There was a shocking case of a 20-year-old calling the police multiple times in severe mental distress. Eventually, the officer on duty who took her calls lost patience: "Enough, already! You're driving us all crazy. You can go and kill yourself for all we care." A few weeks went by and she committed suicide. The officer who took her calls felt deeply ashamed. Each of us seemingly has a certain limit before we totally lose it and no longer are in control of our actions. Why are we made that way? We are made with a certain limit beyond which we lose control in order for us to be able to eventually change our nature from the desire to receive to the desire to bestow. When we relate to others out of an attitude of bestowal, where we purely wish to benefit them without any self-interest intertwined, then we understand them and their pains. Then, instead of losing our patience with them, we instead discover opportunities to help, support and praise them. We should thus focus on increasing our sensitivity to each other, which is achieved first and foremost by listening to explanations of how interconnected and interdependent we are. By increasing our inclination to positively connect throughout human society, then we attract upon ourselves the positive force of connection that dwells in nature, and by doing so, we eventually start feeling that we live in a single system. Such is the shift from the corporeal animate level of existence that we are currently on, to an awakening into a whole new human level of existence, where we feel ourselves as parts of a single whole. In such a state, we would feel close to each other, and would have no sensation of others stressing us out or pushing us out of balance. Instead, we would seek opportunities to help, support and encourage others. We would then view people who approach us with requests as doing us major favors. It would no longer be difficult for us to connect with others, feel them, and serve them. The more people would call us and nag us, then the more we would feel that such people help us rise from the animate level of existence to the human level, and we would thus realize the purpose of our lives through such an attitude and such relations.

A student at a school approached his teacher, because he saw a girl who had come to school in a torn coat. Since it was winter and her coat was inadequate to stand up against the cold weather, the student suggested a trade setup where anyone could give whatever they wanted with the aim of making sure that every kid in school would have an umbrella, boots and a coat for winter. The teacher was very moved, shared the idea with the parents, and it was set up in two hours. A question that arises from this heartwarming situation is why are we all not as sensitive as that child? Obviously, we would find ourselves in a much more positive reality if we were. We adults are bigger egoists and are much more inclined to pay attention only to what is ours. We have been created in such a way where we feel increasing detachment from each other in order for us to develop a sincere prayer for help: to have our hearts opened so that we can feel others similarly to how we feel ourselves. By reaching such an inversion of how we feel reality, then we would feel connected, close and understanding of each other. We would then all feel like one body. We would have no holes in our coats, and would feel ourselves as parts of the upper world—of love, bestowal and connection.

Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi discuss the possibility of people losing their data privacy. The following is a loose transcript of the talk… Oren Levi: A few days ago, we celebrated Data Privacy Day. In relation to privacy, we found recently how even the Israeli police spied on several of its citizens using Pegasus spyware, made by the Israeli technology company NSO Group. It seems as if the more advanced technology becomes, the less privacy individuals possess. There is nowhere to hide. We become exposed, as if naked, in front of everyone. What will protect us in such a state? Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman: The protection will be that everyone will lack security, and when everyone is open toward one another, we will feel no shame, we will each have nothing to protect, and that will bring calm to everyone. Oren Levi: Where is the insurance that will give us 100% protection? Dr. Laitman: Call upstairs. Connect with the upper force, the good and benevolent force. The only means to be under His protection is through reaching equivalence of form, and performing the same actions as He does. Acts of bestowal and love are opposite to our nature, since we are incapable of feeling them. Someone on the same frequency as this force of nature will feel safe, protected, and peaceful. The only payment required is your loyalty.

Orphic, a 14-year-old girl who has experienced violence, and who has been shunned and excluded at school for several years, is now standing at the head of a boycott patrol. Their mission is to support and strengthen children harmed by social exclusion by making them feel that they are not alone and have a rightful place in society. With such efforts, it is important to understand that the strongest weapon and the greatest force against hatred is love. Love will always win. We thus need to promote a society that can provide support to everyone, children as well as adults. The heroic action of the head of such a patrol is to become a notable example of how society should be—loving, supportive, and encouraging—and symbolize what we should all aspire toward, i.e. a state where no one feels alone or marginalized.

Being equal to others is generally not enough for us; rather, we want to stand out, to be unique and different in some way. If not, if we compare ourselves to others and measure our worth as “less than” or “not enough,” we feel great suffering. We measure ourselves through the eyes of others. We need to look for how we can give our unique gifts to others. If we help and love those around us, no one will stand in our way. There is room for everyone. Even a small contribution is important since it joins with others’ contributions to create success for the whole. The most successful people are those who properly arrange their mutual connection with others. If we pay attention to where our gifts can match others’ lacks, there is no doubt that our lives will be lifted by the appreciation of others for the positive effect we have on our environment. By recognizing each one’s specific offering, we become equal partners in attaining the goal, and by our mutual help we will reach the top.

Thai Amal, a young, anonymous lady who participated in a singing reality contest, gained fame and success overnight. However, after experiencing losing thereafter, she disappeared from the public eye, and it was recently heard that she had committed suicide. A lot of people dream of becoming famous and gaining attention. When little children receive attention from many people, it fulfills them and they become willing to do anything in order gain people’s attention and respect. Afterward, if they are simply forgotten, there arises a feeling that they have become totally disregarded and disposed of. Today, many parents dream about their child becoming a star, and it does not matter to them in what category that is achieved. This aspiration, however, is foolish because it could lead the child to future misery. As parents, we should direct children toward realizing that wealth is being happy with what we have. We simply need to add within us what we already have, i.e. to acquire the self-realization that we only need to attain the sensation of the force of love and bestowal toward everyone, i.e. the force of nature or the Creator. When we achieve balance with that force, then we will experience completeness and harmony.

How can we see the glass half full? Positive psychology is a rapidly-growing field in recent years, and it teaches us that if we think a bit more positively, our life will get much better. There is even a study showing that pessimistic people are at a higher risk of heart disease and thus also early death. Of course, there are also opposite studies showing that pessimists are more careful, which protects them. The following is a transcript from the video: Question: My question is personal. By nature, I'm a very pessimistic person. Not that I'm down all day long but because by character, even in my profession, I'm a system analyst. If you show me something, I'll show you where the problem is. That's how my brain works. I look for problems, even if they don't exist. Now, a pessimistic person like me, can he change and become optimistic? Answer from Dr Laitman: People say that these things aren't far from each other, precisely because you can see the harm in everything.Then precisely, at the same speed and efficiency you can justify each and every system and actually see the good things in it? Question: There is a colleague of mine who is always optimistic, always smiling, working on a project, the project is dead but he's smiling - everything's gonna be fine! He sees everything white; I see everything black. Why was I given the opposite nature? I want some of that white. How do I activate that or is it impossible? I'm asking, seriously. Answer: You can't unless you rise above your current degree, in order to bestow. Question: By nature, are you a pessimist or an optimist? Answer: I'm a pessimist. I see that it's going around. Question: That's how you're born. The truth is that when I listen to your words, you see beautiful visions. Not only do you want to see them this way, but seemingly always do. When you look in the long run, you say that people will be corrected, that they will “love one another as yourself”, and will be in this action of giving and bestowal, that all is one, and united. You're the most optimistic person I know. Undoubtedly, so how do you combine the two? Answer: That's how I'm built. By nature, I'm very pessimistic. I have a very big will to receive. On the other hand, I have to correct myself and to constantly elevate myself to an optimistic degree and to the desire to bestow, and to depict the world as entirely good and under the complete control of the Creator. Question: Is the Creator a pessimist or an optimist? Answer: The Creator doesn't have something like that. He's the good and benevolent force. Question: How can I bring this force into my life? Answer: Try to focus your heart on it and you will see how you enter a world that is entirely good. Question: So, would I have to practice on being good and benevolent, regardless of the bad pictures that I see? And to whom? Answer: Yes, practice it and towards everyone. It's only what you see, all the flaws that you see are your own. Question: When will I see feedback? Answer: Immediately. Try. It's not some kind of game. It's really a comprehensive rule. Question: When you say comprehensive rule, is that like your life's mission? Answer: Correct, if this is how you'll relate to life, you'll see that that's how it really is.