibility for differences from audio

“Hitkalelut” (Mingling/Incorporation) - Selected Excerpts from the Sources. #13

1. Rav’s Introduction: Yes, we are still on this topic the topic of Hitkalelut, incorporation this is actually the most important, the main action that we need to perform in practice between us, because then out of the renewal in this action incorporating more and more, this is how we reach practical spiritual actions all the way to the end of correction. It all depends on coming back to the system of Adam HaRishon as it was prior to the shattering but already of our own efforts, this is why that system becomes 620 times greater than before so that we can in this amplified, increased system we can feel ourselves in our complete existence, complete adhesion with the Creator. This is why we should advance in the renewal as it always comes out of incorporation. All the elements, the individual exists however the renewal, the innovation is that we raise them bring them back from the shattering and try to connect them, to find to what extent we can be connected each form, with which intention, around which topics. 

Then it turns out that each and every day when we come to the group and to our great world group, we see how much this renews everything for me, I by myself if I do not connect, if I am not incorporated in others then I actually did not have a spiritual vessel. I don't really have a new vessel, I have no renewal, I have no incorporation. The incorporation happens each moment anew, this is why Kabbalists write so much that they should be as new in your eyes that each and every day they should be in your eyes anew. We come like animals from the shattering from the degree of the animate and we have nothing that we can do, this is actually good, it is to sign a new day has come, and we forcefully are drawn towards connection. We put ourselves truly forcefully into coming closer to others, and some common feeling, common understanding, common study until this incorporation begins to become more and more clear, more today than even yesterday. 

This is how we reach what we call a new day, new vessels, then in them to new understanding, new light. Therefore this whole topic of incorporation is the primary topic, we will reach what our teachers, our guides write for us and then we will continue today, we will finish this topic of incorporation study. Not that the topic itself will go away but rather tomorrow it will be a new day, a new topic and this is how we should go forward and advance more and more until we will reach to be as one heart and this heart will be called the desire the general, collective desire which is what the Creator has established for us then we will reach adhesion with him.

2. S. (05:08)  .... 

R. Only through incorporation between us shattering when this incorporation comes over the coarseness that was revealed in the shattering only through this incorporation can we reach new Kelim, the difference between how we where to begin with in one desire called Adam HaRishon, prior to the shattering and to Adam after the correction, the difference is that we bring into that connection between us as we were in the system of Adam prior to the shattering. We also bring into there the will to receive from during the shattering, that will to receive is entirely the posterior of the light. So it turns out that all of the Creator's power, all of the Creator's force by which he wants to be revealed to us, we bring that into the system of Adam in the form of the will to receive that was revealed during the shattering. Because the shattering was done by the upper light, that wanted to be received in this desire. This is why the desire exploded out of the great light and now we are bringing back that light that emerged through the shattering, out of the Kli of Adam HaRishon we are bringing it back, however it is out of our own work that we wish to receive it, not as it came back then but rather through our intention of in order to bestow. 

This is how we advance so all of our work is that even though each and every moment we feel ourselves as rejecting each other, along with that we need to reveal ourselves that we are arranging the connection between us above all the disturbances and rejections. That's it that's how we arrange ourselves, therefore each and every time that I reach some connection some lesson, the group, I feel rejection, it's not important for me, I don't care about it, I don't want connection, I don't want any common action, I don’t feel like it, we are all egoists, none of us has drawn really to the other and bit by bit by trying to awaken myself towards connection, because I realize that only through connection, it says so, that only connection can give us a Kli for the revelation of the Creator, for the revelation of the upper world. So I always can recover, I come to a state where I again and again, I am drawn to spirituality as a means, and it is impossible to discover the Creator except through the correct connection between us and this way again and again we awaken the reforming light and it connects us above the shattering this is how we reach the correction.

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3. S. Once you reach incorporation what should be the leading quality in the 10?

R. That I have to incorporate with the forces of bestowal of the friends, I cannot incorporate with the forces of bestowal of the friends if I do not add to them something of my own. The incorporation should be seemingly a mutual action, what can I give to the society, only my lack, that I want to adhere to them, and to receive from them a spiritual force, what spiritual force is there in the society? By believing that they are just like me, spiritual forces can only be in that each shall help his friend, that we will try to awaken each other towards connection and that way we activate ourselves therefore even though everyone comes empty, perhaps tired, not very happy, not quite believing that we are establishing our soul. However when we come together with our efforts we get forces of awakening. Where does it come from because nevertheless in that same connection that we reach there is already an upper force, it is already some connection, inclination to come closer, to want to know, and it's not that this exists in a 10, it exists in us when we are drawn somehow to be together to some extent, somehow during the lesson. 

So if before the lesson we talk about it, why have you come here, what have you come here for? As Rabash writes what is our goal, what are we expecting from that connection between us but it turns out that we are awakening our forces, our inclinations, our expectations, our hopes, and by that we awaken the upper light, the reforming light. Thus when it comes to us then by that we begin to be renewed once again there's a new connection between us and the light shines a little bit and it gives us new hope and it's no longer by me but rather by the fact that I invested in the society, that I want to hear it from them and I'm willing also to give it to them because I cannot get it from them, if I don't give it to them. 

So it turns out that this is how we connect and out of that connection, because it is made of connection out of the shattering and in that gap between the state where we have lack of connection, darkness, rejection versus the connection which we are trying to establish between us. For the time being even without any flavor but only by what the Kabbalists are telling us but nevertheless we do make efforts in that gap between disconnection and connection we start to build the spiritual Kli in that way we discover in it the upper light well maybe it's not yet light but just some awakening some tiny illumination that is now revealed as existing on its own right but soon it will be that way.

4. S. (15:40) How can this new exercise of the prayer, give us work with incorporation, how to integrate one line with everything you told us?

R. We begin to prepare ourselves to connection by what we talked about when I got up, I had no connection with what we talked about, I now came to the lesson and I had no relation to others, I forgot all about the group. It was in my heart or in my feelings or in my brain. I was disconnected. Even if I did remember, I just remembered that I have to get to the lesson to talk about something with the friends but it wasn't in my emotion, that is, I was disconnected from the connection itself, from the incorporation itself, from the spiritual vessel. I was like an animal, like a beast on the animate level and now when I come here and I hear and I see the friends then I become incorporated with all the forms of their yearning, their quest, their search not even yearning for spirituality but searching, what am I going to do, what do I do, what do I get out of it what will happen? Then out of these questions when I incorporate with them I begin to awaken myself to search for the essence of life, the purpose of life and I recall and I get an example from them that this happens inside of the connection between us and then I begin to feel that I have some attitude towards them and they're related to me and I relate to them in this way, we become closer from afar. Each time it has to be from afar from truly from disconnection because each time is it a new vessel as they say it shall be anew in your eyes. Therefore I'm not afraid to see myself that each time I come to the group I'm coming from disconnection and I begin the vessel anew this is actually a good sign.

5. S. (18:26) What criteria do we have for bestowal to know we succeeded in incorporation?

R. You need to feel this inside of you, you should feel it. How can this incorporation be done what will you get to, when you start to begin, specifically in these connections, the correct connections between all the friends, there you find some new place, a new platform, a new quality. Specifically therein the revelation of the Creator occurs because it's not just the desires of all of us but rather when all of the desires of all of us begin to somehow connect, then in between them, inside of their connections, when they upon our ego when we connect there's a new quality and specifically in that quality, the upper Force becomes revealed. It is a new feeling that has nothing to do with this world and I build it out of the connection between us and also it's between husband and wife, there also is some kind of connection or parents and children or relatives or even ordinary friends. Rather here it is a connection, which is a purposeful connection and it is a connection which is above our ego where we see that each time we have a new ego that is being revealed and above it we have to determine the new kind of connection. This is how it is.

6. S. (20:59) In what way should I increase the incorporation in the 10 by seeing the friends as great and praying for them daily or by creating a reality, calling them to come and connect in what way. should I turn to that?

R. Certainly it's worthwhile for me to awaken the friends in any possible form so that any form approved, that they agree to and then I have to awaken them as it says each should help his friend and what should I should also realize that each and every time when I come to connection with them, it's a new connection, it is a connection which I have to establish from zero, from non-existence, that to begin with I don't have it. Because that connection that I want to reach exists in my broken will to receive so then bit by bit I start to establish to raise my broken will to receive. I start to work on myself, how can I reach the Creator, the purpose of creation, what do I need for it, how do I need to incorporate, how do we need to work on having between us a spiritual vessel it's not mine, it only comes out of gathering when we all perform acts of overcoming then we connect all of our acts of overcoming to a single act of overcoming and in it we received the revelation.

7. S. (23:19) When is the act of incorporation more efficient when there's a desire to incorporate and connect or specifically when you work against the repulsion?

R. We need to try to reach incorporation in any state there is, but of course if I start from a state where I have no desire for it, no understanding or feeling or flavor, I don't even know and I can't remember that there is such a thing and I start to awaken myself, and then I truly start to open this connection that needs to be more organized, better, more correct that I begin to see myself that I come to a 10, out of lack of choice, because we decided we are going to do it and I have to, but rather it is the opposite, how good it is that this system exists and I am now coming to it and I incorporate in it and this is all of the pleasure for my sou,l this is how we get there.

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8. R. This is how it is with us all that I need whatever I need for spirituality all of it is not in me. In me there is only the point in the heart which does push me forward to search for fulfillment for my soul, meant for the soul but I don't have the soul itself that is the upper light from above, the Creator he exists up there and I have in me what I call a godly part from above. This is the spark that is aiming that the Creator will fulfill it but I don't have the vessel itself, the vessel is in this society, in the ten so it turns out that the 10 is standing between me and the Creator. This is how we need to reach a state where we attain a vessel from the society and light from the Creator and then we have a soul. So of course, I don't really have a true desire or need for spirituality, I cannot have it because we are all egoists, we're coming from the shattering. If we arrange all kinds of actions between us such that awaken us to come closer to the Creator in each and every one of us there is a spark, so if we connect these sparks then we can get closer to the upper light. It turns out, to the extent that I work with the friends, so that we will get closer between us through various actions, through dissemination, through study of course. It turns out that by that each shall help his friend, we awaken each other and that way we come to a state where the Creator already shines more on us. As Rabash writes in the Social Articles, the more we try to awaken each other by that we are inviting, drawing the upper light and I am drawing the upper light upon the friends and the friends upon me and this specifically is one shall help his friend in the spiritual concrete sense and this is how we advance.

9. S. (29:27) Can it be that, how to take the lesson correctly in order to receive from the correct tools from the group someone who speaks, you have to listen to them, there are those who say you have to relate only to friends, what can be the right direction of thoughts and emotions during the lesson?

R. The lesson should give us the ability to incorporate between us that is all, because each and every one of us even though one doesn't feel it however he has a connection with the Creator that the friends can reveal through him, he himself cannot do it. But the friends can relate to him through their vessels and if they annul to a friend they can connect the Creator. This is how it is with each one of us that is even though each one is however annuls his will to receive to the other he becomes the adapter who links into the Creator because he annulled his desires, his vessel for him.

10. S. (31:10) It says here those people have desires and aspirations, I should like them, for the incorporation to take place, and this state of liking them, I have to come to it, is it work of annulment?

R. We need to discover the friends, to convince ourselves that these friends are necessary for me, that I must appreciate them, elevate them up in my eyes and only in such a way can we be assisted by them and get the reforming light through them. The light doesn't come to me directly but only through our incorporation. This is how it works.

S. I would have liked to scrutinize it, when there is some rejection, repulsion between us down to conflict and scrutiny it feels there is incorporation but it says here that you have to like them you have to see them as great, so is the incorporation happening also during conflict and repulsion?

R. When there are mutual rejections it is revelation of desires upon which we need to position our connection and incorporation. The incorporation cannot be unless it is out of opposite things there cannot just be connected and attached to one another rather that we elevate ourselves. It is more apparent with actions of above reason when we connect between us because we have to be connected, out of lack of choice. Otherwise we won't be able to take any spiritual step and so then we get to it simply if I see the goal and the goal cannot be attained by my vessel but rather I attain spirituality in the other vessels outside and I am like the Malchut. I just need to restrict myself and receive all of my attainment in the first nine which are the friends. So in such a way we have to incorporate, that is everything that is in the friends and becomes revealed to me and usually these are things that ordinarily, instinctively, I would reject them. It turns out that what is left for me is to truly cause the incorporation forcefully, nobody wants incorporation, these are things that come to me in a nice comfortable good way, it's worse than living together in the same room, or sleeping in the same bed. Incorporation is incorporation so much so that I stop feeling where I am and where the friend is in our thoughts and our desires. So much so, we scrutinize them and realize that we are all connected, a single system that we should be as one.

S. It turns out that these eruptions and rejections the Creator is giving them to us to work with to hold on so we cover with love and afterwards incorporation happens?

R. Of course first of all nothing happens and we will discover this more and more except for the revelation for the necessary vessels that have to be revealed for the end of correction only that, each and every day. Whatever is revealed to us either in a good way or in a bad way if we can save it however, it's always in the direction of the end of correction.

11. S. (36:16) When is it hard to listen to the lesson, is it because I can’t incorporate with my friends, maybe a new gap reveals among us?

R. It is a well-known phenomena and it happens to everyone, it depends only on the importance and the importance we also get that from the society because I don't have importance for spirituality. The one that we are talking about. Such spirituality you see the world is not chasing after it, let me see the angels in the heavens, let me see the upper world, the forces so that I can manage them, yes, some mysticism. But the spirituality that we are talking about nobody is chasing, You see how many people do we have, how many come in later even leave, because they see that this is not what they were thinking about spirituality. In the first few lessons on campus or someplace they get very excited and later on that's it, excitement goes away and now you have to start working again against my nature. This really nobody wants that, so here immediately there is the need for support from the society, from the environment that even though we don't want it we don't need it, however we do it. Everything depends on the society. So to the extent that you are becoming accustomed again and again to come back to the society and to incorporate in it, that each one will guard the other but rather all of us together will advance, in such a way you will advance for sure. If you don't guard each other but rather you allow the friend to fall, that is the problem because the next day it will happen to each one of you.

12. S. (39:10) How to feel the importance and appreciation to the group if each day the ego grows more and more what I feel is even greater repulsion?

R. You cannot reach the revelation of spirituality and all the more so the end of correction unless your ego will grow as now the ego is on the level of animate not Adam. When now in the group the ego begins to be revealed on the level of the speaking then you feel, I don't want to connect to the friends. I don't want to go together with them, to come to them, it's not important for me, I'm tired of it. That is desires are revealed that are specifically those desires that once connected together, and through the shattering they became inverted from attraction, disconnection to rejection and we have to work against it, how? We have to try to connect. Of course we're not capable of that but we need to feel sorry that we cannot connect, we want to but we can't and then we ask of the Creator that He will do it. The Creator then connects us between us and in that connection between us above the rejection which he has caused that rejection and above that when he performs the connection, in this all together in this whole desire which is composed of a desire to reject everyone and then a desire to connect with everyone in the ten between this plus and minus, we begin to feel the light, this is how it works and this is how we need to work. Therefore, one who is greater than his friend is inclination is greater, that when we will have a great desire between disconnection and connection more and these are actually the degrees of the intensity, the power of the vessel.

13. S. (42:55) After the incorporation, what happens with my point of view, my own point of view what happens with it?

R. This point of view already starts to grow out of the incorporation.

14. S. (43:32) I appreciate the friend, when I value him and what do I value exactly his yearning for in spirituality or the fact that the Creator has behind him?

R. This is something that you have to scrutinize. we appreciate we value the friends since by connecting with him, we attain a vessel, a connection between us which is above the rejection between us. The more we will grow and hopefully we will grow from one day to the next, we will have greater rejection between us from one day to the next. It will be more difficult to connect between us from one day to the next and then when we nevertheless do reach connection above the rejection that increases from one day to the next by that we achieve a force which connects us because we are unable to connect and then the Creator begins to be revealed and this is how we attain him. So the attainment of the Creator is only through the connection, between incorporation between us and the incorporation becomes more difficult from one day to the next, however more powerful. Also it is the foundation for the revelation of the Creator we need to perform a few such actions and then the Creator will be revealed in those incorporations between us.

15. S. (45:54) What does it mean that I can awaken the friends when they agree to it? Don't we always give an example don't we try?

R. I'm not sure what you're saying I said what I said I don't want to change anything from what I said.

16. S. (36:28: Is an emotional change, is that in the direction of greater power, intensity is that a part of what we have to go through?

R. Of course.

17. S. (47:01) We hear from you many times that we have to incorporate in the questions of the friends and your answers to them, how can we carry out such incorporation?

R. Are you not incorporated now when you hear the questions and you hear my answers, we are all now incorporated in one another?

S. Well, sometimes I might have an attitude of criticism to the question, maybe it's a philosophical question or childish, sometimes we also don't relate to the question, I don't care what the friend is asking?

R. All those states we have to go through and eventually arrange ourselves for connection all the way to incorporation, at the end of the day maybe it's not important for me what the friend is asking. Maybe I don't understand his question very well, but it's giving me the possibility of incorporating with him. To incorporate is not an intellectual thing that I understand the question, rather I tried to be impressed by his inclination towards correction in connection and revelation of the Creator. This is incorporation, it's not about understanding him or not understanding. Even if we would speak different languages it's not important to me. The same goal we all imagine, we all yearn for the same goal, we all wish to annul and it works out that I'm drawn together with the friends who are speaking different languages. So what? It doesn't mean that we need to understand one another, we have a common foundation, we have our articles, we have everything and sometimes when you speak with people in the same language it does not mean that you are together, no, you see that they don't understand, you they don't hear what you're saying. So just keep going.

18. S. (49:40) How can I help the friend constantly remain aware that there is none else besides Him when he sees that the friends are working in some negative manner, how can we understand that we should correct the friends but unite above it and strengthen more unity and love between us. Because this friend is not listening to us, he is in a situation where he cannot hear it?

R. You have to try and nevertheless to influence by the entire group if not from one friend, from another maybe a third friend, if not today then tomorrow but eventually he will listen, he will because “even the castaway shall not be cast away from him” and everything will return to its root. If we invest in him and even if he leaves afterwards and there are many who leave the groups and go back to their normal, earthly lives but nevertheless what they have gone through they carry our load and are charged and it will eventually be revealed, “send your bread across the waters” the saying goes.

19. S. (51:05) If I understood correctly to incorporate, as you said yesterday means to look at the images of the friends, the qualities of the friends, that the good qualities and see them as great and out of that perception of reality to see how small I am. When I incorporate, I express myself towards the friends and I can incorporate in the ten in the connection with them?

R. Yes and no, even those friends are new say arrived only today and someone new was coming to our group, a newcomer meaning he didn't really study that much before but he shows up and he wants to be together with us. We should try and connect with them because we connect not to someone's knowledge, someone's intellect, their mind or their spiritual experience even. On that, it's written it's not the wise who learns, rather we connect to his tendency for correction even when he does not understand what is quite this correction all about. We wish to accept any new desires welcome in the 10, if there's room among the ten then surely it's good to have him.

20. S. (53:19) What is the difference between incorporation with specific friends from the 10 versus incorporation with the entire ten?

R. No, we need to be connected and incorporated in a way that in the entire 10, not part of the ten, it's not good. Maybe it's still under scrutiny for the time being but in principle, because look at a 10 is the complete vessel and cannot have an incomplete Kli. There is no part in spirituality, there is nothing partial in spirituality, it has to be complete and if you say this part of the ten is not good then you are not okay, you have to correct yourself. If people wish to be in a 10 and they don't noticeably disturb and interrupt then you have to accept them as friends and incorporate in the common desire of the ten. It's not good to divide 10 into such parts and other parts, no.

21. S. (55:01) If there are all kinds of problems in the 10, sickness, problems at work, if I ask for the solution for each one of these should I ask for a solution for all of these or is the prayer for connection includes everything and is sufficient?

R. The prayer for the connection between us to be worthy of the clothing of the Creator between us in order to give Him contentment. This is the prayer that will heal everything.

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22. R. If we would look at everything the Creator created as Baal HaSulam writes, if we look at everything you've done you can't remove anything or add anything, everything is present beautifully just as it's needed for the correction of the complete vessel. Hence envy, lust and honor, hate, rejection separation, everything that we see, it appears to contradict sanctity it's incorrect because we are in our egoistic desire so there can't be in our egoistic desire, there can't be anything if not egoistic forces, and through the correct composition the correct connection, correct incorporation with all the forces. There is not a single good force between us but in incorporation between us can we come to a new spiritual state between us that did not exist before and only in this way can we come to this moment where from all of the bad thing we make the web of good things, this is the BoReh, come and see. How do we specifically do this from the negative forces, the horrors that we are incorporated in and we have as much as we connect simply between them, we see that the darkness will shine as light that we can see such conditions, powerful conditions emerge where the light can be revealed 620 times more and the Creator is revealed in ways he cannot reveal himself elsewhere. Only when we connect horrific things out of waste, out of the worst possible states, we simply connect them, connect them together properly. Why is it called Adam because he comes from Adamah from the ground, from the soil and he becomes similar to the Creator, Domeh, he moves from two extremes from opposition to complete perfect, a resemblance to the Creator. It all comes from being in the system and we remain in the negative forces. Baal HaSulam writes, our ego is standing there, is present in the foundation of the system without which the system does not exist. However upon those forces that are revealed they are all negative and evil, we form connections on them and we create a good system. Look how special our work is, from this garbage, from the evil from everything the Creator did and he only created bad things, I have created the evil inclination through our work we arrange in forming those connections between the egos, one ego to another. When we try to assemble between them the intentions of mutual help and the right incorporation, we come to the complete system, the whole system, it's a miracle. Then there's room here for man's nature for the connection between us, communication we build from ourselves from our opposite shape and form, from all this waste, from the worst possible things we make of ourselves a place for the Creator to fill. Specifically in the place that we create he is revealed 620 times more than he would be able to without us, this is the power, the level of intensity of our vessel and it is only because we came to this correction through incorporation.

23. S. (01:04:12) How can we develop envy in the friends we have admiration, appreciation, how to specifically develop envy?

R. You have to develop it between you, also in the society at large, I have to awaken others, let’s say I'm saying something to one friend about another friend, look out he is doing it, how he knows, he understands, he feels, how he's attracted to it, he's organized. We have to awaken those things counters envy those who count those who know how to count states the degrees counters envy will increase wisdom, will invite the Light of Hochma, This is the revelation of the Creator every condition we create from within ourselves, this is Hassadim, comes to a certain degree between them the light of Hochma is revealed.

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24. R. Meaning gradually I am finding out that I have no other means by which to attain spirituality, attain the Creator, reach the end of correction. I have nothing. I am only a piece of the will to receive and there is a spark in it that there is attracted to something I don't even know what because a spark can't give me anything, barely no direction, barely a sense of attraction, Now it produces a form which I can yearn to. Who am I? A chunk of darkness with a spark inside of it. So how can I reach spirituality, the way I read about it, hear about it, how to come to it? I have no spiritual qualities, bestowal, love, encouragement. The more I understand myself especially in these times, the times of the last generation everyone is an egoist, no one is ashamed by thinking only of himself and not of others, what do we do there? Here we need to understand that we don't need to regret the fact that we lack any spiritual qualities and no one, none of us has it, no one in this world has any spiritual qualities with which to attain spiritually, to feel it, attain the Creator, no one has it. Don't look at that as no one has it. Rather we receive everything from above and from above only through the ten. If I get it from above, from the light of the Creator that shines in my friends and I am drawn to connecting with my friends then I receive from them qualities meaning Sefirot, parts of my soul. Hence the qualities with which I come to correction is something I can get only through my incorporation in the group. The fact that I don't have them from the outset I don't regret it, I used to feel sorry about it but I understood that no one has it, no one has those qualities rather everyone will have to incorporate with the other and from the others to acquire these qualities.

25. S. (01:12:42) What you told us touch me greatly so I'd like to ask why did the Creator make it so necessary for us to incorporate that I truly have to annul of my qualities, my whole nature and it is as if I have to get into through the tip of the needle. I'm talking about how difficult it is, why did the Creator make it so?

R. What would you have recommended him to do? Tell me what would you have liked it to be?

S. No, I just want to understand why was I made, why was I created in such a way that to shift into spirituality I have to completely annul myself, why did he create it in such a way?

R. Because you can attain the qualities of the Creator only in relation to the opposite form from him, you are the created being, you cannot feel any single phenomenon rather you have to feel from it’s opposite as the light excels from darkness. You have to attain the darkness and from the darkness you begin to attain the light from repulsion, connection from hate, love and you always have to be included, incorporated in these two qualities and the more you discover one quality, the more you discover something in the second opposite quality. That is the law, it's the law of the existence of reality if you have a different patent please make recommendations to the Creator. You can't have it any other way, if you are a created being, a creature who exists outside of the Creator then you have to be opposite to the Creator. On the other hand the Creator wants you to reach a state like Him so he gives you the opportunity from the state that's opposite to him, that you exist as a creature opposite to Him, for you to reach equivalence of form with Him. Not that your will to receive disappears rather on top of the will to receive you are acquiring a form of bestowal, the desire to bestow we call it this way but it's not a desire it's called a form of bestowal or the form of reception clothes on the will of reception. We have the will to receive inside and on top of it above it we acquire clothing called restriction, screen, reflected light, Tzimtzum, Masach, Ohr Hozer, then this clothing is called a desire to bestow but it's not a desire, it's a inclination a tendency a disposition the will to receive wears upon itself as if a desire to bestowal. It's not a desire to bestow, the will to bestow is the Creator, we are only the will to receive and over it we can clothe the form of bestowal by restricting it, we don't use it and by using the screen, the reflected light we clothe ourselves with the form of bestowal against our desire and that we resemble the Creator. Think about it this is the entire wisdom of Kabbalah.

S. I don’t have to annul anything from myself other than to the opposite. The more forces of rejection I reveal, I should be happy with it? 

R. Of course. He who is greater than his friend, his inclination is greater than his friend. Of course your happy we get additional will to receive and I come to the group and I see just how much I reject him I repel them I don't have any connection with them I'm happy about it because a new will to receive appeared in me, a new layer of the desire from the shattering and now I can correct it. Now the size of my will to receive I can incorporate in them even more that's how it is, nothing creation was created for nothing and nothing is redundant that we have to get rid of it, no, it's not the correct way of thinking about it, it's not the wisdom of Kabbalah.

26. S. (01:18:42) ....

R. It says that the friends’ corporeality is my spirituality, if I wish to connect to him, with him it is enough for me to start connecting with his physical, corporeal qualities that I now discovered and by that I am already starting to come out of myself.

S. My yearning to incorporate in them, this is what enables the correction?

R. Yes.

27. S. (01:19:56) When I see the friends in the 10 investing forces in order to incorporate, how from my ego, out of my ego, can I strengthen them in that?

R. Try to do what they are doing like a baby who learns from the grown-ups he wants to do what they're doing even when he doesn't quite understand what is going on. He observes them and he follows in their footsteps like a child of a father who picks up the hammer and the child wants to do the same thing. Our smallness, Katnut, that we go through, the infancy we go through for years is in order to resemble the grown-ups. We have games and toys as if we have a train, a plane, a car and girls have the dolls and all of those things, our toys help us to play as if we are adults, grown-ups. This is how we have to be in the group as if we are grown-ups.

28. S. (01:21:23) What shapes this clothing or is the clothing designed all ready to begin with?

R. The clothing, the garment that we are wearing on ourselves is the same garment in which we are going to receive the revelation of the Creator to the created beings.

S. Is it made and designed in advance or do we design it?

R. We need to design it, establish it and arrange it and then ask for it, as it is created from above, everything comes from above for certain, which is preceded by our effort and a prayer on our part.

29. S. (01:22:25) What causes all the disturbances and rejections to go away?

R. They don't disappear, they remain on the foundation, the heart of the Partzuf. You will see it, it has to be this way. 

30. S. (01:22:58) Hitkalelut is a physical action that leads us to spirituality, by doing something physical we become spiritual?

R. You can say it like this incorporation is a physical act, seemingly, like we have in physics where one is incorporated in the other and you have nothing left, not the Creator by himself or the creature or the friends, each one separate from the other but that would become one system. What is important for us in this one system is the outcome and not to yearn for the previous dates before the incorporation, there is nothing good about them.

S. There's nothing good about what?

R. If you want to ask something ask fully

S. Still, vegetative and animate do it unconsciously when we do it, we still don't know what we're reaching for but if we do the action, we will arrive like children?

R. Let’s do it and you’ll see it from the action. 

31. S. (01:24:57) I want to ask does the ego intensify or grow should we annul it rather place a Masach, screen. above it or the forces of bestowal. How can we cope with this intensification of the ego. It’s like fire that's threatening to destroy, in corporeal life you get stronger disturbances?

R Only through the group we receive help from above this is the only way to answer it

S. (01:25:50) The force that connects between us that does not exist in any one of us is this a force that's deep inside of us that kindles a state of connection between us?

R.  It is all new.

32. (01:26:19) When we try to incorporate and bring the friends in so they stand in my heart, why do they feel like they're dead images inside of my heart?

R. Because that's how it appears to you so you truly enlivening them.

S. Like what?

R. You are giving life to them, you awaken them, you feel responsible for them. 

33. S. (01:27:00) You are saying that the ego grows more and more each day and I have to see the friends as greater. So this effort, exertion to see the friends as greater even though my ego is growing. Is that how I build my spiritual vessel?

R. No, the growing ego helps you to grow up and see the friends as greater.

34. S. (01:27:35) If the Creator wants us to achieve equivalence of form with them why did he make us the opposite of him?

R. So we could exist because before that there was only the Creator, without any creatures, after creating creatures, it came in his will to create the created beings, created the creatures opposite because the creatures can’t be in the same quality as the Creator, it has to be someone outside of Him.  So he created them in the will to receive which is opposite to the will to bestow and front he will to receive we need to come to the same form as the Creator the will to bestow.

35. S. (01:28:43) The formula for bestowal is it in addition to the will to receive? How is this expressed in the 10?

R. Ultimately it has to be the will to receive on the intent to bestow.

36. S. (01:29:10) What is this feeling in between the extreme states of love and hatred, envy and annulment, can you give us an example?

R. Ultimately, this brings us the sensation of the status between the Creator and the creature. We have to make an effort to be in these two forms as much as possible, one against the other.

37. S. (01:29:52) You said that we do a restriction upon desire to receive and the reflected light

R.  Incorporation. incorporation, connection. Because nothing disappears. The desires, the foundation, the basis of all of creation, various desires they cannot change, exchange, they can only incorporate within the mutual work but by the light that illuminates upon them and connects them into a mutual common action but no desire of itself will change. It’s like the creature, that’s how he is, that’s how he remains. He can only work through incorporation with his other desires and that's it. That is our work, to put them into such forms of incorporation that we received from them various desires that, we will learn this later as Sefirot. We’ll see what that is, how it occurs. It’s all by the upper light, of course, that forms in us, stabilizes in us, but ultimately the desires remain and they remain as they are.

S. What does that mean, that we have a 10 now and between us we can concede our will to receive and do a restriction, a Masach, a screen, and reflected light?

R. We invite the light that reforms and it makes the action between us. It makes the actions, not that we do. 

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38. S. (1:34:50) From the moment you become a Kabbalist, do you always know how to ask so that the Creator will give you forces?

R. No. You never know. Do you have to scrutinize. I’m always in doubt. I am in a state that is unknown and that's how we always advance. Each who is greater than his friend, his inclination is greater and the doubts are greater and the path is more dangerous, more confused, lack of desire. That's how it is. Because we are working against our will to receive. So why are you so worried? The opposite, you have a method and you need only to go according to the method. Each time, to see before you, your enemy, you're the one you hate, the will to receive who is confusing you with all kinds of desires and thoughts and wants to take you off the path and you need to go against it.

S. Yes, but it's so hard to awaken the Creator each time?

R. No, it's not difficult to do if you are with the 10 together. To the extent that you can, the Creator will give you conditions with which you can connect and through these conditions, you connect with the ten, and from within them you turn to the Creator. It's not hard at all. The main thing is that you must organize this appeal. That’s it. Nothing besides this and it's possible to do in a very hasty manner.

39. S. (01:37:29) What does it mean that each is satisfied with his friend?

R. Yes, that each one makes the effort to help his friend. That’s what he writes.

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40. R. Okay, these things are pretty clear, we spoke about this. If we want to connect as one man and one heart, and we must in order for the Creator to be revealed in us. Then we need to reach a state that each one worries not for what he has, himself, because one can not help himself, rather he has to worry for the friends have, and this he finds there, specifically, that’s where he is, that our spiritual vessel is in the others outside of me and I am only as the Malchut that must restrict itself.

41. S. (01:41:37) I wanted to ask, between the meetings of the 10 and the times that are between them, how can I continue this work of incorporation with a friend, how do I extend this work in order to become more ready for the next 10?

R. You can talk about it. This is actually your best topic. Discuss it in the meeting of friends, even between the groups. Scrutinize these things because there is no more into our important topic than the incorporation between us. For this we build the foundation of the revelation of the Creator, so even more so, more and more. As much as possible, we discuss and invite the light that reforms, it works upon us, and gradually we begin to be more and more understanding and feeling. This thing comes to us, and is reaching us, and it’s becoming closer to us, and this how we will advance. We have ascents and descents, and each day begins in a new desire from a new darkness, this begins from night, and we need to get used to all these states and not relinquish, rather go according to how Kabbalists tell us . . .you know, it’s that “a wicked sits, hugging his arms and eating himself.” So don’t do that. Go for it, and to go is to somehow incorporate in the society. And if you're incapable, ask. And if you’re incapable, then at least ask that the friends will do the work upon you, and you in the meantime will be in a state of a dead body. And that too is a type of work that everyone has to go through, a bit. There are such souls, very high souls, with a great big will to receive that at the end of a correction, they will have a unique big work. But in the time when they're entering spiritual work, they have a difficult entrance because their will to receive is not simple, it's very much opposing, very much opposing.

42. S. (01:44:42) Can you tell us please what it means to be the good part of society?

R. What does it mean to be the good part of the friends? This that I caused with all my force for the friends to be connected with all the other friends and the Creator. I don't think about myself at all. Specifically, look at how much this makes work easier for us. I don't need to connect with other, I don’t need to connect with the Creator. I need to worry that they will be connected and that they will be connected with the Creator. So here, we have some breakthrough where I do not need to attack my ego from the front rather through the society. It's much easier and beneficial.

43. S. (01:45:54) If in the action of the prayer of every mouth brings to unity and arvut between us, does that prayer cause that? What is the prayer of every mouth? This is also a question we had in the ten whether every mouth is my personal me or is it all of us together? 

R. I don't know. I don't see that he uses these words. That belongs more to Chassidus. Kabbalists don’t use that term so much.  

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44. S.  (01:46:42) I don't need to allow a friend to fall, and this friend happens to be responsible right now is Gabai on duty, how can I scrutinize his state?

R. Then you need to tell him in something that you're incorrect, if he doesn't accept it then he doesn't accept it. The day goes by and we continue with a new Gabai. In any case, everyday you're making a new Gabai, right? So tomorrow will be different. Because now, you too, need to see what the friends is doing that you don’t agree with him. To see and recognize he’s not on the path, then we try to strengthen him. He’s a friend in the group, right? 

45. S. (01:47:51) Do we build this common prayer in the workshop?

R. Yes.

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46. S. (01:50:46) What does it mean that I don't need to talk bad about the friends but rather I need to be the positive part that connects the friends, what happens if I talk bad of the friends?

R. You are going against the program of creation because what you're saying bad about the friends then you are saying it from your egoistic desire and in this you are discovering how much your ego controls you. What good comes of it, as it is against the general correction. It is forbidden to do.  All this criticism can be very correctly organized because this you are revealing the ego, who needs to know your ego? What is new here and who needs to know this? That you're bad, we all know this. That you have criticism on everyone? That is also clear. This that you hate and you are repulsed by everyone is also clear. We need to show everyone how as if despite that you are yearning for connection, as if you love them, as if your doing something and then that all of these things you are seemingly showing this to everyone and this gives others the push forward either from the force of envy, that you see how much your friend is succeeding and I am not or the force of connection. It is forbidden for us to reveal negative qualities and all sorts of forms and relations, negative ones before everyone openly. Only the opposite. I understand that you're asking isn’t this right, am I being hypocritical, it's true everyone knows it is hypocritical and it is not true because we are all like this. On the other hand in order to advance this is how we must advance, give me some other advice please about something logical, something from within our nature.

47. S. (01:53:51) After every lesson we build one prayer. Is it possible at this stage of advancement to connect around one request of one friend and you think that's the prayer of the entire 10?

R. If you are agreeing that this is how it must be, then do it like that.

48. S. (01:54:25) What specifically in our work can save us time in organizing our corrected demand to the Creator?

R. Give an example to one another and then it is possible there will be annoying to me, if they can be a good example and I myself don't want to do that but eventually I see that others are trying and I also will do this. Out of envy, out of respect and honor even the ego will support it.

49. S. (01:55:24) It says we must speak in plural form, we also studied there is no “I” in spiritual. Where is the work of the “I” in the process of inclusion?

R. To make everyone into one topic, one concept and we all pray from “WE” that's how all of our prayers are, all rise from the 10 in such a way. Our father, our King, we, it is not ever in any prayer that there is such a thing where a person raises himself to the Creator because it won't benefit anything as it won't happen, it won't take place. Only under the condition that he comes to a request for the society and he also is incorporated in the society. Only in such a way.

S. Should we remind each other that we shouldn't be speaking at “I” love the friends, I want this or that?

R. Yes, I think this is widespread, a known thing that a person doesn't pray for himself, he doesn't come to a house of prayer where there are people, naturally people understand that it is better and easier and more beneficial to raise a request to the Creator out of a place of connection between us.

50. S. (01:57:45) Love and mingling is it the same, how to come to love here?

R. Connection is connection and Love Is Love, connection is incorporation as much as we want along the way to incorporate and build our common Kli vessel and love is already a much higher degree which came to us from above if we can even say something about it, but it will come in the same direction.

51. S. (01:58:45) Our main hardship is incorporation because from there comes the entire character of the will to receive. Do we need to focus our prayers only towards incorporation and not spread out into other prayers?

R. Yes, our main prayer is to be as one man and one heart and from that one heart to direct towards the Creator making that one heart between us and clothe it, to fill it. That is our whole correction. It goes in this way of advancements, you don't understand how much we are already inside this and how slowly this is taking place and soon we will start to see what we have done. It is always that way and there is also a matter of Ibur, Yenika and Mochin, conception, suckling and mindfulness, it will be much more like this and you will see soon that a new state will be born.

52. S. (02:00:15) The word prayer which comes from the Lehitpalel which means to judge oneself, and then there is a friend who sits eating his own flesh, how to be not such a fool?

R. One who prays and thinks for himself is called a fool or someone who is sitting there, folding his arms over he doesn't want to hug others he is embracing himself so he is the one who eats his own flesh and if he opens his arms and hugs the others then he is no longer in his own embrace, and not eating his own flesh but rather praise for the other that he is no longer a fool.

53. S. (02:01:43) How do I look for a day each day, how are we mistaken in our common work and appeal towards the Creator to be privileged to incorporate with one another?

R. I don't dig into yesterday's work because I'm no longer in that state and I don't have the same conditions and what do I need to do that for? We have before us now and ahead of me new conditions and I don't make calculations with yesterday and today I start with these things so they shall be as new before your eyes, that a new day I need to do this action, as little as possible do I think of yesterday and completely don't want to be immersed in yesterday is better. The friends are new and I am new, the group is new, everything is seemingly new and this is 

how we need to see ourselves.

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