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Daily Morning Lesson: July 11, 2026.

Part 3: Building A Spiritual Society

Reader: Hello friends. Our topic for today is, we take the Arvut seriously — the mutual guarantee. It's the name of a conversation that took place on July 4 with the Rav. We're gonna hear it now. It's a 40-minute-long talk. And then we'll talk among us. How can we take our Ten, our vessel, to the state of our Arvut, please? 

Student: (00:35) How do we develop sensitivity to the love of Arvut?

M. Laitman: That you depend on everyone. As much as you can think about the connection between the friends, and as much as you invest in it, by that you will come closer to the law of our Arvut. 

Student: (01:18) Do you feel that you're dependent on us, that you're dependent on the Ten?

M. Laitman: Always when I'm with you, I feel that I depend on you, on your attitude to me and to my place in the society, both of those things. And there isn't much to add, aside from…I don't know what else to say. I depend on everything. I'm dependent on everything in this society. Either we're talking about it seriously, or we're talking about some illusion. 

Student: (02:50) What do you do when you see that the friends are not fulfilling their responsibilities, that it seems that way to you? What do you do? On the one hand, you're dependent on them. On the other hand, they don't quite— it seems like they're drilling a hole. What do you do?

M. Laitman: I think that, on the one hand, it's good to have mutual criticism. On the other hand, it's a pity that our criticism is just enough for— that it doesn't give us opportunities to make concessions. That's it.

Student: (04:15) What does it mean to take the interdependence between us seriously? 

M. Laitman: Each one depends on the other. 

Student: And to what does it obligate me? That obligates us, each and every one, to check how and what is he dependent on the other, and how much he influences the other. 

Student: What is the percentage of my dependence on the friends? 

M. Laitman: If we're speaking of the Ten, then each one depends a hundred percent on the other.

Student: A hundred percent?

M. Laitman: A hundred percent. 

Student: (05:16) So it's natural. If I'm dependent a hundred percent on the friend, and I see the friend is not doing what we decided on together, of course I have criticism toward him, right?

M. Laitman: Of course. 

Student: If I didn't feel responsibility toward him, fine, let him do whatever he wants. The question is, how to work with this criticism? 

M. Laitman: That's a different question already. 

Student: That was a workshop question. How to work correctly with such criticism, where after I understand and feel, and everyone tells me I am a hundred percent dependent on the friends? So there are conditions that Kabbalists have established, right, in order to advance. So it turns out that I am dependent, my spiritual advancement depends one hundred percent on the friends.

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: There are conditions. And I see that they're not meeting the conditions. I don't check their intentions.

M. Laitman: Of course not.

Student: I'm talking about external things. We decided on paying Maaser, coming to the lesson, things like that. And they are not doing it. And I'm one hundred percent dependent on them. So of course I have criticism toward them. How do I work with this criticism? What do I do with it?

M. Laitman: What are they doing? 

Student: The friend, they're not doing. The question is, is it regarded as criticism? If a friend in the Ten that I'm dependent on a hundred percent does not do one of the conditions or one of the orders we decided on, that Kabbalists have established, is there room, is it legitimate to criticize him? 

M. Laitman: Yes. 

Student: Is it even regarded as criticism? When I approach a friend and tell him, you have to do this, you have to come to the lesson, I'm dependent if you're not in the lesson my spirituality is hurt. So I have to demand this of him, right? Or maybe not? Maybe I should just keep silent.

M. Laitman: No, of course that doesn't work one-sidedly.

Student: So when criticism like that awakens in me toward a friend, how do I work with it? Do I let it out? Do I vent it? To set an example and keep quiet, just showing what's the right thing to do? What is the right way? If I have some anger toward the friend, because you're hurting me, what do I do with that state?How do you work with it? 

M. Laitman: If you feel that you hurt him?

Student: On the contrary, I feel that he hurt me now. He's not sticking to the rules. I feel he's drilling a hole, not me. What do I do with this feeling? 

Student: (07:56) There are two options here. Either I say to the friend, look, we decided on— soon we'll have a lesson, we decided we come into the new lesson, because there are friends who don't come to that lesson. So one option is, as Dudi says— Dudi, according to his nature, comes and says to you, to your face, why aren't you coming to the lesson? We decided on it. Or like Shimon, who doesn't say anything, he's quiet. The question is, which is right? Maybe Dudi is more correct. Or like Shimon, to be quiet — and then he lets me do this transgression. I'm talking about things we decided on, not about intentions. The orders. How to work correctly with criticism. So I love Shimon more, because he's quiet. I don't like Dudi. He comes and tells me the truth to my face. It's uncomfortable. It's inconvenient. I don't like Dudi. 

M.Laitman: Right. 

Student: What do we do?

M. Laitman: What do you do? According to what we keep between us, according to the social law.

Student: (09:08) You personally, what would you prefer? To be told to your face, you're not behaving according to our rules, or that they'll be quiet and give you an example and don't tell you anything?

M. Laitman: No, no, just say it.

Student: If they'll say it to your face, you're wrong. Even if it causes hate and tension among the friends, it's preferable that a person is placed in his place?

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: Why? If I tell it to your face, you won't be talking to me for a week. Why do I need it?

M. Laitman: A week is nothing.

Student: A month? So I will tell you why. I say, Dudi, why We're not adding connection. We're adding separation. If I tell you now the criticism I have, maybe I don't know the whole picture. Maybe you have a good reason why you're like that, and I'm coming to you and telling you to your face, you're not behaving correctly toward the friends. We have rules in the society, so I cause separation between us and everyone. So what's the benefit in that? It's better to just keep quiet.

M. Laitman: No, don't. Don't keep quiet. I have to pay attention. And next time, I need to behave differently.

Student: When a friend comes to you and tells you something straight to your face about how you behave, that you're wrong, you have to correct your actions toward the society, how should you accept that friend?

M. Laitman: Typically, I don't respond to him. That's it. 

Student: You listen, and you try to implement.

M. Laitman: I listen, I hear, and I keep quiet, and I wait for this to pass.

Student: (11:10) can I accept it as the Creator speaking to me through this friend?

M. Laitman: Yes, certainly this is the question. I accept it as coming from the Creator. I begin to relate to this according to what I just heard, as if I heard it from the Creator, or do I take it normally, like with any other person? 

Student: I have a solution. You tell me if it's correct or not. The solution is, there's no such thing as me coming and directly telling a friend. We, as a Ten, spoke, and the Ten says to the friend, look, you have to change your behavior, and then it'll be easier for the friend to accept it, because it's from the Ten. And also, maybe I'm wrong. From where do I have this audacity to come directly and tell my friend that he's wrong? So first of all, it's coming from the Ten. That's already better. Those two things. One, if you're coming directly, you decided, and come with love, find a way. Two, come from the Ten. How do you feel the love in our Ten?

M. Laitman: I feel like there's a willingness for it, but not in practice, still not in actuality.

Student: What’s missing for it to be in actuality?

M. Laitman: This kind of resolution, as we're discussing now. And then we'll grow. 

Student: Basically, it's the Creator's work. That's what's missing?

M. Laitman: Why the Creator doing? 

Student: Well, the Creator does the Arvut. We're only doing the preparation. If we want Arvut in practice, then the Creator has to be the guarantor there, involved. Otherwise, we ourselves cannot.  So maybe that's what we are missing, to ask the Creator to be our guarantor.

M. Laitman: Yes.

Student: So, friends, now we want to scrutinize that talk in the Tens, between us and within ourselves as well. So let's begin with reading two excerpts and do a silent workshop on each of these excerpts, and then share with the friends in the Ten. Let's read excerpt number one.

Question. How to develop sensitivity to the law of Arvut? 

Rav. That you are dependent on everyone. The more you think about connection among the friends and the more you invest in this, the closer you will be to the law of Arvut.  Again, let's read it and think about it in a silent workshop.

Question: How to develop sensitivity to the law of Arvut? 

Rav. That you are dependent on everyone. The more you think about the connection between the friends and the more you invest in this, the closer you will be to the law of Arvut.

Question: Question number two. What does the law of Arvut force me to do? Question number two. What does the law of Arvut force me to do?

Rav. It obligates each of us to check in what he is dependent on the other and to what extent he is influencing the other.