The human ego destroys relationships because it gives a person a constant desire to receive and take advantage of others. We need to learn to use the ego correctly so that we can communicate effectively and actually serve others. Love is a desire to fulfill others and treat everyone like family. The wisdom of Kabbalah shows us how to reach this opposite reality, the upper world that operates in bestowal. A person who rises above the ego and constantly increases love over hate feels a new, positive force of closeness to others.